I really dislike my wife and my marriage.

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Anonymous wrote:Jesus Christ...does anyone in this town have a happy marriage?

I'm engaged. This page tells me we are eventually going to be unhappy and hate each other. My husband will cheat on me, I will be blamed for not putting out enough and spending too much time on our kids, and then, for financial reasons, we will stay together, in misery, for the rest of our lives, wishing we never met each other.

Yay.

I have tears from laughing so hard at the first page of this thread! I love you DC Bitches!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm happily married, more than 10 years, two kids.

Love my husband, respect him, like him, we laugh every day, have sex a couple times a week, bicker sometimes, discuss current events, roll our eyes at each other's quirks, stick up for each other, shore each other up, leave each other alone when needed be.

When you find the right person, it's actually pretty easy.

I would say the number one tip is that you both want to be married, like married life and are family-oriented people.

GL soon to be married poster. I can truly say my husband is the best thing that ever happened to me.

Sometimes the right person changes, and it's no one's fault. My husband and I used to be equally social; now he's becoming much more introverted as he approaches 50. He has some minor illnesses and a lot of weight he didn't have 20 years ago. I have been very lucky in that I've gained a bit of weight but am very physically active, and no illnesses. Over time, those temperamental differences can drive wedges between partners.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm happily married, more than 10 years, two kids.

Love my husband, respect him, like him, we laugh every day, have sex a couple times a week, bicker sometimes, discuss current events, roll our eyes at each other's quirks, stick up for each other, shore each other up, leave each other alone when needed be.

When you find the right person, it's actually pretty easy.

I would say the number one tip is that you both want to be married, like married life and are family-oriented people.

GL soon to be married poster. I can truly say my husband is the best thing that ever happened to me.

I couldn't agree with your statement about it being easy when you meet the right person more. Too many people expect hard, bitter times to be a normal part of marriage but I have not actually had that experience. Arguments, yes. Couple of screaming matches, yes =D. But long drawn out horribleness that makes you feel like marriage is just work? Nope.

would you say your expectations for your spouse are low or high? I have some girlfriends who are pretty happy in their marriages, but then again they expect very little from their husbands.

[Anonymous]

The secret to a long and happy marriage - expect less and accept even less than that.... Words of wisdom from my dad at age 70 ....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The secret to a long and happy marriage - expect less and accept even less than that.... Words of wisdom from my dad at age 70 ....

I like it! Seems to me that most of the posts about unhappy marriages include some element of proving each other wrong. There are a lot of controlling people out there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The secret to a long and happy marriage - expect less and accept even less than that.... Words of wisdom from my dad at age 70 ....

But I didn't need to marry to procreate or for financial reasons, so if my guy doesn't satisfy my emotional and physical needs, why marry? This is no longer the 1950s.

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Anonymous wrote:The secret to a long and happy marriage - expect less and accept even less than that.... Words of wisdom from my dad at age 70 ....

I like it! Seems to me that most of the posts about unhappy marriages include some element of proving each other wrong. There are a lot of controlling people out there.

I'm a controlling person! It stems from my dissatisfaction at having my needs met by my spouse.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The secret to a long and happy marriage - expect less and accept even less than that.... Words of wisdom from my dad at age 70 ....

But I didn't need to marry to procreate or for financial reasons, so if my guy doesn't satisfy my emotional and physical needs, why marry? This is no longer the 1950s.

Exactly!!!! Men are the ones who wish their partners would lower their standards because generally men are the ones who dont do as much work in a marriage, in terms of housework, childcare, social maintenance of the relationship, etc. Not in every case, but in most. Now women have the option of not getting married to the wrong guy and a lot of women are saying, "no thanks, dude."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Jesus Christ...does anyone in this town have a happy marriage?

I'm engaged. This page tells me we are eventually going to be unhappy and hate each other. My husband will cheat on me, I will be blamed for not putting out enough and spending too much time on our kids, and then, for financial reasons, we will stay together, in misery, for the rest of our lives, wishing we never met each other.

Yay.

All marriages have ups and downs. Some due to the couple but some due to external stresses - money, kids, job, commute and so on. Thing is if you can make it through those and still ending with love for your spouse.
We've had our share of ups and downs but I still get that loving feeling every so often.

Bye the way, no different from raising kids - lot of work and sometimes frustration which is visible, but there is so much joy in it too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My cortisol goes through the roof whenever i'm around her. That is all.

hmm. Maybe she's awful because she's sick of the way you don't explain?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Quit yer bitching or do something about it.

Exactly, be a man and take action.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The secret to a long and happy marriage - expect less and accept even less than that.... Words of wisdom from my dad at age 70 ....

But I didn't need to marry to procreate or for financial reasons, so if my guy doesn't satisfy my emotional and physical needs, why marry? This is no longer the 1950s.

Exactly!!!! Men are the ones who wish their partners would lower their standards because generally men are the ones who dont do as much work in a marriage, in terms of housework, childcare, social maintenance of the relationship, etc. Not in every case, but in most. Now women have the option of not getting married to the wrong guy and a lot of women are saying, "no thanks, dude."

Stop the damn stereotyping. I just put the dishes in the dishwasher, washed the larger items by hand, and spent two hours with my kid doing homework. Not looking for a 21 gun salute, but tired of the men suck, women are great diatribes. In fact, I like doing homework because someday my child will be out of the house and I want her to have good memories of our time together.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Jesus Christ...does anyone in this town have a happy marriage?

I'm engaged. This page tells me we are eventually going to be unhappy and hate each other. My husband will cheat on me, I will be blamed for not putting out enough and spending too much time on our kids, and then, for financial reasons, we will stay together, in misery, for the rest of our lives, wishing we never met each other.

Yay.

So you are the one who wrote my biography?

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Anonymous wrote:My cortisol goes through the roof whenever i'm around her. That is all.

hmm. Maybe she's awful because she's sick of the way you don't explain?

+1 exactly

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My cortisol goes through the roof whenever i'm around her. That is all.

Then pull the plug, hoss. Life is short, and you only get one.