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Help I need a schedule for a 13 week old
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Anonymous
| how are you so sure that every baby night wakes out of habit instead of hunger at this age? giving water to a hungry baby that is trying to grow doesnt seem right to me. |
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Anonymous
| I dont night nurse my babies forever, just until they arent hungry anymore. My first son dropped night nursing when he was ready and baby #2 is slowly doing it too, although i fully expect many changes along the way of him decreasing night feeds then increasing again when he's sick, dehydrated, overstimulated, etc. I dont see hunger in infants as a "nasty little habit" that we one should make disappear. I think behavior modification works great on toddlers, but not on infants. For me, trusting my infants hunger cues translated very nicely into watching him trust his hunger cues as a toddler as well, we've never had food wars and he eats almost everything because I dont force him to eat when he's not hungry or deprive him of food when he asks. To each their own! |
Anonymous
| I just don't understand how some woman can put their own wants (not needs) above what is best for the baby. Small babies need to be fed, and every few hours. Their waking at night isn't to inconvenience you, but because the are hungry. They will not stop waking up because they feel as if they don't need the night feeding, nope, they stop crying for you because they know it is pointless at that time of the night. |
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we have multiples and have had the babies on a schedule from the beginning, with no problems. they are now 3 and happy & healthy. we basically followed the baby whisper advice of EASY = eat, activity, sleep, yourself (time for). activity could mean something as simple as a diaper change, just so there is a clear break b/t eating and sleeping so the babies don't associate eating with falling asleep; therefore you won't have to feed them TO get them to sleep). If one baby was asleep when we fed the other, we would either let the sleeping baby dream feed or gently wake him, to keep them on the same schedule (in the beginning feedings were approx 2 hrs apart, stretching to 3 after time). it's not like we NEVER had to deviate, but it was very rarely. to this day we have the kids on a schedule (where we will deviate if we need to) but in general they wake up around the same time, nap, eat, and go to bed around the same time.
this really worked for us. and again, babies were healthy long the way, healthy etc. Our ped approved of the method. it has kept us sane! |
Anonymous
| Op Here - I'm trying EASY but my DD doesn't sleep long enough so it is more like easy plus an acitivity at the end where I'm trying to keep her happy until the 3 hour mark and the next feeding. Not always fun especially since we're having a heat wave and I can't take her for a walk! |
Anonymous
| ah, then i think the issue is really the sleeping part, not necessarily the schedule. what happens after the activity and you try to get her to sleep? is the activity calm enough where it serves to dissociate eating with sleep or maybe it is too stimulating and then she wakes up too much? what about the eating part itself; is it quietly done? The key is to feed in quiet in and comfort, and tiny activity to dis- associate but not stimulate, and then putting the baby down. it's OK to rock her or whatever after the activity to calm her again or lull her, but try to put her back in her bed right before she falls asleep so that she doesn't start associating rocking with sleeping. rocking = comfort/relaxation is fine. |
Anonymous
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I'm not a fan of Baby Whispereres plan, heres a book review from the hippie camp of which I'm a proud member!
http://www.kellymom.com/store/reviews/review_babywhisperer.html |
Anonymous
Wrong. 3-month old babies do not need to be fed every 2 or 3 hours at night if they are feeding well between 7 and 11. This is a fact, I am afraid, whatever you want to tell yourself to justify sacrificing yourself on the altar of motherhood. So you think you are such a perfect mother because you indulge bad habits, but sadly in fact you are an example of the worst kind of self-righteous judgmental denizen of urban moms. I was putting the water information out there for those mothers that need/want it to help them have a life. If you don't want to do it, then by all means don't, but don't prance around looking down on other mothers who choose to go down a different path. |
Anonymous
| Please state the credentials that allow you to assert it is a FACT that 3mos old infants dont need to nurse during the night. The entire La Leche Medical Community would glady challenge your facts, and they have devoted their lives to clinical care, research and patient care. |
Anonymous
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http://www.llli.org/hac.html
this group of professionals disagree with your facts, as do countless other medical professionals. If your fact is true, why do most babies naturally wean themselves from night nursing by 2yo??? |
Anonymous
| OP, as you can see, the opinions on this are varied and passionately personal. Good luck finding out what works for your newborn. |
Anonymous
| all i can say regarding the mom who advocates tricking her newborn in the middle of the night with water is "wow". my pediatrician told me yesterday to very carefully watch water intake for my 9 MONTH OLD because more than a few ounces is not healthy/potentially dangerous. furthermore, i think its really sad that she feels her newborn waking up to eat is a "bad habit". poor kid! |
Anonymous
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