I think my seventeen year old son is gay.
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Anonymous
| This is a TROLL POST. Ii is very obvious, do not be fooled. Only teenagers use so many "!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!". |
Anonymous
Honestly, people trying to give good advice to parents in this general situation (like checking out PFLAG) don't care if the OP a troll or not. Over 400 people have read the post, and others will continue to do so, and they might learn something from the well-meaning responses. |
Anonymous
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Op : Thank you for all of the helpful and insightful post ! I will surely read up and gather as much info as possible. I would never want
to wound my son in any possible way . This is just such a surprise , and I've been terribly confused about how to advise him, and how to talk to him without being offensive. I've never had any personal contact with an openly gay person. So finding out about my son the way I did and the manner in which I did was both hurtful for him and myself. But again THANK YOU VERY MUCH !!!!!!!!! |
Anonymous
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OP : Also I'm not a Troll ! What ever that means? I am how ever a single mother from an extremely religious family. I read the post from time to time
to basically try and get an idea of how things are for other people. The fact that these threads are anonymous helped me , because I didn't want to expose my my son's private matters with anyone! Yes I'm sure I have used way to many quotation . I'm an emotional person!!!!! I'm glad you're perfect though. Again thank you to the well meaning most for you're input ! |
Anonymous
It is clear that you have never known a person who is homosexual or an alcoholic. To compare the two is the same thing as saying that heterosexuality is an addiction, much like crystal meth. |
Anonymous
| Why are you a single mother? Where is the father? |
Anonymous
| We're divorced . After which he decided to divorce the kids as well! |
Anonymous
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You "think" your son is gay. Why?
If he is gay, how does that change anything. A person is much more than his sexuality. From a religious standpoint, do you really believe that the almighty creator of this universe cares how your son chooses to love another person? God is love. You are not going to be able to talk with your son about his sexuality. He is 17 years old. It's too late for you to try to convince him that you accept him for who he is. He needs to find someone else he can talk to about his sexuality. You can let him know that you love him unconditionally. You can be there to support him in every other area of his life. But he will never be able to share this part of his life with you. Help him find someone he can talk to. |
Anonymous
So your religion says it's OK for you to be divorced? But not OK for your son to be gay? What religion are we talking about here? |
Anonymous
It is clear that the poster you are responding to is just an idiot. Don't bother. S/he is truly the Troll; don't feed them. |
Anonymous
| I have two dads. I was taken from a crack house at three months. My dads were the most amazing parents I could ever imagine. I am now a straight, sexually healthy, well rounded 35 year old mother of three who has been blessed with loving parents. My dads saved my life. I had an amazing childhood, and I was raised by gay fathers. People are people. Gay or straight. Black or white. Fat or thin. Tall or short. Your actions define you. Not what your labeled as. My dads were never my "gay dads." They were daddy and pappa. Accept your son. He may turn out to be an amazing (GAY) man. |
Anonymous
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OP, a suggestion. Love your son unconditionally. Please have this or a similar conversation with your son.
Son, you know that I love you dearly. You also know that I am deeply religious and consider homosexuality a sin. However, if, by some chance, you are gay, please know that I love you unconditionally. I may not understand what this means and I may not agree with it, but I will always love you and support you. If you are gay and want to share it with me, please know that there is nothing you can tell me that would make me love you less, even if I have difficulty accepting what you are. If you are, I will learn more about homosexuality and being a family member to a gay person. Definitely look up PFLAG. Also educate yourself or find someone, like a male mentor, who can talk to your son about gay interactions including sex, the dangers (or any sex) and how to protect oneself. I know that having the sex talk is very hard especially for a single parent of the opposite gender, but it is even more important that someone talks to him. |
Anonymous
| In your situation, my biggest fear would be suicide and that I would lose my son. I say this not to be mean but to help you keep perspective. Maybe he is not the son you imagined but I suspect you love him anyway. If so, you should constantly make sure he knows that. The world can be a tough place for gay teens and he needs your support. |
Anonymous
| To the OP: When did you decide to be a heterosexual? ... Oh were you just attracted to men without deciding? That is how homosexuals work, they are just born that way, they did not decide what their sexuality was going to be. |
Anonymous
| Since this is troll I recommend an honor killing |