Miscarriage at 9 weeks - waiting it out vs. D&C

[Anonymous]

22:16 here. I've had 5 MCs - 2 natural and 3 D&Cs. The D&Cs can cause scarring, so it's something to be wary of. You should also know they can test for scarring, and in most cases the scarring can also be fixed. (Mine just was.) It wasn't great, but it wasn't the end of the world. Natural miscarriages are hardly a picnic either. With my natural MCs, the one at 6 weeks passed pretty easily and wasn't a problem. The MC at 8 weeks took 6 freaking months before the HCG was out of my system and the bleeding stopped. That was miserable and at my age, I didn't have 6 months to wait (not to mention the 6 months after that that I needed to get over it all). Plus, my Os was open that whole time, which left me vulnerable to infection.

IMHO, there's no "good" way to have a MC. It's all about what you want, 14:46, and about what risks you're comfortable taking. If you want to get back to TTC right away, then you may be more willing to take on the risks of the D&C. If it's important for you to be connected to the process or to mourn or whatever it is that attracts you about a natural MC, and you're not worried about the possible risks from that method, then that's the route. There's no rush to make a decision though, so go with what works for you.

14:46, have you talked with your OB? It's really good to hear that you're reaching out to family and friends. Let them be here for you.

[Anonymous]

14:46 here. Thank you 22:16. I'm happy I've shared this with friends & some family. I'm very realistic about this entire situation, though frightened at the same time. I didn't find my doc to be very supportive, thinking he frowns upon older women & pregnancy. He offered little comfort, let alone information. I've researched so much on the subject of m/c. I prefer to miscarry naturally, which I may regret, I've heard some painful stories, but at the same time, know we are built for this natural process. Today is 10 wks & still no symptoms of m/c. I didn't realize the emotions connected to waiting for this loss officially. I realize if nothing happens in another week or so, I must revisit my options.. this is so hard...

[Anonymous]

OP - I'm very sorry for your loss. I would opt for the D&C. I had 3 in a row. 2 of which were done within a week bc they "missed a spot." I can tell you that we did the procedure on a Friday morning and I was back to work comfortably on that Monday. I didn't experience much pain other than the day of the procedures probably bc of the drugs really. And being honest, I kind of enjoyed the anesthesia and feel like I earned it. My cycles were back on track within 4-6 weeks and the bleeding was minimal, which I hear is not the case when you wait it out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:14:46 here. Thank you 22:16. I'm happy I've shared this with friends & some family. I'm very realistic about this entire situation, though frightened at the same time. I didn't find my doc to be very supportive, thinking he frowns upon older women & pregnancy. He offered little comfort, let alone information. I've researched so much on the subject of m/c. I prefer to miscarry naturally, which I may regret, I've heard some painful stories, but at the same time, know we are built for this natural process. Today is 10 wks & still no symptoms of m/c. I didn't realize the emotions connected to waiting for this loss officially. I realize if nothing happens in another week or so, I must revisit my options.. this is so hard...

OP,
I have miscarried naturally and w/ medication. Each time it was one bad afternoon, and then a week of bleeding that was not too different from my typical period. Just wanted to let you know that you can do this. Hang in there.

[Anonymous]

I'm the original OP of this thread, from back in January. 14:46, my heart goes out to you. In case this is of interest to you or anyone else reading this at a future date, I decided to have a D&C in early January, got my period back in February and got pregnant again in late March. Am now 13 weeks and as of an ultrasound at 11 weeks, everything looks good. For me, I'm very glad that I went ahead and got the D&C. I was ready to get back to trying and there's no telling how long I would have had to wait to miscarry naturally. I totally understand the countervailing considerations and everyone is different but wanted to share the end of my story.