What attracts you to a home daycare?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Do the references to "school dropoff" and "school pickup" in the daily schedule mean there are kids you go drop-off/pick up at local schools? There was one in-home I rejected as soon as I found out that she would be dropping off/picking up her own kid at school everyday while carting my child around. (I would have been okay with if it had been a walking trip - but not with my kid being driven around.)
You don't seem to mention (at least not where I could see) whether there are other full-time care providers and how many kids are in your care - this was the first thing I wanted to know when I was interviewing home daycares, since I did not want a solo provider.

And what do you propose a daycare provider do about her own child because you dont want snowflake"carted" around? I have taken child care children to school and activities and had to cart my child along for the ride. Its okay for that but not for yours? You need to remember that is why most child care providers are providing a service to parents while it enables her to stay home with her own child.

Are you the OP? I sure hope not... Daycare providers need to arrange care for their own children. Yes you have a family, but you also have a job.

No i am not the OP. I AM a daycare provider and glad I have WAY more understanding parents/clients than those on this forum. Yes, I have a family. Why should I have to find someone else to do something I am quite capable of doing myself? I chose this occupation in order to juggle both work and my family and I do quite well at it. but then this isnt about me.

It's not about being understanding. It's about being professional.

[Anonymous]

Well, that's precisely why a lot of people aren't interested in home providers who have children in the home. I'm not interested in a SAHM who wants to charge premium rates so my kid can tag along while she runs errands and cares for her own kids. I'm interested in a professional, and professional home daycare operators I've met limit car trips to pre-approved field trips.
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Nothing is uglier than a professional, working mother making life more difficult for another mother.

Seriously people . . . those of you who refuse to use providers (nannies, in home providers, preschools that allow the children of providers to attend) that have young children, what do you think happens to their children? If you pay your nanny a fair market rate, just who do you think she is going to be able to pay to watch her own children if you aren't willing to accommodate?

I just don't understand how working moms can be so heartless and clueless.

[Anonymous]

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Well, that's precisely why a lot of people aren't interested in home providers who have children in the home. I'm not interested in a SAHM who wants to charge premium rates so my kid can tag along while she runs errands and cares for her own kids. I'm interested in a professional, and professional home daycare operators I've met limit car trips to pre-approved field trips.
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Nothing is uglier than a professional, working mother making life more difficult for another mother.

Seriously people . . . those of you who refuse to use providers (nannies, in home providers, preschools that allow the children of providers to attend) that have young children, what do you think happens to their children? If you pay your nanny a fair market rate, just who do you think she is going to be able to pay to watch her own children if you aren't willing to accommodate?

I just don't understand how working moms can be so heartless and clueless.

It's not about being heartless. Don't have children you cannot afford to take care of without ripping off other working mothers by selling your "professional" nanny or day care that is no such thing. If you want to stay home and take care of your kids, then do so. But stop shilling daycare and nannying services that have little value for a mother who is paying for a certain quality of care.

[Anonymous]

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Well, that's precisely why a lot of people aren't interested in home providers who have children in the home. I'm not interested in a SAHM who wants to charge premium rates so my kid can tag along while she runs errands and cares for her own kids. I'm interested in a professional, and professional home daycare operators I've met limit car trips to pre-approved field trips.
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Nothing is uglier than a professional, working mother making life more difficult for another mother.

Seriously people . . . those of you who refuse to use providers (nannies, in home providers, preschools that allow the children of providers to attend) that have young children, what do you think happens to their children? If you pay your nanny a fair market rate, just who do you think she is going to be able to pay to watch her own children if you aren't willing to accommodate?

I just don't understand how working moms can be so heartless and clueless.

I'm the one who called you unprofessional. I'm a single mother, working at a daycare center and I pay another child care center for my child to attend.

[Anonymous]

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Well, that's precisely why a lot of people aren't interested in home providers who have children in the home. I'm not interested in a SAHM who wants to charge premium rates so my kid can tag along while she runs errands and cares for her own kids. I'm interested in a professional, and professional home daycare operators I've met limit car trips to pre-approved field trips.
[Report Post]

Nothing is uglier than a professional, working mother making life more difficult for another mother.

Seriously people . . . those of you who refuse to use providers (nannies, in home providers, preschools that allow the children of providers to attend) that have young children, what do you think happens to their children? If you pay your nanny a fair market rate, just who do you think she is going to be able to pay to watch her own children if you aren't willing to accommodate?

I just don't understand how working moms can be so heartless and clueless.

NP here. I am not interested in my child being a stepchild of sorts and paying for that. I want my child to be on an equal footing with other children in the room. I am just not comfortable in having my child cared for by a woman who is simultaneously caring for her own children. I am the client, and I wont pay for that level of service. My child will definitely pick up on the difference in status. No way.

[Anonymous]

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Well, that's precisely why a lot of people aren't interested in home providers who have children in the home. I'm not interested in a SAHM who wants to charge premium rates so my kid can tag along while she runs errands and cares for her own kids. I'm interested in a professional, and professional home daycare operators I've met limit car trips to pre-approved field trips.
[Report Post]

Nothing is uglier than a professional, working mother making life more difficult for another mother.

Seriously people . . . those of you who refuse to use providers (nannies, in home providers, preschools that allow the children of providers to attend) that have young children, what do you think happens to their children? If you pay your nanny a fair market rate, just who do you think she is going to be able to pay to watch her own children if you aren't willing to accommodate?

I just don't understand how working moms can be so heartless and clueless.

I'm the one who called you unprofessional. I'm a single mother, working at a daycare center and I pay another child care center for my child to attend.

So you pay your whole salary toward another daycare? Or your kid goes somewhere subpar?

[Anonymous]

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Well, that's precisely why a lot of people aren't interested in home providers who have children in the home. I'm not interested in a SAHM who wants to charge premium rates so my kid can tag along while she runs errands and cares for her own kids. I'm interested in a professional, and professional home daycare operators I've met limit car trips to pre-approved field trips.
[Report Post]

Nothing is uglier than a professional, working mother making life more difficult for another mother.

Seriously people . . . those of you who refuse to use providers (nannies, in home providers, preschools that allow the children of providers to attend) that have young children, what do you think happens to their children? If you pay your nanny a fair market rate, just who do you think she is going to be able to pay to watch her own children if you aren't willing to accommodate?

I just don't understand how working moms can be so heartless and clueless.

You need to get a clue about what it means to run a business and service clients. Other working mothers do not owe you anything, unless they are your employer or some similar formalized relationship exists.

You can certainly offer home based care, and also care for your own children. If no one bites, keep lowering your rates. I am sure you will eventually find some customers. But your entitled attitude of "I deserve customers!" is really off-putting.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Well, that's precisely why a lot of people aren't interested in home providers who have children in the home. I'm not interested in a SAHM who wants to charge premium rates so my kid can tag along while she runs errands and cares for her own kids. I'm interested in a professional, and professional home daycare operators I've met limit car trips to pre-approved field trips.
[Report Post]

Nothing is uglier than a professional, working mother making life more difficult for another mother.

Seriously people . . . those of you who refuse to use providers (nannies, in home providers, preschools that allow the children of providers to attend) that have young children, what do you think happens to their children? If you pay your nanny a fair market rate, just who do you think she is going to be able to pay to watch her own children if you aren't willing to accommodate?

I just don't understand how working moms can be so heartless and clueless.

I'm the one who called you unprofessional. I'm a single mother, working at a daycare center and I pay another child care center for my child to attend.

So you pay your whole salary toward another daycare? Or your kid goes somewhere subpar?

It is not my whole salary, and my child goes to a good child care center. It's obvious you are in this business for the wrong reason. You are in it for convenience and not for the love of children.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Well, that's precisely why a lot of people aren't interested in home providers who have children in the home. I'm not interested in a SAHM who wants to charge premium rates so my kid can tag along while she runs errands and cares for her own kids. I'm interested in a professional, and professional home daycare operators I've met limit car trips to pre-approved field trips.
[Report Post]

Nothing is uglier than a professional, working mother making life more difficult for another mother.

Seriously people . . . those of you who refuse to use providers (nannies, in home providers, preschools that allow the children of providers to attend) that have young children, what do you think happens to their children? If you pay your nanny a fair market rate, just who do you think she is going to be able to pay to watch her own children if you aren't willing to accommodate?

I just don't understand how working moms can be so heartless and clueless.

I'm the one who called you unprofessional. I'm a single mother, working at a daycare center and I pay another child care center for my child to attend.

So you pay your whole salary toward another daycare? Or your kid goes somewhere subpar?

It is not my whole salary, and my child goes to a good child care center. It's obvious you are in this business for the wrong reason. You are in it for convenience and not for the love of children.

Completely agree with this PP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Well, that's precisely why a lot of people aren't interested in home providers who have children in the home. I'm not interested in a SAHM who wants to charge premium rates so my kid can tag along while she runs errands and cares for her own kids. I'm interested in a professional, and professional home daycare operators I've met limit car trips to pre-approved field trips.
[Report Post]

Nothing is uglier than a professional, working mother making life more difficult for another mother.

Seriously people . . . those of you who refuse to use providers (nannies, in home providers, preschools that allow the children of providers to attend) that have young children, what do you think happens to their children? If you pay your nanny a fair market rate, just who do you think she is going to be able to pay to watch her own children if you aren't willing to accommodate?

I just don't understand how working moms can be so heartless and clueless.

I'm the one who called you unprofessional. I'm a single mother, working at a daycare center and I pay another child care center for my child to attend.

So you pay your whole salary toward another daycare? Or your kid goes somewhere subpar?

It is not my whole salary, and my child goes to a good child care center. It's obvious you are in this business for the wrong reason. You are in it for convenience and not for the love of children.

I'm not in the business...I'm a lawyer. I just think it's really sad that you work all day just to pay to send your kid somewhere else. You can't possibly be making more than a tiny bit over what your tuition to the other daycare is. Seems like a waste of your time and money and sad for your kid to be away from you all day when there's no real financial gain for the family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Well, that's precisely why a lot of people aren't interested in home providers who have children in the home. I'm not interested in a SAHM who wants to charge premium rates so my kid can tag along while she runs errands and cares for her own kids. I'm interested in a professional, and professional home daycare operators I've met limit car trips to pre-approved field trips.
[Report Post]

Nothing is uglier than a professional, working mother making life more difficult for another mother.

Seriously people . . . those of you who refuse to use providers (nannies, in home providers, preschools that allow the children of providers to attend) that have young children, what do you think happens to their children? If you pay your nanny a fair market rate, just who do you think she is going to be able to pay to watch her own children if you aren't willing to accommodate?

I just don't understand how working moms can be so heartless and clueless.

I'm the one who called you unprofessional. I'm a single mother, working at a daycare center and I pay another child care center for my child to attend.

So you pay your whole salary toward another daycare? Or your kid goes somewhere subpar?

It is not my whole salary, and my child goes to a good child care center. It's obvious you are in this business for the wrong reason. You are in it for convenience and not for the love of children.

I'm not in the business...I'm a lawyer. I just think it's really sad that you work all day just to pay to send your kid somewhere else. You can't possibly be making more than a tiny bit over what your tuition to the other daycare is. Seems like a waste of your time and money and sad for your kid to be away from you all day when there's no real financial gain for the family.

It is no different than you being away from your child all day, in the office. We are both (I assume) doing something we both love and providing for our family at the same time. Sure, my paycheck isn't close to yours but if you open your mind, you will realize we just may have something in common.

[Anonymous]

Nothing. Not enough stimulation for the older ones.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Well, that's precisely why a lot of people aren't interested in home providers who have children in the home. I'm not interested in a SAHM who wants to charge premium rates so my kid can tag along while she runs errands and cares for her own kids. I'm interested in a professional, and professional home daycare operators I've met limit car trips to pre-approved field trips.
[Report Post]

Nothing is uglier than a professional, working mother making life more difficult for another mother.

Seriously people . . . those of you who refuse to use providers (nannies, in home providers, preschools that allow the children of providers to attend) that have young children, what do you think happens to their children? If you pay your nanny a fair market rate, just who do you think she is going to be able to pay to watch her own children if you aren't willing to accommodate?

I just don't understand how working moms can be so heartless and clueless.

I'm the one who called you unprofessional. I'm a single mother, working at a daycare center and I pay another child care center for my child to attend.

So you pay your whole salary toward another daycare? Or your kid goes somewhere subpar?

It is not my whole salary, and my child goes to a good child care center. It's obvious you are in this business for the wrong reason. You are in it for convenience and not for the love of children.

I'm not in the business...I'm a lawyer. I just think it's really sad that you work all day just to pay to send your kid somewhere else. You can't possibly be making more than a tiny bit over what your tuition to the other daycare is. Seems like a waste of your time and money and sad for your kid to be away from you all day when there's no real financial gain for the family.

So being away is ok as long as it's for significant financial gain?
Also, it is VERY short-sighted to think that if a family doesn't 'break even' with daycare the mom (because let's be honest, it's almost always the mom) should stay home.
- Send my kids to an amazing center and so happy, even though we don't make a ton of $$

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Well, that's precisely why a lot of people aren't interested in home providers who have children in the home. I'm not interested in a SAHM who wants to charge premium rates so my kid can tag along while she runs errands and cares for her own kids. I'm interested in a professional, and professional home daycare operators I've met limit car trips to pre-approved field trips.
[Report Post]

Nothing is uglier than a professional, working mother making life more difficult for another mother.

Seriously people . . . those of you who refuse to use providers (nannies, in home providers, preschools that allow the children of providers to attend) that have young children, what do you think happens to their children? If you pay your nanny a fair market rate, just who do you think she is going to be able to pay to watch her own children if you aren't willing to accommodate?

I just don't understand how working moms can be so heartless and clueless.

I'm the one who called you unprofessional. I'm a single mother, working at a daycare center and I pay another child care center for my child to attend.

So you pay your whole salary toward another daycare? Or your kid goes somewhere subpar?

It is not my whole salary, and my child goes to a good child care center. It's obvious you are in this business for the wrong reason. You are in it for convenience and not for the love of children.

I'm not in the business...I'm a lawyer. I just think it's really sad that you work all day just to pay to send your kid somewhere else. You can't possibly be making more than a tiny bit over what your tuition to the other daycare is. Seems like a waste of your time and money and sad for your kid to be away from you all day when there's no real financial gain for the family.

Now, that's interesting. I am the 19:04 PP. What exactly is so sad about the childcare provider PP who is a working mom, but chose to have her child enrolled in another daycare? I am sure she ran numbers. It sounds like any other working mom situation. Uhh, you know, women "who work all day just to pay to send [their] kid somewhere else," as you put it.

Are you currently a working mom?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Well, that's precisely why a lot of people aren't interested in home providers who have children in the home. I'm not interested in a SAHM who wants to charge premium rates so my kid can tag along while she runs errands and cares for her own kids. I'm interested in a professional, and professional home daycare operators I've met limit car trips to pre-approved field trips.
[Report Post]

Nothing is uglier than a professional, working mother making life more difficult for another mother.

Seriously people . . . those of you who refuse to use providers (nannies, in home providers, preschools that allow the children of providers to attend) that have young children, what do you think happens to their children? If you pay your nanny a fair market rate, just who do you think she is going to be able to pay to watch her own children if you aren't willing to accommodate?

I just don't understand how working moms can be so heartless and clueless.

I'm the one who called you unprofessional. I'm a single mother, working at a daycare center and I pay another child care center for my child to attend.

So you pay your whole salary toward another daycare? Or your kid goes somewhere subpar?

It is not my whole salary, and my child goes to a good child care center. It's obvious you are in this business for the wrong reason. You are in it for convenience and not for the love of children.

I'm not in the business...I'm a lawyer. I just think it's really sad that you work all day just to pay to send your kid somewhere else. You can't possibly be making more than a tiny bit over what your tuition to the other daycare is. Seems like a waste of your time and money and sad for your kid to be away from you all day when there's no real financial gain for the family.

It is no different than you being away from your child all day, in the office. We are both (I assume) doing something we both love and providing for our family at the same time. Sure, my paycheck isn't close to yours but if you open your mind, you will realize we just may have something in common.

I am guessing that the lawyer PP currently stays at home, after running HER numbers and realizing that between the misery of what a legal job entails, what childcare/nanny costa are, and how much her DH brings in, it didn't make sense to keep working.

She had qualms, though, and trying to justify her choices, so hence her mildly obnoxious post to you.

Lawyer PP, amirite?