What is your weakness? Do you have a character flaw?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do I have a character flaw? Yes, several. Rigidity for one. A startling lack of empathy sometimes another.

I don't consider eating fried chicken to be a "character flaw."

I don't consider this a character flaw. I consider this a way of surviving. Too much empathy and you will be conned. You will also drown in the excess emotion.

To have empathy and survive requires strength. Most don't have both. I do. My flaws are elsewhere ,but my best friends are similar...it makes for a full life .

[Anonymous]

I am 40 pounds overweight. This is regarded as a terrible defect by most.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do I have a character flaw? Yes, several. Rigidity for one. A startling lack of empathy sometimes another.

I don't consider eating fried chicken to be a "character flaw."

I don't consider this a character flaw. I consider this a way of surviving. Too much empathy and you will be conned. You will also drown in the excess emotion.

That sounds like a terribly sad perspective.

I feel like having empathy for others, helps others be stronger. And in return, others having empathy for me, helps me be stronger. It's a mutual benefit. I see empathy as necessary for propelling each other forward.

[Anonymous]

I am lazy. I can'tafford to indulge in it too often, but if I didn't have any obligations, I would just sit on my butt and read all day. I am also very short tempered and snap at people more often than warranted. I am working on that...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am 40 pounds overweight. This is regarded as a terrible defect by most.

Yeah, they have a mental defect. It's a reflection of them, not you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am 40 pounds overweight. This is regarded as a terrible defect by most.

I am 50 lbs overweight and it is pretty much solely due to a lack of self discipline and self control so for me my weight is due to a character flaw. Indicative of other areas of my life where self control has also gone out the window but my weight is a daily reminder of this.

[Anonymous]

I can let people get under my skin. One friends keeps giving me snarky comments about where I live (I think she's into this DCUM) and I avoid debating with her (pointless) so I suck it up. I know I shouldn't.

[Anonymous]

I am a procrastinator, definitely. I was always a pretty sore loser too, although I seem to have mellowed a lot on that front now that I am in my 30s (not too much personal competition anymore anyway )

I see the sore loser in my kid and would like to work to help him avoid that...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am 40 pounds overweight. This is regarded as a terrible defect by most.

I am 50 lbs overweight and it is pretty much solely due to a lack of self discipline and self control so for me my weight is due to a character flaw. Indicative of other areas of my life where self control has also gone out the window but my weight is a daily reminder of this.

I have phenomenal self-control and discipline. I just don't know how to make self care a normal part of my life, prioritize everything over my own well-being, and stress eat. Also, find it nearly impossible to ask for help.

This is why I gained so much weight in these last couple of terrible years.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sometimes I treat my husband like a sex object!

as though he's complaining, PP . . .

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you are a mostly disciplined person is there any one thing that you can't resist? Something that would be considered a character flaw or a weakness.

I am very health conscious 99% of the time but I love Popeyes chicken. It is so disgusting but I eat it probably once a month. Always have since I discovered it in my teens.

This is so shallow and embarrassing, I would never admit it to anyone in real life but I spend extra time on my appearance because I get energized from receiving compliments. I get compliments from both men and women and it makes me feel great. I'm sort of dreading when I will be too old to get noticed.

I am a particularly toxic mixture of arrogant and lazy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am 50 pounds overweight. This is regarded as a terrible defect by most.

I win!

[Anonymous]

I am a people pleaser to the max.

I am always trying to go above and beyond to get people to like me...Sometimes even my own friends.

I feel like if I am just "me" that is not enough, I have to do something extra that no one else does to make me stand out so people will take notice and want to be around me.

It gets so exhausting always trying to please everyone. Saying yes to everyone and everything.....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do I have a character flaw? Yes, several. Rigidity for one. A startling lack of empathy sometimes another.

I don't consider eating fried chicken to be a "character flaw."

I don't consider this a character flaw. I consider this a way of surviving. Too much empathy and you will be conned. You will also drown in the excess emotion.

Well, it sure feels like one to me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am 50 pounds overweight. This is regarded as a terrible defect by most.

I win!

I have both beat by a long mile... ~100 pounds overweight. Which, by the standards of DCUM, means I should probably off myself tonight so the world is spared my awfulness.