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am I the only person without cleaning help?
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Anonymous
It's "ridiculous" to clean your own house? Only on DCUM. 
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Anonymous
| OP, tell your DH I had cleaning help when I was single with no pets or children. Do you really actually clean your house as often as you feel it should be cleaned? I didn't, and I had 3 bd, 3 ba house. Much better. |
Anonymous
| Nope. My husband and I work FT, and our second kid is due in a few months. I've never had a cleaning lady. Like many other PPs, I can't get beyond the class thing. This is also why I have only gotten a few manicures in my life. I also don't feel comfortable giving someone I don't really know the keys to my place, and the one time we did hire a cleaning service to scrub down an apartment we had moved out from, I had to go back and re-clean. And, this was after I did a really good cleaning ahead of their arrival. It was the worst $100 I've ever spent. We clean together as a family on the weekends, and my DH and I split up daily spot cleaning and tidying up throughout the week. It probably helps that we live in a small condo, although I'll admit that there are definitely weeks when our place is a sty. |
Anonymous
Some people might not like strangers in their home. |
Anonymous
| DH and I both work and we have one child and two dogs and we do not have cleaning help. Our home is decorated in the 'minimalist style', so there is not a ton to dust and move around. I clean on Saturday mornings while my DH keeps our child busy. Laundry is done on Saturday afternoon and folded Sunday when DC takes a nap or has an activity. Sometimes, we do laundry on a Thursday, depending on how much there is. Our home is clean and neat, but probably not as spotless as it could be, but with two dogs and a 4 year old that is to be expected. I have not problem with my home. DC also helps and we teach him things little by little. I would love to have some cleaning help, but our monetary priorities are on a different level right now, so the cleaning help is not going to materialize any time soon and that is okay. |
Anonymous
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Every woman I work with who is married and does not have live-in help (full time nanny or grandmother who lives with and watches kids), has a cleaning lady. This is true whether they have kids or pets or none of the above.
We didn't hire a cleaning lady until DS was 1 year old. Best thing I ever did. Before then, our house never really "felt" clean -- DH would do bathrooms every other week and I'd vacuum and tidy up as much as possible. Our cleaning people come once every two weeks and they do the mopping, which is the hardest thing to do with DS. We love them and DS wants to have them start coming weekly in the next year or so. How did I get him on board? A cleaning service is cheaper than a divorce... |
Anonymous
| 19:11 here - There are class issues and privacy issues too, but I got over them after seeing how nice our place was with help. Also, my mother cleaned homes and DH's grandmother cleaned homes when he was growing up; it's a way to contribute income to other's families and we don't look down on them. We very much welcome them and treat them as part of our family; we also tip handsomely and are very appreciative of all that they do for us. |
Anonymous
| We don't. Maybe some day, but at this point, I managing OK on my own. Both parents work FT, we have 1 15 mos old. |
Anonymous
| ::Raises hand, not sure if acknowledging this should be embarrassing in this area:: |
Anonymous
| We don't, but we certainly could afford it. I've never been satisfied with the cleaners, and I am fairly neat and clean. It helps to be somewhat minimalist, to keep on top of things, and to have only one kid. |
Anonymous
| every other week is well worth it. really, it is one night out less a month. |
Anonymous
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A cleaning lady is not a status symbol. I sometimes have one, but mostly do not. Extremely high HHI, have nice things, etc. I have had several cleaning people, mostly good. I would recommend the one I had most recently. But honestly, if you clean a little at a time (bathrooms one day, for example) it isn't so bad. It is humorous to me how many people here do things in order to try to have a status symbol. Seriously, it's funny. |
Anonymous
| PP, i don't think any of the pp's mentioned status symbol, except may be for those who do not use cleaning help for their stated class /race issues. It is not status symbol, it is cleaning help - the discussion is not about a butler! |
Anonymous
| We can't afford it. DH and I both WOH and have 3 kids. Two of the kids have special needs and we can hardly afford the therapies much less a cleaning person. Before we had kids, we didn't need the help. I've gotten over the fact that my house isn't as clean and tidy as I want or as nice as my friends/neighbors. Some of the neighborhood kids come over to play with our kids to fulfill their community service requirements. It gives DH and me some time to get extra stuff done around the house and we're really grateful for that. |
Anonymous
Seriously! I'm with you. |