How do you politely let a guy know you are married - getting uncomfortable!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wht haven't you mentioned your husband yet?

'Cause she likes the attention.

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[Anonymous]

OP, I will join the lone dissenter and say that this is probably not the big deal you think it is. I also do not think that meeting a man's eyes and smiling at him always results in supply closet sex, the way that some PPs apparently do (PPs, I would love to hear more about YOUR lives - sounds fun!).

OP, I think working your husband and kids into conversation can be done gracefully in any number of ways. Figure out a way that is situationally appropriate if you are worried about this.

[Anonymous]

Don't think he's anything but a nice guy. Who asks out a woman wearing a blatantly obvious wedding set? Think you're imagining it.

To the pp with the lunch dates who goes back "with a smile on my face" - the way you describe that is really weird.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Wht haven't you mentioned your husband yet?

'Cause she likes the attention.

OP here. I have mentioned it to my husband.

I've no intention of starting an affair with this guy. Do I like the attention? Sure, I like that after 11 years of marriage and 2 kids, another attractive male finds me attractive.

BTW, this morning I ran into him and he asked me out for coffee. We are meeting up tomorrow.

[Anonymous]

Good god, you really are an attention whore.

[Anonymous]

Good for you. This may be a start of beautiful friendship. Nothing wrong with having a friend. If you're uncomfortable with what transpires, you can close that door any time you like.

[Anonymous]

I will second that. Just be clear that you are happily married. Men and women can be friends. The key is would your husband be uncomfortable if he was with you at coffee, lunch. People who are so insecure to think that being friendly with coworkers is dangerous have issues. Just be yourself, continue to be honest with your husband and be honest with your new friend. Even though you are married, it is still nice to know that someone finds you attractive. I know my husband has lots of female friends at work, heck we were out to dinner at a restaurant and when we went to leave and the waitress made a comment about his build (very muscular) and almost touched his stomach. We just laugh about it. I like knowing my husband is attractive to others and he likes knowing I am attractive to other men. We are all human, just because you are maried doesn't mean you are dead!

[Anonymous]

OP for all you know your gaydar isn't functioning properly. I think it's healthy to have friends of both sexes, especially in the work place. Definitely talk about your DH and kids, like when he asks you how your weekend was, tell him something funny that your DH or kid did. Simple as that. I would give him the benefit of the doubt, that he is just being friendly. Maybe his game plan is to see if you have any hot single friends. If he gets more physical, then you easily reject his advances by moving away, joking around, etc. without offending him.

[Anonymous]

I think you like the attention.

Any happily married woman would have nipped this in the bud.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Wht haven't you mentioned your husband yet?

'Cause she likes the attention.

OP here. I have mentioned it to my husband.

I've no intention of starting an affair with this guy. Do I like the attention? Sure, I like that after 11 years of marriage and 2 kids, another attractive male finds me attractive.

BTW, this morning I ran into him and he asked me out for coffee. We are meeting up tomorrow.

I am 16:30, and I just saw that.

I was right; you want the attention.

pathetic

And to the "beautiful friendship" poster - uh huh . . . If there's eye contact and some guy's chatting you up, I'm sure he just wants to be friends - married or not.

losers

[Anonymous]

PP - do you think name-calling adds anything to your argument? Clearly, you think that happily married people ought not spend a second of their time chatting happily with members of their opposite sex. Clearly, others feel that this is not only possible, but highly desirable. Couldn't you leave it at that? What drove you to be so angry that you have to name-call about something that doesn't concern you?

[Anonymous]

OP, how was the meet up? It seems he's interested in you on some level, but hopefully it doesn't become an awkward situation for either side.

[Anonymous]

PP here, sorry, the meet up is tomorrow. Hope you'll report back, OP, to let us know how things went.

[Anonymous]

Well? Did you do it? No not coffee. IT!

[Anonymous]

Excuse me? I am the OP. Someone else posting saying they were me and that they had made plans to meet up with the man for coffee. That person was a troll. I am most certainly NOT interested in developing a friendship with this man. I have every intention of mentioning my husband and children. I can't believe some idiot had the nerve to hijack my own thread!