My DW is Boring...

[Anonymous]

Nothing wrong with shopping or going to the gym. My question to OP would be what is the source of the emptiness you are feeling that makes you want to flit around constantly? Try being alone with your thoughts. Still.

[Anonymous]

I don't flit around, but there are things I enjoy that do not involve shopping or going to the gym with DW. In fact, I prefer to workout alone or to play a sport. Instead DW wants me to go to the gym with her (not workout with her). I don't mind to go shopping for 2 hours, but then I should be able to do my thing with or without you. Instead I get a guilt trip about all that needs to be dine around the house, etc. Note: Instead of bring at the mall I could be home fixing the furnace.

My parents were married successfully for 45 years. Part of their secret was to allow each other room to do their own thing. My DW is smothering. Doing things with the "fsmily

[Anonymous]

Means always doing what she wants.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't flit around, but there are things I enjoy that do not involve shopping or going to the gym with DW. In fact, I prefer to workout alone or to play a sport. Instead DW wants me to go to the gym with her (not workout with her). I don't mind to go shopping for 2 hours, but then I should be able to do my thing with or without you. Instead I get a guilt trip about all that needs to be dine around the house, etc. Note: Instead of bring at the mall I could be home fixing the furnace.

My parents were married successfully for 45 years. Part of their secret was to allow each other room to do their own thing. My DW is smothering. Doing things with the "fsmily

Your initial complaint was that she doesn't want to do things with you. Now, it's that she is smothering. Sort your thoughts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't flit around, but there are things I enjoy that do not involve shopping or going to the gym with DW. In fact, I prefer to workout alone or to play a sport. Instead DW wants me to go to the gym with her (not workout with her). I don't mind to go shopping for 2 hours, but then I should be able to do my thing with or without you. Instead I get a guilt trip about all that needs to be dine around the house, etc. Note: Instead of bring at the mall I could be home fixing the furnace.

My parents were married successfully for 45 years. Part of their secret was to allow each other room to do their own thing. My DW is smothering. Doing things with the "fsmily

*snort*
I thought you were done with all your "chores" by 9am!

[Anonymous]

Poor overworked, underpaid housewives taking the side of an overentitled SAHM who does not know how good she has it. I wouldn't be surprised if this DH finds someone else willing to meet his needs. They don't sound too extraordinary.

[Anonymous]

You both sound like a bore.

[Anonymous]

I don't understand posts like these. It's just a massive bitch session about a spouse. It would be different if you said, "how can I encourage my wife to go out more?" Instead it's one post after another about pissed you are that she is the way she is. What do you want a bunch of anonymous people to tell you? "Yeah, you're right, she's horrible." What good does that do? "Yeah, you're right, she should change." OK, what good does that do?

You're the one with the problem.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:At least she works out , is she hot

Rather be married to someone interesting than a skinny bitch.

bad idea

the DW might be hot, skinny, and a dead fish in the sack

She can learn how to spice it up but you can't learn beauty with out expensive procedures.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't understand posts like these. It's just a massive bitch session about a spouse. It would be different if you said, "how can I encourage my wife to go out more?" Instead it's one post after another about pissed you are that she is the way she is. What do you want a bunch of anonymous people to tell you? "Yeah, you're right, she's horrible." What good does that do? "Yeah, you're right, she should change." OK, what good does that do?

You're the one with the problem.

This is one of the more insightful and relevant posts I've read on DCUM. Unfortunately, this wisdom will, shall we say, disappear like a fart in the wind.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't understand posts like these. It's just a massive bitch session about a spouse. It would be different if you said, "how can I encourage my wife to go out more?" Instead it's one post after another about pissed you are that she is the way she is. What do you want a bunch of anonymous people to tell you? "Yeah, you're right, she's horrible." What good does that do? "Yeah, you're right, she should change." OK, what good does that do?

You're the one with the problem.

I agree with you up to a point, but it's called a vent. At least writing here on DCUM can get OP some different viewpoints that will engage his brain into working out some solutions about his problem.

Such as actually talking to his wife about it!

[Anonymous]

OK. I'll bite. What can I do to elicit her interest in doing things other than shopping and the gym we can both enjoy?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OK. I'll bite. What can I do to elicit her interest in doing things other than shopping and the gym we can both enjoy?

NP here. Maybe that's a little over-ambitious for you right now. Have you tried therapy? Can't hurt to explore your feelings of contempt for her to sort them out. That way you can decide whether you want to stay and work on finding activities that you both enjoy or else divorce. It must be miserable to be living with someone you are so disgusted with - for you, her, and your child. Nobody's benefiting from this. If she won't do anything to change the status quo, then you need to step up to the plate.

[Anonymous]

To me you sound like a dream husband. Mine smokes pot and does nothing, but at least he has a job at the moment. Oh and he would NEVER go to a museum, opera, ballet, etc if I paid him.

[Anonymous]

Thank you. As Joni Mitchell writes: Don't it always seem to that you don't know what you've got 'til it's gone."