My 50 year old aunt is pregnant and having the baby!

[Anonymous]

I would be worried about my aunt's health and the baby's...and wondering about guardianship issues should aunt and uncle's health starts failing early.

[Anonymous]

Got my tubes tied at 40, will never have to worry about pregnancy ever again so, No!

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Anonymous wrote:I would be worried about my aunt's health and the baby's...and wondering about guardianship issues should aunt and uncle's health starts failing early.

OP, this came up when my cousin and I spoke since both she and her brother live here. She is one and done and was not too sure how she would feel with having guardianship over her brother if that were to happen. She is the more responsible one and her brother in NC would flat out say no (and would not be my aunt's choice anyway based on past decision that he has made).

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Anonymous wrote:doesn't make sense. Your cousin is turing 35 and her mom is 50? Your aunt had your cousin at age 15 and is still married to the baby daddy?

To answer your question, I would not give birth to a baby when I was 50. I could never rule out the possibility of having a child at that age, but it would be through adoption.

Yes. She had my cousins at 15 and 17 but did not get married to her husband until she was 26. They actually separated for a while since he was living in a big city and she was attending nursing school. She lived with her older sister and mother during this time.

You said earlier that her husband is the father of the older children, so how old is the other children and where are they at? Sorry but your post screams fake.

Please read my initial post. My cousin lives in NYC with her husband and son. Her brother lives in NC. My aunt and her husband both live overseas. We (my cousin and I) are like sisters as we were born the same year. And just for the background, many African women can and do get pregnant after 50. We just thought it was strange that she would consider having a child at this age given the age of her older children and having been a pediatric nurse. She no longer works, but provides advise and prematal care to pregnant women in subs sharan Africa. I am not making this story up.

What's so special about African women that they are able to get pregnant naturally at 50 and beyond? Sorry, but I don't believe that "many" African women can and do get pregnant at 50.

[Anonymous]

MYOB. If your aunt is taking joy in this surprise, you are a bitch to be so negative. Chances are, the pregnancy will not survive, but why can't you be happy for her? If she works with babies, she knows what she is getting into.

I'm 41 and a FTM. If I got pregnant 9 years from now, I'd be shocked and would prepare myself for a miscarriage, but assuming DH and I are still together, healthy, and able, I would joyfully take what life brings me. And I am pro-choice.

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MYOB and tell your aunt congratulations.

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What do you propose OP? A ritual slaughter?

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If I found myself pg, yes. Accidental pregnancies can happen anytime people of the opposite sex have intercourse.

It may very well be a rocky road for both her and the baby for any number of reasons. I hope the family is able to support them both.

[Anonymous]

Biology is what biology is.

Personally, I don't think I could go through with an abortion. I'd just think, "Well, this is the card I'm dealt, so I'm going to do everything I can to help this child grow up healthy and loved." And work my butt off to save $$ so my kid could go to college etc.

And start exercising more, myself. Need to stay alive and healthy for a looong lone time.

I do not think that abortion is an obligation or a "should" for anyone. I am politically pro-choice, but I feel a level of indignation when I hear that social pressures build an expectation for someone of a specific situation to terminate. Instead, I think the default should be to reach out to help, and if the parent feels like he/she can't handle things even with the support you are offering, then that is for them to choose.

[Anonymous]

Think of the alternative.

Your aunt had a peri-menopausal oops pregnancy. So what? It happens, pretty often.
If this happened to me, I would be very worried about my health and the baby's health. But I wouldn't immediately run to abort.

[Anonymous]

Why does it matter what a random sample of people on DCUM would do?

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Anonymous wrote:Biology is what biology is.

Personally, I don't think I could go through with an abortion. I'd just think, "Well, this is the card I'm dealt, so I'm going to do everything I can to help this child grow up healthy and loved." And work my butt off to save $$ so my kid could go to college etc.

And start exercising more, myself. Need to stay alive and healthy for a looong lone time.

I do not think that abortion is an obligation or a "should" for anyone. I am politically pro-choice, but I feel a level of indignation when I hear that social pressures build an expectation for someone of a specific situation to terminate. Instead, I think the default should be to reach out to help, and if the parent feels like he/she can't handle things even with the support you are offering, then that is for them to choose.

+1

[Anonymous]

Oops babies are the best. Instead of looking at it as a negative, look at her age as a positive. She now has money, time and more patiences to raise a little one. My husband has kids in their 20's as well as two little ones and he is far more patient and find parenting far easier with the money & time.

As far as a guardian, you or her kids step up and offer. You are family. It should be a non-issue to me. She probably would have taken you if you needed a home, so why wouldn't you do the same for her child.

[Anonymous]

I know a woman who livesmin DC who had twins at 50 - using her own eggs. I wouldn't be adverse to the idea, I had DC at 43.

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Anonymous wrote:She's been having babies since she was 15? What kind of judgment does this woman have? Will the father be in the picture? Is she financially and mentally stable?

What a disaster.

Holy crap, learn some math, why don't you. 53-35 = 18.