How much time off for a stillborn baby?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Very sorry OP. So so sorry. I had a stillborn delivered at 30 weeks. I felt fine physically and decided to go back to work after 3.5 weeks. Worst decision ever because I still looked pregnant and I just got constant questions about when baby was due etc etc. If you work in an office with the same people everyday whom know your situation you wouldn't have this issue though. I am a care provider and deal with patients so I see people who know nothing about me constantly. So if I had to re do it all over again I would take 6 weeks off at least.

I find this hard to believe. A month later you looked pregnant enough that ppl thought you were expecting??? Even if you had weight to lose its not in a pregnant belly shape.

OMG, F*ck. Off.

[Anonymous]

OP do you work at NIH? This happened to someone in my office.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP do you work at NIH? This happened to someone in my office.

And your point is...?

[Anonymous]

Hugs to you OP (and to all of you that have gone through this). I can't even imagine.
I would take the six weeks but take it one day at a time. Sometimes work serves as a good distraction and you might decide to go back earlier because of that (this is based on my experience with a death in the family and I actually felt relieved to go back to work after being out for some time).

[Anonymous]

My sincere condolences, OP.

[Anonymous]

Um, just curious, why is everyone assuming OP is the one who had a stillbirth? This post is on the Jobs board, not a parenting board. Not ot mention that they didn't mention having had one. Seems like a coworker or something to me.

[Anonymous]

I was physically "ready" to go back to work after 2 wks, probably only part-time though. Took the whole 6wks off because healing/mourning process was difficult. Everyone experiences loss differently. Some can compartmentalize and move on, some GRIEVE hard and need a lot of support.

OP, I hate that this sort of thing happens in life, but know that there are others who have experienced it and can guide you through it.

If you are judging someone else this happened to, please don't... it's different for everyone. It's a child that person never got to know... something to grieve for sure.