What do you miss about being single and childless?

[Anonymous]

Going out drinking with DH then sleeping until noon the next day then we would have sex then go eat lunch in a nice restaurant. Perfect!

[Anonymous]

Being able to do things without worrying about everyone else's schedule. I guess that's a responsibility thing - when I was childless (I haven't really been "single" in my adult life, although my now-husband was not physically here for 3 years and we dated long distance from 22-25), I could go out when I wanted and not worry about how kids were getting home, who was watching them, etc.

Oh, and the lack of guilt spending money on myself. I didn't feel like I was taking away from our budget when I went out and had a high bar tab, that kind of thing.

[Anonymous]

First kisses.

[Anonymous]

I don't miss being single, but the children mess up my house and disrupt my sleep.

[Anonymous]

feeling well-rested most of the time

spending lazy Sunday mornings with my husband drinking coffee and reading the paper

being able to meet up with friends on short notice

staying out late on Friday and Saturday nights, knowing that I could sleep in the next morning

[Anonymous]

I had a lot more sex back then. By a factor of about 50. I miss that.

[Anonymous]

Alone time to just be by myself.

Sleeping in.

[Anonymous]

Truly nothing. I like who I've become since being married and with child. On all levels, now is better

[Anonymous]

Time. I have no time anymore. I thought I was busy when I was single. I always had a full time job and either a part-time job or freelance clients.

I still have my full time job, but there are no more evenings or weekends.

I don't have enough time to sleep, to read, to go to the gym or dance class, or to just be alone. I am an introvert, and I need that time to recharge. I am not sad, but I feel like my life is no longer my life. I sort of knew this would happen, so I wasn't sure I ever wanted children. My husband wanted them about a year into our marriage. I am exhausted all of the time and have no time to create new goals for myself or do side projects, which are things I used to really enjoy doing.

I used to sleep in, take a long walks window shopping in Old Town, grab a coffee and read along the Potomac for hours on a typical Saturday afternoon in my single days. I miss those Saturdays.

[Anonymous]

Not being disciplined about my time and money.
Specifically, I'd love to work late or shop or be able to do something spontaneous after work, but every single night unless I've prearranged something, I have to get home to get dinner on the table and run the activities shuttle. It gets old fast.

[Anonymous]

Only one thing really, my body. Damn I didnt appreciaste how perfect and beautiful it was when I had it. Smooth flat taut stomach, high firm breasts, smooth tight thighs w/out cellulite, no stretch marks, no muffin top.... ***sigh*** Those were the days.

Stikll, would rather have my kids!

[Simon123]

Miss the social life I had- the parties, friends, women, spending money, drinking, and going to the beach.

[Anonymous]

Making decisions, large and small, on my own and without the obligation to consult or collaborate

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Going out drinking with DH then sleeping until noon the next day then we would have sex then go eat lunch in a nice restaurant. Perfect!

You are my kind of person.

[Anonymous]

I'm a single mom, so I still get a taste of the single/child-free life a couple nights a week. Which in some ways makes it harder, because I have a ton of child-free friends who travel constantly and have a lot of disposable income and fun. So that can be hard sometimes!

I miss playing golf. (not enough free time.) I miss my subscriptions to the Kennedy Center and the Baltimore Symphony. I miss going to random concerts and sporting events more often. I miss spontaneous Monday night happy hours and being able to drink at the waterfront on a sunny Sunday without thinking about all the chores I'm ignoring. I miss going to the bathroom by myself. I miss having true quiet time after work - the several hours between work and bedtime are filled with 5-year-old chatter. And I miss dating/sex - there never seems to be time to actively seek out guys, and I don't really meet them naturally.

I do love my daughter and being a mom, though.