Depressed about dating

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am late 40's woman with a 12 year old. Strangely enough, my last two boyfriends are single guys (no kids) that are 10-15 years younger than me. As the PP said, you'd think we'd be on different planets -- but it seems to work. They approached me online. Once I got over the shock, I gave it a try. It does appear that 50 year guys are interested in the younger women -- not someone their own age. I'd suggest being open to trying something "outside the box."

I am upfront with them -- if they want to have kids, that is NOT going to happen with me. I have no interest in adopting/raising another child.

So you are dating 25 year olds?

[Anonymous]

I'm a former single mom (remarried to a DH I am so lucky to be with). My advice is not politically correct, but it is the truth . . . :
1. Read the rules. Cheesy I know (and I have a killer career and am the opposite of helpless). This book(s) really helped me set boundaries and respect myself as well as attract high quality guys.
2. Be a realist about age and looks. If you are holding out for a hunk your own age, you will have a long lonely life.
3. Online date (you probably are anyway)

Hugs & good luck.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am late 40's woman with a 12 year old. Strangely enough, my last two boyfriends are single guys (no kids) that are 10-15 years younger than me. As the PP said, you'd think we'd be on different planets -- but it seems to work. They approached me online. Once I got over the shock, I gave it a try. It does appear that 50 year guys are interested in the younger women -- not someone their own age. I'd suggest being open to trying something "outside the box."

I am upfront with them -- if they want to have kids, that is NOT going to happen with me. I have no interest in adopting/raising another child.

So you are dating 25 year olds?

Let me summarize what you are doing. These guys know you will sleep with them (and be great/enthusiastic/experienced in bed). They are using you and discarding you. They will NEVER marry you and even if they did, you'd become old hag w young stud after time. SEE POST ABOVE FROM HELPFUL SINGLE MOM.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am late 40's woman with a 12 year old. Strangely enough, my last two boyfriends are single guys (no kids) that are 10-15 years younger than me. As the PP said, you'd think we'd be on different planets -- but it seems to work. They approached me online. Once I got over the shock, I gave it a try. It does appear that 50 year guys are interested in the younger women -- not someone their own age. I'd suggest being open to trying something "outside the box."

I am upfront with them -- if they want to have kids, that is NOT going to happen with me. I have no interest in adopting/raising another child.

So you are dating 25 year olds?

Let me summarize what you are doing. These guys know you will sleep with them (and be great/enthusiastic/experienced in bed). They are using you and discarding you. They will NEVER marry you and even if they did, you'd become old hag w young stud after time. SEE POST ABOVE FROM HELPFUL SINGLE MOM.

So marriage is the only goal of dating? What if this person does not want to marry again but would like a man in her life where there is a level of commitment?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am late 40's woman with a 12 year old. Strangely enough, my last two boyfriends are single guys (no kids) that are 10-15 years younger than me. As the PP said, you'd think we'd be on different planets -- but it seems to work. They approached me online. Once I got over the shock, I gave it a try. It does appear that 50 year guys are interested in the younger women -- not someone their own age. I'd suggest being open to trying something "outside the box."

I am upfront with them -- if they want to have kids, that is NOT going to happen with me. I have no interest in adopting/raising another child.

So you are dating 25 year olds?

Let me summarize what you are doing. These guys know you will sleep with them (and be great/enthusiastic/experienced in bed). They are using you and discarding you. They will NEVER marry you and even if they did, you'd become old hag w young stud after time. SEE POST ABOVE FROM HELPFUL SINGLE MOM.

Wow! Bitter much?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am late 40's woman with a 12 year old. Strangely enough, my last two boyfriends are single guys (no kids) that are 10-15 years younger than me. As the PP said, you'd think we'd be on different planets -- but it seems to work. They approached me online. Once I got over the shock, I gave it a try. It does appear that 50 year guys are interested in the younger women -- not someone their own age. I'd suggest being open to trying something "outside the box."

I am upfront with them -- if they want to have kids, that is NOT going to happen with me. I have no interest in adopting/raising another child.

So you are dating 25 year olds?

No. If you do the math, you'll see that I am dating 35-40 year olds.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Met get better with age, women don't. Notice who is usually listed as the "sexiest man alive" vs sexiest women in various magazines. The guys are always 40+, but not so for the women.

For better or worse, women are valued in society more on their looks vs men. Biologically, a 20-y-o woman is going to look better then a 40-y-o woman. On top of that, it's a lot easier for a 50-y-o man to date a 30-y-o woman than vice versa.

Only for a rich 50-year man. Those are, as ever, a minority. An average GS-15 50+ year old divorced man with child support bills bears no attraction whatsoever to a 30-year old woman.

[Anonymous]

to the bitter PP (PPs?) who are trashing the PP who's dating younger guys, I have several friends who are married to or living with guys who are 10-15 years younger. These guys aren't using them - they're committing to them. And they're great guys. I generally don't go much younger because I feel maternal toward most younger guys, but I don't rule it out. Early 40's is a tough time for women - a lot of guys our age are still saying they "might want kids someday" so they can date younger women. (but strangely enough, they still aren't having kids...)