Sick of working! Want a rich husband!

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. i'm SINGLE!

This attitude isn't going to help you find a rich husband, they can smell it when your goal is to mooch off them. Plus, most of the women who end up with rich husbands married them before they were rich, it's a hit or miss thing.

+1 I have a rich husband but I met him when we were both in college and broke. I was with him the whole time he was working hard (and I was working hard) to make it in his profession and I put up with all the late nights, missed vacations, and working holidays that it took for him to be successful. Life is pretty great now and we still have a very happy and loving marriage. I don't think you can get the same thing if you marry a guy after he has done all the work.

So how does one spot a (potential) rich husband ? and not just the average hardworking stable young guy ? It's a skill I did not possess (and still don't) to pass on to my daughter. I married twice, both times to stable average guys who had the same earning potentials as me. So we both have to work to lead a comfortable middle class lifestyle in this high cost area. Also, my husband would not be happy if I quit working (even if we adjust our lifestyle), he does not want the pressure of being the only income earner.

I don't blame your husband. In these uncertain times, it's kind of dangerous to be a sole-earner family, no matter how much that income is. And once someone is out of the workplace, it's hard to just jump back in.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. i'm SINGLE!

This attitude isn't going to help you find a rich husband, they can smell it when your goal is to mooch off them. Plus, most of the women who end up with rich husbands married them before they were rich, it's a hit or miss thing.

+1 I have a rich husband but I met him when we were both in college and broke. I was with him the whole time he was working hard (and I was working hard) to make it in his profession and I put up with all the late nights, missed vacations, and working holidays that it took for him to be successful. Life is pretty great now and we still have a very happy and loving marriage. I don't think you can get the same thing if you marry a guy after he has done all the work.

+1. Exact same situation. There is a lot of trust and shared sacrifice in our history. My DH is the first to look askance at his newly-divorced rich friends' paramours.

[Anonymous]

Don't we all sista!!!

God I would love to just travel and spend money. Ahhh...

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Anonymous wrote:My husband is not rich, but very well to do. I quit my job and lunched every day for a year. One day, the plumber was scheduled to come. I was so drunk at lunch that I had to call my husband and tell him to reschedule. My only job was to pick up the kids from school. I didn't really cook or clean. My husband was happier than a pig in slop.

Ok, I had a blast, but honestly, after about 6 months of shopping, working out and lunching, I was bored to death. I went back to work.

Maybe if I quit after my kids were born or when they were little, it would have been different. My kids are older so I didn't have a lot of responsibility.

couldn't you just have volunteered or did non-profit, ngo, art gallery, fun+sexy "work" and still 'lunched'?

Seriously. What a waste of 6 months!

Actually, it sounds really fun!! And when it wasn't fun anymore, she stopped doing it. Sounds pretty awesome to me.

I begrudge no one a six month break with lots of lunches if they can get it! Why not? Life is short. Be happy.

Dude, really. I would never want that to be my life permanently, but I dream about a brief "sabbatical" all the time where I garden, read, meet my working girl friends for lunch, get pedicures, shop and plan my family's social schedule.

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Anonymous wrote:My husband is not rich, but very well to do. I quit my job and lunched every day for a year. One day, the plumber was scheduled to come. I was so drunk at lunch that I had to call my husband and tell him to reschedule. My only job was to pick up the kids from school. I didn't really cook or clean. My husband was happier than a pig in slop.

Ok, I had a blast, but honestly, after about 6 months of shopping, working out and lunching, I was bored to death. I went back to work.

Maybe if I quit after my kids were born or when they were little, it would have been different. My kids are older so I didn't have a lot of responsibility.

couldn't you just have volunteered or did non-profit, ngo, art gallery, fun+sexy "work" and still 'lunched'?

Seriously. What a waste of 6 months!

Actually, it sounds really fun!! And when it wasn't fun anymore, she stopped doing it. Sounds pretty awesome to me.

I begrudge no one a six month break with lots of lunches if they can get it! Why not? Life is short. Be happy.

Dude, really. I would never want that to be my life permanently, but I dream about a brief "sabbatical" all the time where I garden, read, meet my working girl friends for lunch, get pedicures, shop and plan my family's social schedule.

Oh, and cook. I would cook like a mofo. We would have gourmet dinners 3 or 4 nights and week and tons of awesome dinner parties that I never have time or a clean enough house for.

[Anonymous]

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So how does one spot a (potential) rich husband ? and not just the average hardworking stable young guy ? It's a skill I did not possess (and still don't) to pass on to my daughter. I married twice, both times to stable average guys who had the same earning potentials as me. So we both have to work to lead a comfortable middle class lifestyle in this high cost area. Also, my husband would not be happy if I quit working (even if we adjust our lifestyle), he does not want the pressure of being the only income earner.

How? Do your research and apply some modern analysis tools. First, you need to figure out the profile of the guy you want; professional, deeply religious, working class parents, athletic, out going, etc. Step one is grooming yourself to be attractive to that sort of guy - a strong education, good verbal skills and being fit is always a good start. Maybe take on a foreign language, learn to cook or to sail.

Next, figure out where these guys are when they are at the age that they meet their future wives. This may mean taking a job in IT at a law office or going to Wall Street. It may mean simply joining a young singles group at your temple or church. You can't go wrong with hanging around Ivy league schools.

Check these guys out:
http://www.forbes.com/sites/jacquelynsmith/2013/02/05/10-high-paying-in-demand-jobs/

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. i'm SINGLE!

This attitude isn't going to help you find a rich husband, they can smell it when your goal is to mooch off them. Plus, most of the women who end up with rich husbands married them before they were rich, it's a hit or miss thing.

+1 I have a rich husband but I met him when we were both in college and broke. I was with him the whole time he was working hard (and I was working hard) to make it in his profession and I put up with all the late nights, missed vacations, and working holidays that it took for him to be successful. Life is pretty great now and we still have a very happy and loving marriage. I don't think you can get the same thing if you marry a guy after he has done all the work.

So how does one spot a (potential) rich husband ? and not just the average hardworking stable young guy ? It's a skill I did not possess (and still don't) to pass on to my daughter. I married twice, both times to stable average guys who had the same earning potentials as me. So we both have to work to lead a comfortable middle class lifestyle in this high cost area. Also, my husband would not be happy if I quit working (even if we adjust our lifestyle), he does not want the pressure of being the only income earner.

Your husband is a wuss who needs to grow a pair. I spit in the faces of menboys who complain about being providers. Disgraceful.

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So how does one spot a (potential) rich husband ? and not just the average hardworking stable young guy ? It's a skill I did not possess (and still don't) to pass on to my daughter. I married twice, both times to stable average guys who had the same earning potentials as me. So we both have to work to lead a comfortable middle class lifestyle in this high cost area. Also, my husband would not be happy if I quit working (even if we adjust our lifestyle), he does not want the pressure of being the only income earner.

How? Do your research and apply some modern analysis tools. First, you need to figure out the profile of the guy you want; professional, deeply religious, working class parents, athletic, out going, etc. Step one is grooming yourself to be attractive to that sort of guy - a strong education, good verbal skills and being fit is always a good start. Maybe take on a foreign language, learn to cook or to sail.

Next, figure out where these guys are when they are at the age that they meet their future wives. This may mean taking a job in IT at a law office or going to Wall Street. It may mean simply joining a young singles group at your temple or church. You can't go wrong with hanging around Ivy league schools.

Check these guys out:
http://www.forbes.com/sites/jacquelynsmith/2013/02/05/10-high-paying-in-demand-jobs/

Guys on WS in their twenties do NOT want a relationship with banker/wall street girls.

As someone on DCUM put it really well before...lawyers marry lawyers, docs marry docs, bankers marry kindergarten teachers. Most of my friends who were in banking in their 20's, early 30's dated and married girls who worked in fashion journalism, working as buyers for brands/stores/labels, PR, marketing, etc.

Just a FYI.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't know. I used to think getting a rich husband would be a one-way, nonstop ticket to happy town. But the more I read threads on these forums, the more I get the impression that the SAH wives of wealth men are not only incredibly unhappy, but they're almost a bit soulless. I wonder if they were always like that or if the money changed them, but there's an incredible lack of empathy, a sense of entitlement, and an ugly elitism that pervades their posts.

If that's what a wealthy husband gets a girl, maybe I'm better of with my working-class, sincere, down-to-earth guy and my humble little existence.

Agreed. My sister had a rich husband. Took her 18 years to get to the point where she was ready to divorce him. You couldn't have paid me to live with that self-centered, drunken asshole, especially for 18 years. She worked hard for the money, as Donna Summer sang.

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All my friends have rich husbands. And yes, they are all pretty darn happy and well-adjusted people.

I'm divorced and pretty raggedy poor these days.

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The mistake women make is seeking only the rich. You want rich and generous.

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+1 I have a rich husband but I met him when we were both in college and broke. I was with him the whole time he was working hard (and I was working hard) to make it in his profession and I put up with all the late nights, missed vacations, and working holidays that it took for him to be successful. Life is pretty great now and we still have a very happy and loving marriage. I don't think you can get the same thing if you marry a guy after he has done all the work.

I did the same thing. Except my husband turned into an unbearable asshole after he "made it".

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Did the OP never read this from 2007????? MUST READ for ALL ladies looking for us ballers to put a ring on it. It is long but worth it-

Woman writes into Craigslist:

What am I doing wrong?

Okay, I'm tired of beating around the bush. I'm a beautiful (spectacularly beautiful) 25 year old girl. I'm articulate and classy. I'm not from New York. I'm looking to get married to a guy who makes at least half a million a year. I know how that sounds, but keep in mind that a million a year is middle class in New York City , so I don't think I'm overreaching at all.

Are there any guys who make 500K or more on this board? Any wives? Could you send me some tips? I dated a business man who makes average around 100 - 150. But that's where I seem to hit a roadblock. 150,000 won't get me to central park west. I know a woman in my yoga class who was married to an investment banker and lives in Tribeca, and she's not as pretty as I am, nor is she a great genius. So what is she doing right? How do I get to her level?

Here are my questions specifically:

- Where do you single rich men hang out? Give me specifics- bars, restaurants, gyms

-What are you looking for in a mate? Be honest guys, you won't hurt my feelings

-Is there an age range I should be targeting (I'm 25)?

- Why are some of the women living lavish lifestyles on the upper east side so plain? I've seen really 'plain jane' boring types who have nothing to offer married to incredibly wealthy guys. I've seen drop dead gorgeous girls in singles bars in the east village. What's the story there?

- Jobs I should look out for? Everyone knows - lawyer, investment banker, doctor. How much do those guys really make? And where do they hang out? Where do the hedge fund guys hang out?

- How you decide marriage vs. just a girlfriend? I am looking for MARRIAGE ONLY

Please hold your insults - I'm putting myself out there in an honest way. Most beautiful women are superficial; at least I'm being up front about it. I wouldn't be searching for these kind of guys if I wasn't able to match them - in looks, culture, sophistication, and keeping a nice home and hearth.

What we think:

Dear Pers-:

I read your posting with great interest and have thought meaningfully about your dilemma. I offer the following analysis of your predicament. Firstly, I'm not wasting your time, I qualify as a guy who fits your bill; that is I make more than $500K per year. That said here's how I see it.

Your offer, from the prospective of a guy like me, is plain and simple a crappy business deal. Here's why. Cutting through all the B.S., what you suggest is a simple trade: you bring your looks to the party and I bring my money. Fine, simple. But here's the rub, your looks will fade and my money will likely continue into perpetuity...in fact, it is very likely that my income increases but it is an absolute certainty that you won't be getting any more beautiful!

So, in economic terms you are a depreciating asset and I am an earning asset. Not only are you a depreciating asset, your depreciation accelerates! Let me explain, you're 25 now and will likely stay pretty hot for the next 5 years, but less so each year. Then the fade begins in earnest. By 35 stick a fork in you!

So in Wall Street terms, we would call you a trading position, not a buy and hold...hence the rub...marriage. It doesn't make good business sense to "buy you" (which is what you're asking) so I'd rather lease. In case you think I'm being cruel, I would say the following. If my money were to go away, so would you, so when your beauty fades I need an out. It's as simple as that. So a deal that makes sense is dating, not marriage.

Separately, I was taught early in my career about efficient markets. So, I wonder why a girl as "articulate, classy and spectacularly beautiful" as you has been unable to find your sugar daddy. I find it hard tobelieve that if you are as gorgeous as you say you are that the $500K hasn't found you, if not only for a tryout.

By the way, you could always find a way to make your own money and then we wouldn't need to have this difficult conversation.

With all that said, I must say you're going about it the right way. Classic "pump and dump."
I hope this is helpful, and if you want to enter into some sort of lease, let me know.

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+1 I have a rich husband but I met him when we were both in college and broke. I was with him the whole time he was working hard (and I was working hard) to make it in his profession and I put up with all the late nights, missed vacations, and working holidays that it took for him to be successful. Life is pretty great now and we still have a very happy and loving marriage. I don't think you can get the same thing if you marry a guy after he has done all the work.

I did the same thing. Except my husband turned into an unbearable asshole after he "made it".

Sorry, hope you live in a community property state, pp.

[Anonymous]

Funny, when my DH and I were dating in college, all the beautiful girls never gave him a second look. He was too short, wore thick glasses, drove an old car, and spent too much time studying. I liked him just he way he was. He reminded me of the best in my dad plus the kindness and naivety of my mom. Fast-forward twenty years, he has contacts, makes seven figures and drives luxury coupes. I am one of those plain Janes who doesn't wear much makeup but he still tells me I'm the love of his life.