How many of you still talk to your exes?

[Anonymous]

DH here with a long line of ex-girlfriends. No communication with most because the relationships ended on a bad note due to my being an asshole. Regret it now. Some were quality women.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DH here with a long line of ex-girlfriends. No communication with most because the relationships ended on a bad note due to my being an asshole. Regret it now. Some were quality women.

Thanks for being honest. If it hadn't ended badly and you were married now, can you see still being platonic friends with the quality ones?

[polychromatic]

Married
Friends with my last serious gf . But she is married as well and it was two decades ago when we broke up.

Talk on FB with one or two others.

[Anonymous]

None. I don't think it's appropriate. Obv if I had children with an ex, I would be in contact.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DH here with a long line of ex-girlfriends. No communication with most because the relationships ended on a bad note due to my being an asshole. Regret it now. Some were quality women.

Thanks for being honest. If it hadn't ended badly and you were married now, can you see still being platonic friends with the quality ones?

I'm that poster. I like to think I could be platonic friends, and am sure I could maintain a platonic relationship. We had many common interests, including professional ones. My one hesitation is DW who I know would be extremely jealous if she knew I was seeing someone I was once intimate with, even if it was not even "just" a friendly relationship and only a professional one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ex=thoughts of past sex.

No. Once I lose interest in a physical relationship, the memories aren't hot anymore.

I have continued a friendship with a few exes for a year or two. I still live with one, actually. We were together about 4 years and have a child. We haven't been romantic for about a decade.

[Anonymous]

Who gives a shit? OP won't answer why he/she wants to know.... Weird

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DH here with a long line of ex-girlfriends. No communication with most because the relationships ended on a bad note due to my being an asshole. Regret it now. Some were quality women.

What? A guy admits that he was an asshole. That is amazing. Good for you for growing up!

[Anonymous]

polychromatic wrote:Married
Friends with my last serious gf . But she is married as well and it was two decades ago when we broke up.

Talk on FB with one or two others.

Do you want sex with them, or do they want sex with you?

I don't believe in men/women friendships. It is a bunch of crap. So which one are you fantasizing about?

[Anonymous]

Still friends with one--we see each other a few times a year. DH and he are casual friends too. The only slightly awkward part is that I'm not entirely sure what his longtime GF knows about our history. We dated 20+ years ago and haven't been together in 17 years. I get the impression she doesn't know...

[Anonymous]

And I keep up with a couple others on Facebook. DH knows and doesn't have a problem with it.

[Anonymous]

No.
Currently married.
Ex was a fiancé and we were together 9 years, I ended it 5 years ago. He didn't want to talk to me ever again. That I could understand I guess. But as to why he'd ignore my parents (they were practically neighbours) I totally don't get. Rude prick I guess. Good riddance.

[Anonymous]

My serious college boyfriend and I are still very good friends, and we're both married. We hang out as couples, and individually. I've even gone out with his wife one on one. I gave the toast at his wedding.

We were young when we dated, different religions, different long term goals... but still like the same music, sports, food...we have a lot in common that I don't have in common with my husband. DH doesn't care at all - he doesn't get dragged to concerts or restaurants that he doesn't like because I have a friend to go with. He knows me well. DH has called him at times when he's noticed that I need a friend to make sure that someone I know well can talk me down, from a different way than he could himself (when I lost my job... that kind of thing).

The whole thing is very mature and straight forward. No sexual tension - we got over that years ago, and are both very happy in our marriages.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My serious college boyfriend and I are still very good friends, and we're both married. We hang out as couples, and individually. I've even gone out with his wife one on one. I gave the toast at his wedding.

We were young when we dated, different religions, different long term goals... but still like the same music, sports, food...we have a lot in common that I don't have in common with my husband. DH doesn't care at all - he doesn't get dragged to concerts or restaurants that he doesn't like because I have a friend to go with. He knows me well. DH has called him at times when he's noticed that I need a friend to make sure that someone I know well can talk me down, from a different way than he could himself (when I lost my job... that kind of thing).

The whole thing is very mature and straight forward. No sexual tension - we got over that years ago, and are both very happy in our marriages.

I think that is super-cool! I'm also still friends with several exes, but not that close. But DH has socialized with some of them.

[Anonymous]

I do...we are actually pretty friendly because we belong to the came club and are both avid golfers so see each other often. It works and now that we are both happy with different people..alls well that ends well. Better for kids too.