ugh, black tie wedding

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Remember that it is perfectly correct for a man to wear a dark suit to a black tie event

Is that true?

I'm the heavy hors poster above and I do NOT think this is true.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In general I just don't get it when couples start stipulating a lot of requirements for their wedding. This includes:

- destination weddings to exotic and expensive places
- special dress codes like black tie
- setting up gift registeries to fund your honeymoons, your house downpayment, etc.
- asking that guests make donations to your favorite charity

What ever happened to just a regular wedding? It's like every wedding now needs to be a "special expression of our uniqueness." Gag. Just get married, drink some champagne and dance a little. Then go on a trip and have a nice life. Done!

ITA.

[Anonymous]

email is fine.black ties are formal they set the mood

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nothing wrong with black tie. Reminding everyone in an email is horrible.

Expecting people to spend the money to rent a tux, and rent/buy a ball gown so you've got some cool memories and pictures, but not having the decency to actually feed them a meal is pretty wrong. I get that not everyone can afford a wedding with a meal, which is fine, but in that case the whole event should match what you can afford.

Agree.

[Anonymous]

Black tie scheduled over the dinner hour without a meal is tacky. Reminding your children, ehr, I mean guests, that the event is black tie is very tacky. And using email to provide that reminder to your guests is mind bogglingly tacky. And don't mention "cocktail" if you expect black tie. Cocktail infers a certain type of dress. If they want black tie, then provide the black tie event accoutrements.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Black tie scheduled over the dinner hour without a meal is tacky. Reminding your children, ehr, I mean guests, that the event is black tie is very tacky. And using email to provide that reminder to your guests is mind bogglingly tacky. And don't mention "cocktail" if you expect black tie. Cocktail infers a certain type of dress. If they want black tie, then provide the black tie event accoutrements.

I'll bet $50 bucks that somebody, whom the couple trusts, told them that they shouldn't have put "cocktail" in the invitation along with black tie, hence the email.

[Anonymous]

Heavy hors' deuves are must better than a seated dinner, and cocktail parties are fancier than sit-downs. Get over yourself, and have a drink.