S/o are upper middle class get togethers with women mostly just pissing contests of who knows wealthy people and

[Anonymous]

What? No. It sounds like you have a shallow group of friends. Try to expand your friend group.

We talk about what books we've read, trying lash extensions and retinol, yes travel, how work is going, what our kids and pets (for the childless couples) are up to.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What? No. It sounds like you have a shallow group of friends. Try to expand your friend group.

We talk about what books we've read, trying lash extensions and retinol, yes travel, how work is going, what our kids and pets (for the childless couples) are up to.

Pssst. This is the family thread

[Anonymous]

What else are you going to talk about during summer break, camps, work, the weather? People don't want to get too deep but want to hear something fun like a cool destination. Movies always come up once chatting is rolling but trips are good topics when keeping things superficial.

[Anonymous]

My grandma is a bit like this, talking about the impressive people she’s known and the impressive things she’s done, but she is 96 and I think the memories bring her joy.

I haven’t noticed it with anyone else I spend time with.

[Anonymous]

This is person by person for me, not everyone I know. But there are two women in my circle who I know are just very prone to one upping and this sort of "look how important I am" behavior. I remind myself that's their deal going in and adjust me approach and expectations accordingly, and it's not that bad. There are times when I would decline to spend time with them because I'm not in the mood, but that's my boundary to set.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We just got together and talked about:

- what gets packed for lunch on the last day of school
-perimenopause and histamines
- Girl Scout cookie selling strategies
- sleepaway camp
- orthopedists
- matzoh ball soup
- Indiana (and more specifically, IU)
- stationery and the practice of sending ppl at work cards for various reasons

This is more like the convos I'm involved in. If travel is mentioned it's because people inquired and people are genuinely interested/want recommendations, etc. We're more likely to ask about tofu-pressing tips.

Just found out from my circle that microwaving tofu for 3 -4 minutes eliminates the need to press!

This is excellent information to have, thank you!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Who went to what party/event/game/vacation/beach house, etc, including which ones your dc were invited to?

Yes I am stealing topics but just curious. I see/hear a lot of this lately in some of my circles and it is so BORING

Although maybe it’s just safer to talk about this stuff than politics

I find this thread BORING

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:People like that don’t age well over the years and they end up lonely. My parents were like that and their most genuine and normal friends drifted away and ghosted them. Over time even the superficial friends social climbed higher and faded off. My mother queen of knowing famous wealthy people, exotic travel and snubbing people she didn’t think were classy enough is now human social repellant. No longer gorgeous and connected and no longer able to hide the abusive side she saved for me she is dealing with the consequences of having screwed up values.

This really struck me. I know a few people like this and now that we are in our mid 50s, their lives seem rather sad and empty. And fwiw this isn’t someone who occasionally mentions a nice trip or event, it is someone who deals almost exclusively in name dropping - whether it be brands, places or people. It gets old fast.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We just got together and talked about:

- what gets packed for lunch on the last day of school
-perimenopause and histamines
- Girl Scout cookie selling strategies
- sleepaway camp
- orthopedists
- matzoh ball soup
- Indiana (and more specifically, IU)
- stationery and the practice of sending ppl at work cards for various reasons

This is more like the convos I'm involved in. If travel is mentioned it's because people inquired and people are genuinely interested/want recommendations, etc. We're more likely to ask about tofu-pressing tips.

Just found out from my circle that microwaving tofu for 3 -4 minutes eliminates the need to press!

This is excellent information to have, thank you!

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Who went to what party/event/game/vacation/beach house, etc, including which ones your dc were invited to?

Yes I am stealing topics but just curious. I see/hear a lot of this lately in some of my circles and it is so BORING

Although maybe it’s just safer to talk about this stuff than politics

I find this thread BORING

+1. People call me exclusive and then talk about things like this. No, hon. I don’t talk about these things. You do. That’s why we don’t talk with each other. It’s not a who’s in or out thing. It’s a we’re different thing.

[Anonymous]

Thankfully none of our friends are like this. We have plenty of other crap to talk about.

[Anonymous]

I just had a four-day girls' weekend at the beach and none of these topics were discussed, nor do they come up with my local friends. We're all UMC and have way better things to talk about.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Who went to what party/event/game/vacation/beach house, etc, including which ones your dc were invited to?

Yes I am stealing topics but just curious. I see/hear a lot of this lately in some of my circles and it is so BORING

Although maybe it’s just safer to talk about this stuff than politics

You can talk about these things without it being a "pissing contest."

Your perception of it as a pissing contest may be more about your perspective than about anything these people in your "circles" are doing. At any rate, if it is all-caps BORING, maybe you need new friends and acquaintances.

I somewhat agree with this because of the weird list OP compiled - when you say game do you mean like a professional football game where you were in a suite or do you mean game as in the high school championships my friend's son just played in?

I have never thought my friends were involved in any kind of a "pissing content" whenever we've discussed things and this includes friends from high school (west coast), college (east coast), grad school/jobs, and local/neighborhood friends. I am UMC and grew up UMC so I've pretty much always been surrounded by the same "class" of people.

I also wouldn't befriend people who would say something just to create a competition out of it or people who would brag though, so maybe that's your problem. Be pickier with your friends?

[Anonymous]

I notice this with at neighborhood gatherings. A lot of people in my neighborhood are insecure.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Who went to what party/event/game/vacation/beach house, etc, including which ones your dc were invited to?

Yes I am stealing topics but just curious. I see/hear a lot of this lately in some of my circles and it is so BORING

Although maybe it’s just safer to talk about this stuff than politics

You can talk about these things without it being a "pissing contest."

Your perception of it as a pissing contest may be more about your perspective than about anything these people in your "circles" are doing. At any rate, if it is all-caps BORING, maybe you need new friends and acquaintances.

I somewhat agree with this because of the weird list OP compiled - when you say game do you mean like a professional football game where you were in a suite or do you mean game as in the high school championships my friend's son just played in?

I have never thought my friends were involved in any kind of a "pissing content" whenever we've discussed things and this includes friends from high school (west coast), college (east coast), grad school/jobs, and local/neighborhood friends. I am UMC and grew up UMC so I've pretty much always been surrounded by the same "class" of people.

I also wouldn't befriend people who would say something just to create a competition out of it or people who would brag though, so maybe that's your problem. Be pickier with your friends?

This is a family thread, people!!