If you thought your kid best suited for LAC did they end up at one?

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Anonymous wrote:Just starting the college search, and my list has almost all SLACs for DD. I think she would do best in a smaller environment, and I think the liberal arts curriculum would best suit her.

Obviously, she will weigh in on this, but I’m curious if your DC indeed chose a SLAC if you thought that’s where they would end up.

College selection should start with your kid. Not you. You really need to let them take the lead.

Thanks for the lecture and not answering the question. And for missing the “obviously she will weigh in” part of the post. You’re so helpful.

You deserve the lecture because you're doing this all wrong. What's with the "my" list and she will "weigh in" bullshit? It should be the exact opposite. Her list and then you weigh in.

Leave OP alone. There is no need to be so rude and nasty. Having the parent start preliminary research and suggest colleges for a list is perfectly normal. You’ve completely overreacted to details in the post that don’t get at the actual question OP posed. Sheesh!

But that's not what she said. She said she's come up with a list and wants her kid to "weigh in." That's not how it works. It's very clear she wants to take the lead. How will she react when her kid says she doesn't WANT a liberal arts college?

She's helicoptering and the time to step back is now.

DP. If you don't like this thread just go elsewhere. This is not different from a school counselor suggesting an initial college list to the kid. Parents tend to know their kids much better. What OP is doing is normal and common among MC UMC parents. Do you even have a kid applying? Just FO.

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I thought a SLAC would be best and that's where DC is headed this fall. DC started with a huge list (parents added lots of suggestion), then did lots of school tours. In the end, DC gravitated to SLACs and said they thought a smaller school was best for their learning style. OP - as the process unfolded for my DC, the best fits rose to the top of the list, which seems to be the general process I've read others on this board having. In the end, it's building a thoughtful list of reaches, targets and likelies that your kid is EXCITED about.

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I think it's wholly appropriate for parents to nudge their 17 yo in whatever direction the parents feel might be the best fit. While I think it's a student/parent process to build a thoughtful list (considering price, location, majors, etc.), I do think the student needs to make the final decision. But again, I think parent input on the list is appropriate. And sure, transferring is always an option, but that's a pretty major upheaval and I've watched really strong students flounder when they hate their school and transfer...who wants to do that whole process twice in back-to-back years.

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Anonymous wrote:Was sure kid would LOVE LACs. Toured most of the NESCAC plus Davidson etc. The core of his list is now NYU, BU, USC. Kids are funny.

Yeah, no, the parents were sure THEY themselves would LOVE LACs. Often one likes one type, the kids the other.

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Anonymous wrote:Just starting the college search, and my list has almost all SLACs for DD. I think she would do best in a smaller environment, and I think the liberal arts curriculum would best suit her.

Obviously, she will weigh in on this, but I’m curious if your DC indeed chose a SLAC if you thought that’s where they would end up.

College selection should start with your kid. Not you. You really need to let them take the lead.

Thanks for the lecture and not answering the question. And for missing the “obviously she will weigh in” part of the post. You’re so helpful.

You deserve the lecture because you're doing this all wrong. What's with the "my" list and she will "weigh in" bullshit? It should be the exact opposite. Her list and then you weigh in.

Leave OP alone. There is no need to be so rude and nasty. Having the parent start preliminary research and suggest colleges for a list is perfectly normal. You’ve completely overreacted to details in the post that don’t get at the actual question OP posed. Sheesh!

But that's not what she said. She said she's come up with a list and wants her kid to "weigh in." That's not how it works. It's very clear she wants to take the lead. How will she react when her kid says she doesn't WANT a liberal arts college?

She's helicoptering and the time to step back is now.

Seriously, what is your problem? Move on to other things. You obviously have nothing of value to contribute to this post nor any intention of actually answering OP‘s question.

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Yes, I thought a LAC would be great for my DD. She had absolutely no interest and only applied to big state schools. She’s at a 40,000 student school now. She loves it but she’s directionless when it comes to what she really wants to major in and I think a LAC would be better for her for supplying advising and supports.

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Yes and yes (now at Williams). We encouraged her to look at a wide variety of schools - public/private, small/med/large, rural/urban/suburban, college/university. She loved many schools, of differing sizes, and in the end went with her gut, despite being accepted by what her counselor and peers thought were "better" schools.

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I thought SLACs would be best for my kids but we looked at a variety of sizes and types of schools. They applied to some bigger schools but ended up hoping for smaller as well and committing to NESCACs.

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Anonymous wrote:Just starting the college search, and my list has almost all SLACs for DD. I think she would do best in a smaller environment, and I think the liberal arts curriculum would best suit her.

Obviously, she will weigh in on this, but I’m curious if your DC indeed chose a SLAC if you thought that’s where they would end up.

College selection should start with your kid. Not you. You really need to let them take the lead.

Thanks for the lecture and not answering the question. And for missing the “obviously she will weigh in” part of the post. You’re so helpful.

You deserve the lecture because you're doing this all wrong. What's with the "my" list and she will "weigh in" bullshit? It should be the exact opposite. Her list and then you weigh in.

Leave OP alone. There is no need to be so rude and nasty. Having the parent start preliminary research and suggest colleges for a list is perfectly normal. You’ve completely overreacted to details in the post that don’t get at the actual question OP posed. Sheesh!

But that's not what she said. She said she's come up with a list and wants her kid to "weigh in." That's not how it works. It's very clear she wants to take the lead. How will she react when her kid says she doesn't WANT a liberal arts college?

She's helicoptering and the time to step back is now.

DP. If you don't like this thread just go elsewhere. This is not different from a school counselor suggesting an initial college list to the kid. Parents tend to know their kids much better. What OP is doing is normal and common among MC UMC parents. Do you even have a kid applying? Just FO.

This isn’t your website and I can post if I want. You’re coming at this as a parent who thinks helicoptering is the way to go and I disagree.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes and yes (now at Williams). We encouraged her to look at a wide variety of schools - public/private, small/med/large, rural/urban/suburban, college/university. She loved many schools, of differing sizes, and in the end went with her gut, despite being accepted by what her counselor and peers thought were "better" schools.

I could have written this. Same for my D (at a different not WASP but T10 SLAC).

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I thought mine might be interested as he wants to study history, but he was absolutely appalled at how tiny the student bodies were. So many were smaller than his high school. After touring a few, the whole category was a no. Too socially limited.

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We made a list of a wide variety of schools that all had a couple of specific things they wanted, ranging in size from very small to enormous. I quietly hoped they would choose a LAC. In the end they chose one.

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Anonymous wrote:Just starting the college search, and my list has almost all SLACs for DD. I think she would do best in a smaller environment, and I think the liberal arts curriculum would best suit her.

Obviously, she will weigh in on this, but I’m curious if your DC indeed chose a SLAC if you thought that’s where they would end up.

College selection should start with your kid. Not you. You really need to let them take the lead.

Thanks for the lecture and not answering the question. And for missing the “obviously she will weigh in” part of the post. You’re so helpful.

You deserve the lecture because you're doing this all wrong. What's with the "my" list and she will "weigh in" bullshit? It should be the exact opposite. Her list and then you weigh in.

Leave OP alone. There is no need to be so rude and nasty. Having the parent start preliminary research and suggest colleges for a list is perfectly normal. You’ve completely overreacted to details in the post that don’t get at the actual question OP posed. Sheesh!

But that's not what she said. She said she's come up with a list and wants her kid to "weigh in." That's not how it works. It's very clear she wants to take the lead. How will she react when her kid says she doesn't WANT a liberal arts college?

She's helicoptering and the time to step back is now.

You have no idea whether OP's kid is also bringing her a list to weigh in on. Usually that's how it happens, everyone comes with ideas.

OP is also clearly open to the idea that her kid will choose differently, so my guess is if her kid's list looks really different she'll propose something like going to go look at the schools on OP's list.

When someone reads a post and inserts all sorts of information that isn't there and then makes a negative judgement based on their hallucinated information, I go hmmmm.

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Anonymous wrote:Just starting the college search, and my list has almost all SLACs for DD. I think she would do best in a smaller environment, and I think the liberal arts curriculum would best suit her.

Obviously, she will weigh in on this, but I’m curious if your DC indeed chose a SLAC if you thought that’s where they would end up.

College selection should start with your kid. Not you. You really need to let them take the lead.

Agree.

Luckily, my kid preferred an LAC. But we did visit one large state school , just to make sure that she was sure.

(And she wound up at a very small LAC, where she excelled)

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Yes. Headed to Kenyon next year. Great all around fit for her.