VERY awkward situation

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Anonymous wrote:We are conservative republicans. I know some parents who despise trump and may not have my kid over if they knew we voted for him.

So you hide you conservative Republicanism to get you kid a playdate? What are you saying with this post?

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I never wanted to hang out with other parents. It's just too messy and relationships based on short-term convenience. Didn't friend any of them online, intentionally. You don't need social media to give you insight into people. You only need to talk to them for fifteen minutes with a few targeted questions and their words and body language will tell on them every time. You watch how they talk about their children-- big tell. Most people aren't very smart, they're too emotional and reactive, easily manipulated, and don't think very deeply. They're boring.

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This would not bother me.

That said, just decline the invite when she is the host, if you are not comfortable with her supervising your child. You should still invite the child when you host (as her parents’ views are not her fault).

As others have said, this friend group likely won’t last much longer anyway. Girls’ friendships start to shift soon (9-12 age range) and parent involvement lessens greatly as well. Most of the adult “friendships” morph into polite acquaintances at best.

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Anonymous wrote:We are conservative republicans. I know some parents who despise trump and may not have my kid over if they knew we voted for him.

So you hide you conservative Republicanism to get you kid a playdate? What are you saying with this post?

I’m not saying anything. I learned as a young adult to not talk politics and religion around people as it can be polarizing.

These people are not my friends. These are the parents of my children’s friends. I don’t want to know or don’t care what their politics are. There have been some acquaintances and mom friends I stopped following on social media because of their political rants. Our kids aged out and weren’t friends and didn’t attend school together anymore.

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My husband and I agreed early on that we didn't want our kids in homes with unsecured firearms (or any guns really, but...) It's a touch awkward, and even harder if you've got an established group, but I would always ask before going to the home of someone new how any firearms were stored, if they had them.

Honestly, the few folks who did appreciated the question, and those who didn't appreciated it even more. If anyone had said 'none of your damn business' I would have known that wasn't a house where I'd want my kid to spend time.

I wouldn't love spending time with a high maga person, but... if they were not a danger to my child and everyone was young enough for me to also be there, I might?

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Troll. IG did away with seeing people’s likes over 5 years ago.

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Anonymous wrote:Oh no she likes Donald trump oh my

Actually, supporting Trump right now after all he has done says a lot about her lack of character. And probably lack of common sense, decency, honesty, etc.

Very valid judgment.

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Anonymous wrote:Was she for or against marijuana? Normally conservatives are against.

The only thing on the list that would bother me is if she’s pro marijuana. I don’t want that around my kids (the drug or even the idea that the drug is okay).

If you don’t feel the same way about alcohol you are a massive hypocrite

DP, but

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Not remotely believable.

Make up something more credible next time.

It's somewhat believable. But it's always good to remind parents of little kids how frequently and quickly these kinds of things go sour. Most of us with older kids have had parent friendships of convenience that just fizzled out because the kids stopped liking each other. If you get too deeply involved when things go sour, you still have to see them at school functions and probably interact with them to some extent too. You are better off making friends that have nothing to do with your kids (like through work or community groups) and getting your kids together occasionally. If OP is for real, she is already too involved from her description of things.

You live you learn.

Yeah no. The mention of Trump is a dead giveaway. And marijuana. Two hot button topics on DCUM in one post? Yeah right.

NP. Hot topics and completely at opposite ends of the political spectrum. Which makes it seem as if OP is just trying to rile DCUM up on a Saturday night.

Shrug. Not OP, but I’m a pretty raging liberal, never voted R for a national office (only once for local office), and I’m against pot legalization. It reeks and people already have enough legal ways to get “altered” if they really can’t adult up and deal with life.

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Anonymous wrote:You should live in an echo chamber and only associate with people exactly like you.

Was this manipulative twaddle supposed to make OP feel shame or something?

It’s 2026, not 1996. I don’t know if you’ve looked outside your window recently, but things in this country have changed. Who you voted for is indeed a prime indicator of what values you do — or don’t — hold as a person. Thus, we do not want our impressionable young kids left alone under their care (whether you sputter “but…but they won’t talk about POLITICS to/around your kids” or not). For some reason, only people who voted for a particular person seem to get their knickers in a twist when we point that out. Wonder why that is? 🤷‍♀️

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Not remotely believable.

Make up something more credible next time.

It's somewhat believable. But it's always good to remind parents of little kids how frequently and quickly these kinds of things go sour. Most of us with older kids have had parent friendships of convenience that just fizzled out because the kids stopped liking each other. If you get too deeply involved when things go sour, you still have to see them at school functions and probably interact with them to some extent too. You are better off making friends that have nothing to do with your kids (like through work or community groups) and getting your kids together occasionally. If OP is for real, she is already too involved from her description of things.

You live you learn.

Yeah no. The mention of Trump is a dead giveaway. And marijuana. Two hot button topics on DCUM in one post? Yeah right.

NP. Hot topics and completely at opposite ends of the political spectrum. Which makes it seem as if OP is just trying to rile DCUM up on a Saturday night.

Shrug. Not OP, but I’m a pretty raging liberal, never voted R for a national office (only once for local office), and I’m against pot legalization. It reeks and people already have enough legal ways to get “altered” if they really can’t adult up and deal with life.

Um, pot IS a legal way to get altered, at least in Maryland

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Anonymous wrote:I would like some guidance on this situation. My daughter (8) has a very big friend group, she's not close with every single kid in it but they're all friends nonetheless and sometimes, when they have get-togethers, we (their parents) hang out too. It's really not a big deal, some of us followed each other on Instagram as an etiquette thing, I didn't think anything of it. Until I saw the videos that one of them had been liking (Instagram lets you see likes). Now, her daughter is one of the kids who my own daughter is not close with, but I feel strongly that I don't want my daughter to be under her care, like for play dates sleepovers etc. For context, the videos she liked mainly involved marijuana, Donald Trump (apparently she is pro, I am against), religion, things of that nature. We have a "rotating schedule" approach to hosting get-togethers so probably my child will be at her house sooner or later unless I prevent it. What is the least awkward way I could do this?

You do a family thing that weekend and make an excuse your kid can not attend. Your kid only knows you did a family thing.

No way I would let my kid hang with that family.

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Anonymous wrote:Oh no she likes Donald trump oh my

Well that means she's an idiot and in a cult and anti american and promotes pedophiles and criminals, so there we are then you support her kid hanging with people that support all of that.

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Anonymous wrote:Oh no she likes Donald trump oh my

+1 people who forget that he got 77+ million votes make me laugh.

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Oh no. She “likes” religious posts!

If you believe you’re tolerant, have a yard sign that says “we believe”, a coexist bumper sticker or any other tolerance belief, please and kindly STFU.