Inflexible People

[Anonymous]

Hate to oversimplify, but it wouldn't be a bad thing if we all treated each other a little nicer. Of course not on DCUM, but in real life.

[Anonymous]

I can't believe the wife of the sitting couple didn't say anything! How could she just sit there and let it happen? Is she stupid? Or maybe they are a match made in heaven, ha ha!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

I can't believe the wife of the sitting couple didn't say anything! How could she just sit there and let it happen? Is she stupid? Or maybe they are a match made in heaven, ha ha!

Or maybe she's abused???

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

So at the movies a couple refused to move one seat so another couple could sit together. The theatre was packed. The theatre actually started chanting "scoot over! scoot over!" Everyone knew he was in the wrong and he just kept going off as if he was entitled to be an a**hole . What gives? I see this behavior a lot, and am not sure if it is regional, southern, or whatever. It just seems a needless pissing contest. Is it an a**hole contest? It costs nothing to to do the right thing, yet so many seem hell bent against it, as if they need to make a point. It is not as if "they didn't know", they clearly and adamantly refused to scoot over one. There was no "pressing need" to be an a**hole. Clearly it is indicative of the inflexible people having bigger issues and needing help, and clearly it is antisocial, if not asocial and a bit psychotic. The fact that it is so prevalent is disturbing. Why would it be acceptable to be this psychotic? It's just a seat. Are people that out of reality as to what is in perspective and what is not? Do people have this much blatant disregard for doing the right thing and this high a need for feeling they are right? I've also seen others take people's assigned seats at events and feel entitled, which makes no sense at all. If I have not seen it so much, I wouldn't mention it. It seems epidemic. What gives? Is this a new acting out? No love from mommy and daddy? No mommy and daddy?

You can erase southern from your possible reasons. There's nothing "southern" about Washington DC and northern Virginia!

I'm from the south and we are taught good manners and would have moved without being asked. I think it was a yankee because so many of them gravitate to this area and so few have manners..

[Anonymous]

my husband and I try to go to movies as soon as they come out and the place is often packed. Many times we have had to split up and sit separately to get seats. I don't understand what is wrong with this. Am I missing the part of the wedding ceremony where I promised to always sit next to my husband?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ah, perhaps they arrived early and chose those particular seats for a reason, and didn't feel like moving to accomodate latecomers - especially after being heckled? I know when I was pregnant the only way I could go to a movie was to sit in an end seat so I could make multiple trips to the restroom without making people stand up for me each time. Why did the other couple feel entitled to arrive late and be accomodated?

I completely agree with this. A few years ago when I was finishing up finals, LSAT, my grandma had just died and I was fighting a cold...a lot all at once...so I went to a movie to decompress and escape for 2 lousy hours. It was just before Christmas and the theater was full, though there were lots of seats toward the front. A couple came in an asked my to move so they could sit together. I did move but then the man REPEATEDLY got up and blocked my view, came back, got up...several times in the first 20 min. The girl half of the pair said "sorry" and I said "it's getting old" then she copped a big attitude about how I should just be grateful he didn't puke on me. Seriously? If he's puking shouldn't he be at home and not at a chick flick bothering people who managed to arrive on time and pick their seats? I had already done them the courtesy of moving when there were other seats they could have sat in even if they weren't preferable (they were closer to the bathroom FWIW.) Anyway, people who arrive late and then expect people to move for them are the ones who are wrong in my opinion. I would NEVER have the balls to arrive late or even after the theater was full but the movie hadn't started and then ask someone else to move to accommodate me. That's THOR! (The height of rudeness.) If you are late you take what is left. Besides that OP, you don't know what kind of day those people had. Why be the one to throw them under the bus? Did it make people feel superior to heckle and bully them? You are accusing the people who were there first of the very behavior the rest of the patrons participated in. Lead by example and get there earlier next time.

[Anonymous]

I'm from the south and we are taught good manners and would have moved without being asked. I think it was a yankee because so many of them gravitate to this area and so few have manners..

A "yankee"??? I didn't realize we were living in 1863. I feel like I am watching "Gone With the Wind"..........

[Anonymous]

To all the wonderful people from the south-bless your hearts.

[Anonymous]

Are these the same people who refuse to leave their parking space if they think someone is waiting for it - no matter how patiently? Why the need to make such a point? Are their lives so empty?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:To all the wonderful people from the south-bless your hearts.

Are you being serious? I can just hear your syrupy voice as you say that.


Ewww.

[Anonymous]

It's a little scary to me how many people really, really need help and take it out on total strangers!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can't believe there are still people who think the DC metro area is southern.

When we moved here in 1972 from Massachusetts, my mom (who grew up in NC) told me she was so happy to be back down south. She said DC was such sleepy southern town (not hardly a city) back then but now its a big city, like Atlanta (!) My New England relatives consider us as southerners.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My mother is like this. Definitely asocial, definitely bordering on psychotic. I have seen her refuse to "scoot over" at the movies...not when it is the last seat available, but still when it is rude not to do so. For the record, we are not black and not poor. There is definitely a weird dynamic going on here. Through therapy a few decades ago, she came to a realization that she had been passive and bullied all her life. So apparently now she feels that she can be the bully. I don't think her therapy really worked well for her.

Oh god, were our mothers separated at birth?!

[Anonymous]

Maybe there was a reason (maybe the seat on either side was broken or in back of a tall person or something). But it seems like they could have just said "sorry" and explained why.

Of course, the polite thing to do - is after asking once, to give up, move on, and next time plan to arrive earlier.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:my husband and I try to go to movies as soon as they come out and the place is often packed. Many times we have had to split up and sit separately to get seats. I don't understand what is wrong with this. Am I missing the part of the wedding ceremony where I promised to always sit next to my husband?

Ha, there are some folks who really believe that is part of the vows....