Hosting my first sleepover .. what do other parents hate about sleepovers?

[Anonymous]

All the boys were laughing at my son because he doesn’t have an iPad. Several of the boys brought theirs in their overnight bags and wanted to play Roblox. They’re 8. My son ended up in tears and I’m done with sleepovers and frankly with most of those families.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why is your friend encouraging you to host? Sounds like she just wants a night off.

Right! Kinda rude, hope she offers to host them next time.
Staying up too late, yes later than normal is fine. My 13yo normally goes to sleep around 930. Ill tell her lights out at 11 if having a sleepover with the hope they stop chatting around midnight and fall asleep.
A couple of hours past normal I am ok with.....not 4am.

[Anonymous]

When my kids stay up way too late. Like past midnight and is a disaster for the next few days until he catches up.

[Anonymous]

The recuperation. Ugh.

[Anonymous]

I hate when people invite my kids to a sleepover. I am perfectly happy going about my life not having them and I wish for people to stop thrusting the sleepover upon me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Males are not the only offenders, females and other gender variants are in and outside of the database as well.

94% of sexual abuse is committed by men. I understand that this is upsetting information for many. Sexual violence is a male problem.

Here are the stats in case you’re not willfully ignorant.
https://www.ussc.gov/sites/default/files/pdf/research-and-publications/quick-facts/Sexual_Abuse_FY24.pdf

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A friend encouraged me to host a small sleepover with her child and mine. I was apprehensive having never hosted a sleepover about what the kids will need to keep occupied. It’s only one night.


What do most parents dislike about sleepovers? Also - What do you wish the host parents DID do?

That’s not a sleep over. That’s asking for free babysitting.

Came here to say that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Males are not the only offenders, females and other gender variants are in and outside of the database as well.

94% of sexual abuse is committed by men. I understand that this is upsetting information for many. Sexual violence is a male problem.

Here are the stats in case you’re not willfully ignorant.
https://www.ussc.gov/sites/default/files/pdf/research-and-publications/quick-facts/Sexual_Abuse_FY24.pdf

Nope, I don’t click on links from “anonymous”people that I don’t trust, fool. Isn’t it obvious that the majority of the sexual abuse cases are perpetrated by men? Just because the percentage of non-male pervs is low doesn’t mean that it can’t happen to your child. I would never risk my child’s safety for anyone. For you to present these stats like we all should just ignore that fact, is quite telling. How many sleepover invites have extended in the last 12 months? You seem like the type to keep asking until they say yes. Send them your stats…that should convince them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Males are not the only offenders, females and other gender variants are in and outside of the database as well.

94% of sexual abuse is committed by men. I understand that this is upsetting information for many. Sexual violence is a male problem.

Here are the stats in case you’re not willfully ignorant.
https://www.ussc.gov/sites/default/files/pdf/research-and-publications/quick-facts/Sexual_Abuse_FY24.pdf

Nope, I don’t click on links from “anonymous”people that I don’t trust, fool. Isn’t it obvious that the majority of the sexual abuse cases are perpetrated by men? Just because the percentage of non-male pervs is low doesn’t mean that it can’t happen to your child. I would never risk my child’s safety for anyone. For you to present these stats like we all should just ignore that fact, is quite telling. How many sleepover invites have extended in the last 12 months? You seem like the type to keep asking until they say yes. Send them your stats…that should convince them.

Huh? I posted the stats, and I’m in the opposite camp to your bizarre accusations: no sleepovers.

My point was that it’s idiotic and disingenuous to pretend sexual violence is anything but a male problem.

[Anonymous]

I hate trying to correct behavior of other people’s kids. They don’t act right and my kids act the fool when they are there because they know I won’t correct them as much and they grand stand infront of others. Other people just let their kids have ALL the screens and I don’t know if it’s ok to take them away. No one sleeps. I hate them so much. I never feel like I can relax. I have to watch what I say (like about religion etc). I still let my kids have them but I’d rather they did not. I hope they outgrow them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I hate trying to correct behavior of other people’s kids. They don’t act right and my kids act the fool when they are there because they know I won’t correct them as much and they grand stand infront of others. Other people just let their kids have ALL the screens and I don’t know if it’s ok to take them away. No one sleeps. I hate them so much. I never feel like I can relax. I have to watch what I say (like about religion etc). I still let my kids have them but I’d rather they did not. I hope they outgrow them.

If you can’t handle it wait until they are at least 12 years old.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I hate trying to correct behavior of other people’s kids. They don’t act right and my kids act the fool when they are there because they know I won’t correct them as much and they grand stand infront of others. Other people just let their kids have ALL the screens and I don’t know if it’s ok to take them away. No one sleeps. I hate them so much. I never feel like I can relax. I have to watch what I say (like about religion etc). I still let my kids have them but I’d rather they did not. I hope they outgrow them.

It's YOUR house. It's YOUR rules. A good phrase is "In this house, we don't allow/only allow ...." And if I were you I'd tell my kids if they ever pull that crap again of ignoring your rules or instructions, they won't be allowed any friends over for a while. You can say whatever you want in your home about religion. Just preface it with "We believe that _______." Part of going to other people's homes is learning about how other families do things, including celebrate and practice their religion.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A friend encouraged me to host a small sleepover with her child and mine. I was apprehensive having never hosted a sleepover about what the kids will need to keep occupied. It’s only one night.


What do most parents dislike about sleepovers? Also - What do you wish the host parents DID do?

Disliked it all. We didn’t do that. We would have a cousin stay once a month and vice versa. It was too much for me and everyone needs their sleep.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:letting the kids stay up too late. THey are all miserable the next day.

This. Your kids sound little so this should not be difficult to enforce.

It would be difficult to impossible to enforce at all sleep overs which is why we don’t. Do you want to be up all night policing children or teens?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:letting the kids stay up too late. THey are all miserable the next day.

This. And I find it difficult to sleep when I have kids who may be up and potentially wandering around the house. So I end up waking up at every small sound or movement, someone went to kitchen to drink water, someone used the bathroom, etc also end up sleepy and miserable the next day.