Waiting for decision letters

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Leave OP alone people. All of us have lives and love our children dearly. Why can't we just all admit that the application process can be difficult and anxiety provoking at times?

You post publicly, you open the door. Parent with Alzheimer's? Child with severe special needs? Lost job? End of a marriage? Those are problems. The fact that you can't learn immediately which expensive private kindergarten your child should attend? That objectively is not a problem, and I am not alone for feeling zero sympathy.

[Anonymous]

I don't OP was seeking sympathy, but this board is chock full of empathy on this issue!

[Anonymous]

Waiting? I haven't even written the essay yet! Guess I better get on the ball!

[Anonymous]

I understand where you are coming from as I am going through the same thing.

However, I have told myself it really doesn't matter if she gets in or not. If she doesn't get into any of the private schools she applied to...she always has her public middle school to fall back on. It is not the end of the world. This is exactly what I have told my DD as well.

The way I see it, we did our part now it is in God's hands.

Hang in there and best of luck.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Leave OP alone people. All of us have lives and love our children dearly. Why can't we just all admit that the application process can be difficult and anxiety provoking at times?

You post publicly, you open the door. Parent with Alzheimer's? Child with severe special needs? Lost job? End of a marriage? Those are problems. The fact that you can't learn immediately which expensive private kindergarten your child should attend? That objectively is not a problem, and I am not alone for feeling zero sympathy.

Sure those are much bigger problems but no matter how big or small...a problem is a problem. To each it's own. You have your stresses and we have ours. Stop being so bitter.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I certainly understand why the turnaround time is what it is, but it is tough not even having an indication of whether DC will get in to the schools we applied to!

Get a life.

Have one and I love it. I am completely devoted to my child and believe a certain school is right for her. I consider myself fortunate to be able to spend my time thinking about her application rather than trolling the Internet to harass strangers.

Given the age of your attempt at an insult, I am going to hazard a guess that you shout, "NOT!" at people after saying something false.

+100

[Anonymous]

My devotion as a parent, however, means I want the best for her. I know what option is best and I want it to work out. Will my thinking about it make it so? Of course not, but I am a normal human and I think about things that matter to me from time to time

I certainly don't doubt your devotion as a parent, but you are not handling this process maturely. As you yourself acknowledge, your anxiety serves absolutely no useful purpose. Put your energies into having fun with your kid, rather than worrying about something that you can do nothing to change other than what you have already done.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

My devotion as a parent, however, means I want the best for her. I know what option is best and I want it to work out. Will my thinking about it make it so? Of course not, but I am a normal human and I think about things that matter to me from time to time

I certainly don't doubt your devotion as a parent, but you are not handling this process maturely. As you yourself acknowledge, your anxiety serves absolutely no useful purpose. Put your energies into having fun with your kid, rather than worrying about something that you can do nothing to change other than what you have already done.

Not PP, but another mom thinking a lot about applications. A little anxiety can be healthy. I am fortunate that there is not many other anxiety-inducing events in my life at this time. My son and I have plenty of fun - not sure how a little private anxiousness could be viewed as taking away from that. It is not like we are sitting around doing flash cards to prepare for school visits.

[Anonymous]

A little anxiety can be healthy.

A little anxiety can be healthy if it helps you study harder for a test, work harder on a project. A little anxiety is useless if your child has already taken the WPPSI, done the play date, and you have submitted your recommendations and are just worrying about what decision a school will make.

[Anonymous]

I would say that, unless you are drinking to forget about it or are having trouble concentrating at work, a little bit of worry about a pretty major life event is both normal and healthy. All that said, relax! You will know soon! Now I am off to go think about the rest of my DC's application!

[Anonymous]

Go and get jobs, Stay at Home Moms.

[Anonymous]

I just came on to post this same thing. I can't believe we have to wait two months!

[Anonymous]

My advice is to put a reminder on your calendar for a few days before the due date, and then force yourself to completely forget about it in the interim. I know it's a long wait.

[Anonymous]

It IS going to be a long wait. I am trying not to think about it. Failing, but trying.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Go and get jobs, Stay at Home Moms.

No thanks, I rather stay home in the comfort of my own home and worry about my kids.