Gifting Doctors

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Geez typical of dc people to get nasty when someone does something nice--god forbid it might start a trend and then they too might have to do something. I sent my OB's office a basket of fruit and treats and I did it because I was thankful for a lot of wonderful service. Miss Manners would tell some of the haters that when someone gives a gift it should be accepted in the spirit it was given and not judged--for me the spirt was a huge thank you and I have no regrets. In my own profession (PR) I have been sent flowers by clients who wanted to say a special thank you and I too was surprised and happy and didn't think anyone was having some kind of ulterior motive. As for hubby who complained--my instinct tells me that he is cheap as the cheapest people tend to get annoyed when other people do nice things and then try to turn around the sweet gesture.

I don't think you should call people who disagree with you "haters."

And insulting the OP's husband and calling him "cheap" is very unkind too.

Maybe YOU should go back and re-read Miss Manners?

[Anonymous]

What does the dr's spouse do with a bunch of dust collectors from Tiffany? That spouse is most likely a big fat nobody. Just an observation. That spouse is good at figuring out what to do with your kindness. Keep feeding the monster.

[Anonymous]

ouch.

[Anonymous]

Sorry but a gift is a gift and shouldn't be questioned and it is rather controlling to decide when someone can give a gift. As for the cheap hubby--sorry that is my opinion and I have seen a correlation between people and this case "the hubby" who get mad when someone gives a gift where they think it's inappropriate and overall cheapness and mean spiritness. Oh if the only problems of the world were people being too nice to each other. I stand firm that if someone gives you a gift, you say thank you and then have a nice day. It's that simple.

[Anonymous]

When I was a teacher, I would receive many gifts. It felt awkward if the gifts were costly. Notes are always welcome and anything hand made felt like it came from the heart. The satisfaction of teaching children was my gift. I would imagine that most professionals would feel that way.

[Anonymous]

I have to agree with the idea of a heartfelt thank you note.

I've received some in my profession, and they just make your day. It's something small, inexpensive and nonintrusive that anyone can do.

Sometimes gifts make make the recipient feel awkward, but a Thank You note is always appreciated IMHO. It shows that you took the time out to acknowledge someone else's efforts.