Were you a mean girl, class clown, jock, cheerleader, loner, punk rock, geek/nerd, people pleaser,…

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I dyed my hair black and wore siouxsie and the banshees t-shirts, but at the same time I also captained a Div I team and was a stem major, so I was some kind of weird goth/jock/nerd hybrid. Mother nature seems to have a sense of humor, because I wound up spawning a bubbly, sorority girl cheerleader.

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Anonymous wrote:Why do you care about high school crap still??

Ok, in high school I had no patience for this kind to stuff and I guess I don't now either ...

You know, the internet is a very big place. There are thousands of conversations out there that you could join. Go find something that interests you and quit trolling threads that don't interest you.

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Anonymous wrote:I was into the punk scene. Bought most of my clothes in thrift shops (we were really poor, so I had to) and supplemented with t-shirts I bought at shows. Dyed my hair weird colors. I took mostly AP and honors classes, had maybe a B+ average. I was also kind of a loner and definitely was not popular. Had very few real friends. I did edgy things on purpose to see what kind of reaction I could get. Looking back I know I was depressed, but I grew up in a dysfunctional and unhealthy home, so survival in and of itself was hard. I was miserable.

Today, I live in beautiful home in a family friendly neighborhood, am very successful at a job filled with Type A personalities, and make a lot of money. I have a successful spouse and well dressed children. I wear suits every day, sometimes even with pearls. But I am still introverted and shy, still socially anxious, and still battle with my moods. Over the years I have learned how to fake it really well so I don't think many people realize the extent of my issues. I still only have a few friends.

I sort of grew up to be my own worst nightmare. I don't really know what to make of that.

This is common. It's so common that it's the last chapter of "A Clockwork Orange" in the UK version of the book and they made a move about it -- SLC Punk.

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Anonymous wrote:In high school were you a mean girl, Queen bee, class clown, jock, cheerleader, loner, punk rock, geek/nerd, people pleaser,…ect

shy, rowdy, introvert, extrovert...

and what type of person would you say you are as an adult?

Punk/grunge/goth in high school. Another thrift store maven. Worked in a vintage shop and wore a lot of clothing that was not fashionable at the time but seems to be the way that many people remember the 90s - vintage dresses, Doc Martens, etc. I dyed my hair a variety of colors, cut it super short, etc. I was pretty shy overall and we'd only just moved to the town, so I didn't know anyone. I got good grades and participated in some extracurriculars - newspaper, drama club (tech stuff) and French club - but did not play any sports or instruments. The summer between 10th and 11th grade was when I got more outgoing. First actual boyfriend, though it didn't last through the summer. Dated around (mostly music scene boys who went to other schools in town) which got me a reputation for being kind of fast. I lost my virginity to said first actual boyfriend and then literally did not do anything other than kiss boys until the summer after senior year, so slut reputation was largely undeserved.

I took 3 years off between high school and college and spent them working in a record store, moving to California on a whim with a friend and working in an office and also as the personal assistant to an artist and when it became too expensive, I moved back to my hometown and went to college, where I got a degree in political science, a 4.0 and met the man I married after graduation and had a baby with. I work in BigLaw as a paralegal now, that guy and I are divorced and I'm remarried to a musician who I would have been too shy to talk to when I was 16. I still go to shows and am wearing motorcycle boots at work under slacks right now. I also have tattoos that you can't see under my business casual attire. Teenage me would probably think that I'm trying too hard to be cool at 32, but I didn't really care what people thought then and I don't care any more now.

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"I was the leader/organizer in my group of friends but was also friendly with everyone else. I was never picked on, nor did I pick on anyone else."

I grew up in an affluent town where if you tried to look down on others, you were considered a loser. Everyone was affluent and accomplished, as were their parents and grandparents, and great grandparents, much moreso than here.

I never understood people that felt they needed to be sneaky (!!!!) and/or mean (and not admit it) to get ahead in life. They are really not getting ahead at all. We currently live in an inner suburb where frankly, certain parents should be embarrassed for their behaviors, but are too stupid to realize.

Funny thing is, they never went to the "top schools", yet expect some (true) miracle from their own children, as they attempt to elbow at others (in a literal and figurative manner, sadly). I guess they also believe in the tooth fairy and santa clause.

We do our own thing, OP. We are happy in our own lives and successfully ignore the losers (see above).

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Pretty, and smart but poor and screwed up family in a very affluent, preppy town. So loner in many ways. I dated the very popular athlete who happened to be very smart because I was. "Unusual" to him. We are still friends. College academic scholarship, top school, started to believe in myself, dated wonderful guy in college. Came to dc and did very well married a good guy and hard worker and we are doing well. My outsider status stays with me in a good way. Trying to raise grounded kids with empathy. Fwiw, my background is serious substance abuse, food stamps, free lunch , house foreclosure, parental neglect, depression , rape in college, personal bankruptcy at young age. If you knew me now you would never guess. I am grateful and so very lucky.

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Skinny. Straight-a student. Accepted in popular crowd but maybe more of a ven diagram subset. Pushed the envelope with fashion (it was the 80s). Became an inadvertent college-scholarship worthy athlete which helped balance me out and earn the respect of others who would have otherwise made fun of me. Guys discovered me at 17. It was a bit awkward until then and then a lot of unexpected attention that was both welcome and terrifying. Definite late bloomer. In college, rebelled and dove into artsy crowd.

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I was an overachiever (good grades, extracurriculars) and had a lot of friends, but I wasn't in the coolest popular clique. I wasn't bullied. I think I was seen as kind to everyone because when we graduated I had several acquaintances tell me so. I've never forgotten it because I had no idea just being friendly and nice could be unusual. I hope I'm still nice.

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I was quiet and kept to myself. I was an average to above average student. Glad I went away from that small town and never looked back. But I'm still struggling in my career. Hopefully going to grad school will change things.

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A couple years into high school went from being normal plain old average student & very good athlete - the MVP at my sport/school - to being a sorta grungy type who drank too much at keg parties! I was referred to as a 'grit' briefly during that time. I think I embarrassed myself for about a year/year and a half in hs!

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I was a girl jock back in the late 60s-early 70s when that made you an outsider rather than popular. I also liked to read and I had a lot of angry opinions about politics. Angry and depressed a lot. I could hardly wait to go to college so I could join the anti-war movement. I had a couple of friends who were not jocks. (I didn't fit in with the jocks either.) I also was too shy to talk to boys. I didn't fit in with typical girls but I wasn't any more comfortable with boys. We were pretty much outsiders who didn't belong but I wasn't shy about sharing my opinions.

Today, still a jock, still political. Much less outspoken and much more careful about what I say. Not socially awkward at all but still don't have many close friends. I think of myself as a "sociable loner." I know how to mingle at parties and ask people about themselves but my only close friend is my husband. My goal nowadays is to be nice to people.

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I was and still am someone who thinks stereotypes are simplistic.

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Title reminded me of The Breakfast Club. I was the nerd.

[Anonymous]

I was valedictorian, captain of three sports, and all state band. I was probably second tier popular, but didn't really care, because I mostly hung out with my two closest friends and my boyfriend. I did party occasionally, but wasn't promiscuous, and only alcohol, no drugs. I was a mean girl when I was in elementary, but outgrew it. Now I'm fairly inclusive and friendly, and successful professionally. Also have a DS and DH I live very much. I think I'm pretty lucky. One other thing to note, I am from a small town...so not a lot of competition in academics, sports or music.

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as a child, I was insecure and a bit shy, as an adult I am very out spoken, not shy in the least and a leader. I hung out with all types in high school. I was against the "groups". I did not judge others on what they worn, did or looked like. If I liked them I like them. Pretty much the same now.