the toothfairy: wwyd?

[Anonymous]

Your MIL sounds awful. I would be fuming. Impressed that you can take the high road. Did she leave the $?

My kid is only 2, but I was thinking we'd leave a dollar. $25 is ridiculous.

[Anonymous]

Op here - she never did it; got too tired out by the kids, I guess.

Just like to point out that her $25/tooth was TWENTY years ago. I just can't fathom that at all. Seems really over the top - like 50 or 100 now.

Luckily, DD brought up the tooth fairy tonight and said she's going to write a letter asking for pictures if fairy land. In front if MIL, I was able to remind her that the tooth fairy only comes when you lose a tooth, so she's just have to wait. DD bought it and mil was silent.

DH was useless in the moment - he'd urged me to give more money and thought $2 was too little, so I think he agreed with his mother, and he rarely contradicts her , even when she's crazy wrong.

[dcmom]

I love how you handled it, OP.

[Anonymous]

My older son got 50 cents the first couple of teeth; then I guess inflation boosted it to $1 (or may there were no quarters in the house, not sure). Meanwhile, younger DS came home from preschool and said the tooth fairy brought his friend J a Lego set (and a substantial one, not one of those 5 piece bagged sets). Ugh. Had to explain multiple times that the tooth fairy could not carry Lego sets with her everywhere because it would get too heavy.

[Anonymous]

Of course your husband thought it was too little. He got 25 bucks when he was little. But. It's his kid too. Why not compromise on like 10?

The issue was the mil saying sonething in front of your kid and trying to do a parenting task for her grand kids.

I had to have repeated conversations with my mil on stuff like this. Before my sons first easter I found out she had bought an easter basket and was getting it ready for him to get from the easter bunny. Despite knowing I had one for him. Who does that? And planned on having Santa drop stuff at her house (despite us asking her not to do that). And wanted my husband to take her and my son out for Mother's Day. Without me. Sigh. (We all went together)

And I used exactly that line of thinking with her: you had your parenting moments. These are ours. That said we have tried to come up with special grandma stuff for her to do with our son.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:First tooth was $5. We generally do $1 a tooth after that. $2 if the dentist had to pull a stubborn one. My parents think I am cheap, too.

I think this is what I did. It's hard because my DS hears about what other kids get from the Tooth Fairy and it is usually a lot more!