Is my DD the only kid who speaks this way?

[Anonymous]

OP, we cannot opine based on a single event.

Probably this is nothing - all children have misunderstandings from time to time.

If this is a regular occurrence, however, it could be that your child has High-functioning autism, like my son. Children on the spectrum have trouble reading social cues and interacting with peers. Some of them have precicious language development, and may adopt a "professorial" tone and speak in a rather pedantic way, which adults think is rather cute but other children do not understand.

[Anonymous]

Both my sons speak more formally than their friends from time to time. For example, my younger says "Wait a moment" instead of "Wait a minute." I think it's cute and quaint and part of their individual ways of expressing themselves. Enjoy it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, we cannot opine based on a single event.

Probably this is nothing - all children have misunderstandings from time to time.

If this is a regular occurrence, however, it could be that your child has High-functioning autism, like my son. Children on the spectrum have trouble reading social cues and interacting with peers. Some of them have precicious language development, and may adopt a "professorial" tone and speak in a rather pedantic way, which adults think is rather cute but other children do not understand.

Love the way folks on here leap immediately to diagnosing others' children and to using autism and "on the spectrum" as a catch-all for anything a child does that's unusual, whether positive or negative. OP didn't say her kid does this all the time and is constantly pedantic or constantly misunderstood by others. I look at other parenting boards online too and there's an epidemic of parents who respond to everything with "Have your child checked, this behavior could be on the spectrum!" This is a disservice to families with kids who really ARE on the spectrum. And it's a disservice to kids who are just being themselves or express a single quirk, but are immediately looked at as if they might have a diagnosable issue.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op I'd be concerned about her not being able to re formulate her question.

Yes, this inability makes me question whether she has much of a grasp of English at all.

[Anonymous]

Your daughter cannot read social cues very well. Unusual for a girl.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your snowflake is obviously very advanced. Bravo Larla!

"Snowflake" and "Larla" - two words only used by someone who has been on here for years, day in day out. Poster, please get a life or a least a hobby (besides DCUM)!

[Anonymous]

So much depends upon the age of OP's DD.
My DD is 6.5 and has a hard time with pragmatic, social speech - she might speak like OP's DD, but it reflects a delay rather than precociousness. My DD's social interaction isn't as fluid as her peers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I cannot believe the suggestion that she is either on the spectrum or needs a social skills group. To use those conclusions as an insult is offensive to all SN kids and families.

IMO what's happening here is this: the OP sounds like she's bragging, so some posters are trying to passive-aggressively put her in her place (the op, not the child) by saying her kid is SN to knock her down a few rungs. Neither is particularly classy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your daughter cannot read social cues very well. Unusual for a girl.

Oh good, now we can add sexism to the responses. Do we have bingo yet?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, we cannot opine based on a single event.

Probably this is nothing - all children have misunderstandings from time to time.

If this is a regular occurrence, however, it could be that your child has High-functioning autism, like my son. Children on the spectrum have trouble reading social cues and interacting with peers. Some of them have precicious language development, and may adopt a "professorial" tone and speak in a rather pedantic way, which adults think is rather cute but other children do not understand.

Love the way folks on here leap immediately to diagnosing others' children and to using autism and "on the spectrum" as a catch-all for anything a child does that's unusual, whether positive or negative. OP didn't say her kid does this all the time and is constantly pedantic or constantly misunderstood by others. I look at other parenting boards online too and there's an epidemic of parents who respond to everything with "Have your child checked, this behavior could be on the spectrum!" This is a disservice to families with kids who really ARE on the spectrum. And it's a disservice to kids who are just being themselves or express a single quirk, but are immediately looked at as if they might have a diagnosable issue.

I agree with a PP that people are passive-aggressively trying to put OP in her place because she was bragging, but I chime in to say that the OP's heading implies that the child does talk like this all the time.

I also think that it's not unusual for a child who is still grasping the nuances of a language to phrase something in a way that is different than most of us would. The fact that the way she said it is actually technically more correct is just a happenstance, in my opinion.

[Anonymous]

Yoda???

[Anonymous]

I think my sons would say.

What are you going to do to become famous?

His answer would be...

I am going to be a football player.

I don't think he would say.

For what will you become famous?

That actually sounds weird.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your snowflake is obviously very advanced. Bravo Larla!

"Snowflake" and "Larla" - two words only used by someone who has been on here for years, day in day out. Poster, please get a life or a least a hobby (besides DCUM)!

Actually, only been here a month. I browse while my snowflake naps (on mat leave) lol

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's NOT any more "correct" to phrase sentences this way in English. Certainly parochial schools forced the notion on many, but that was due to the fact that they also usually taught Latin -- a language in which it's impossible to end a sentence in a preposition.

I say this as a linguistics major: speaking this way is not more correct than putting the preposition at the end of the sentence.

+1.

The point of language is communication.

To answer your question, OP, my DD does not speak that way because her father and I do not. But she does repeat things she hears (she's 3), as do all kids. Other kids (who don't watch Peppa Pig) might be confused when she talks about the "stabilizers" on her bike, which she likes to do quite a bit, which is why I told her most people here call them training wheels. Her dad also speaks British English, so she phrases some things as he does, which even I need to hear repeated. I am so proud of her whenever she can rephrase to help others understand her. How old is your daughter? I'd say if she's past 3, the concept of "can you say that a different way?" is one she should be able to pick up and practice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I cannot believe the suggestion that she is either on the spectrum or needs a social skills group. To use those conclusions as an insult is offensive to all SN kids and families.

I don't think anyone is trying to be unkind, and it's very possible that this child is not on the spectrum. Still, highly formal and pedantic speech is often displayed by those diagnosed with Asperger's.