Is new guy an alcoholic?

[Anonymous]

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I'm posting all that as examples of someone who seemed to have a whole "relationship" with alcohol. A large part of his life revolved around it. He didn't drink every day, but there was clearly some dysfunction there. If your new guy seems to have a relationship with alcohol, almost as if it's another person in his life, that is a big red flag. It's not about tolerance.

You sound like a whole judgement full of fun to date.

Everyone I've dated has said I'm one of the most laid back and fun people they've ever met. I'm not judgemental, but I had a bad experience with the guy. Sorry if my not being cool with my boyfriend drinking 12 glasses of wine in a night, routinely, makes me seem judgemental. When I was with him, I wasn't sure if he had a problem. Looking back, I think he did. Just trying to share my thoughts with op who sounds similarly unsure.

[Anonymous]

I didn't see before that he had 12 glasses of wine in one night before.

IMO, that's bing drinking, and is excessive, unless he's at bachelor party or just won the lottery, or something.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

I'm posting all that as examples of someone who seemed to have a whole "relationship" with alcohol. A large part of his life revolved around it. He didn't drink every day, but there was clearly some dysfunction there. If your new guy seems to have a relationship with alcohol, almost as if it's another person in his life, that is a big red flag. It's not about tolerance.

You sound like a whole judgement full of fun to date.

Everyone I've dated has said I'm one of the most laid back and fun people they've ever met. I'm not judgemental, but I had a bad experience with the guy. Sorry if my not being cool with my boyfriend drinking 12 glasses of wine in a night, routinely, makes me seem judgemental. When I was with him, I wasn't sure if he had a problem. Looking back, I think he did. Just trying to share my thoughts with op who sounds similarly unsure.

That's 3 bottles of wine in a night. Are you saying he finishes off 3 bottles of wine by himself in one night, routinely? Yes, that sounds like a problem to me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

I'm posting all that as examples of someone who seemed to have a whole "relationship" with alcohol. A large part of his life revolved around it. He didn't drink every day, but there was clearly some dysfunction there. If your new guy seems to have a relationship with alcohol, almost as if it's another person in his life, that is a big red flag. It's not about tolerance.

You sound like a whole judgement full of fun to date.

Everyone I've dated has said I'm one of the most laid back and fun people they've ever met. I'm not judgemental, but I had a bad experience with the guy. Sorry if my not being cool with my boyfriend drinking 12 glasses of wine in a night, routinely, makes me seem judgemental. When I was with him, I wasn't sure if he had a problem. Looking back, I think he did. Just trying to share my thoughts with op who sounds similarly unsure.

That's 3 bottles of wine in a night. Are you saying he finishes off 3 bottles of wine by himself in one night, routinely? Yes, that sounds like a problem to me.

Yes, but I'm not the op! Sorry! I was just trying to give her examples of problem behavior. Hope she will return and explain why exactly she is concerned.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:his behavior was exactly the same as when he is drinking

That's good......so what's the problem?

[Anonymous]

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Everyone I've dated has said I'm one of the most laid back and fun people they've ever met. I'm not judgemental, but I had a bad experience with the guy. Sorry if my not being cool with my boyfriend drinking 12 glasses of wine in a night, routinely, makes me seem judgemental. When I was with him, I wasn't sure if he had a problem. Looking back, I think he did. Just trying to share my thoughts with op who sounds similarly unsure.

If you're the OP, you didn't mention 12 glasses of wine in a night. Yes, that is excessive and a red flag.

[Anonymous]

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More than three glasses a week is a heavy drinker most likely alcoholic. Most normal people don't chronically drink every day or week.


I guess all the population of Europe and 60 percent of the population of the US are alcoholics.

Yes they have a small amount of wine with their meal..maybe 4-6 oz. in the US a 6 oz pour will get you laughed at.


Not sure what countries you are referring to, but in the UK, the NHS recommends men limit their consumption to 3-4 drinks A DAY and women to 2-3 drinks A DAY. The US has the lowest alcohol consumption of any western industrialized nation. Europeans are having a bit more than a "small amount of wine" with dinner.

I think our Puritan history may be unduly influencing your perception of what "too much alcohol" looks like.

Puritan history... USA has a history of out of control drinking. Why do you think prohibit was passed? As for your stats, Europe does have a drinking problem and if you are drinking 3-4 drinks a day you have a problem.

[Anonymous]

The UK drinks industry has been ordered by the Home Office to produce plans to tackle the sale and promotion of cheap super-strength beers and cider by the summer or face government action. Crime Prevention minister Norman Baker said that some alcohol producers and sellers have tried to ignore the Home Office's demands for a strategy to crush problem drinking in the hope that the policy will be ditched after the general election next year. Mr Baker has also asked his officials to find ways of combating the "inappropriate" opening of pubs at motorway service stations, as pioneered by low-cost pub chain JD Wetherspoon......
Since he joined the Home Office in October, Mr Baker has been shocked by the scale of alcohol-related crime, which costs England and Wales £11bn a year. About 15,000 people die every year from alcohol-linked illnesses. The Home Office told the industry last year that it needed to set up voluntary commitments, such as minimising alcohol advertising and confining displays and promotions to single areas.

http://www.independent.co.uk/news/uk/politics/alcohol-trade-must-act-on-uk-drink-problem-or-face-government-action-9131084.html

Yes yes the UK....just sipping wine at dinner ...we should look to the Europeans on how to handle alcohol.

[Anonymous]

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Yes yes the UK....just sipping wine at dinner ...we should look to the Europeans on how to handle alcohol.

That's the UK, not all of Europe, idiot.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:More than three glasses a week is a heavy drinker most likely alcoholic. Most normal people don't chronically drink every day or week.

I guess all the population of Europe and 60 percent of the population of the US are alcoholics.

He. He.