What to dress kids in for a "formal" wedding? Does DH need a tux?

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Anonymous wrote:You kids should be in a suit and not with tennis shoes.

I disagree - formal is a step down from black tie or black tie optional. Nice clean sneakers (sambas, on’s, etc) are fine with a suit for kids. You’ll see adults in khakis with blue blazers - formal is the least clear dress code and it’s always all over the place.

Formal does not include khakis and blue blazer for men.

It depends because west coast formal is very different from east coast. Time of day matters too. Need more information.

I’m the PP and realized I was thinking of formal weddings I’ve been to in Naples FL which to PPs point probably lean more casual (plus everyone is stupid loaded so it’s not really a dress to impress situation when you’re getting there on your private jet). Similar to the PP who said the only one in casual shoes at a Chicago formal wedding was the billionaire BIL. So +1 to needing more info.

If everyone in these circles understand that the events aren't really formal, I guess that's fine. But I think the billionaire BIL in the Chicago wedding example was just plain rude.