+100 This is so wrong and unfair |
No, they are not. Not at all |
You tell yourself that. |
Even Niche says you’re in denial. https://www.niche.com/k12/search/best-public-elementary-schools/m/washington-dc-metro-area/ |
I teach in DCPS, and my kids attend MCPS. What this post isn’t addressing is that DCPS sends far less $$$ to some schools in wealthier neighborhoods. I found one spreadsheet saying Mann received $9k per child. Other elementary schools got close to $13k. That adds up, quickly. |
Huh? |
| OP, in addition to what's already been said, keep in mind the downsides of a hyperintense academic environment for kids such as the one you'd find at Whitman. It's not a super welcoming area, either, said as someone who grew up in Bethesda and went to a W high school (though not Whitman). The truth is that kids with substantial support can thrive in many environments, including DCPS (especially upper NW) and MCPS (even outside of Whitman). Where would YOU be happy? If you like your neighborhood generally and all DC has to offer, why not stay? |
OP: Thank you for this. I am surprised to hear that you don't think Bethesda is welcoming. Do you think DC is any more welcoming? (genuine question). People seem to remark often on here how family friendly and family-dense Bethesda is, so this is surprising. I think we'd probably be happy in either Bethesda or the areas around Eaton and Mann because they're so suburban feeling (esp around Mann), so I genuinely don't know where we'd be happiest. Having trouble making this decision. None of the Bethesda public ES seem as interesting as Eaton (so much enrichment and international programming) or offer the low student teacher ratios as Mann, but in the long-term, maybe it's best to buy the house that we could stay in with a great school line-up all the way through? |
It was a compromise that kept upper income families for fleeing back when the whole system was crap. They haven't found a way to unpack it. What comes as a surprise is the extremely high PTA fees per child that is obligated. In the past they have had problems with lists being circulated with non-payers. |
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I think “welcoming” is in the eye of the beholder and also varies a lot from street to street in a way that is very hard to gauge when looking to buy a home.
I found it somewhat challenging to find community in my neighborhood, but I also tend to not consider people friends until I know them quite well and am not great about initiating plans/invitations. I know people who have created amazing communities in my very same neighborhood much more quickly just because of the kind of person/friend they are. Some of them also have been people who don’t leave the neighborhood for 10 hrs/day M-F. People who work closer or can WFH find it easier to make friends because they spend more time in the neighborhood. COVID improved my neighborhood friendships for that reason. I think if you are a friendly person who seeks and builds community you will find Bethesda plenty welcoming. I would look for areas near elementary schools and try to get a sense as much as you can of how many kids similar in age to yours live within walking distance. |
Wait, it's not just an optional thing that rich parents do, they try to force or shame all families at these schools into paying for these extra teachers? What about the poor and middle class kids in these neighborhoods? Do they get looked down on and judged for not paying in? And then their parents aren't allowed in the PTA? |
Yeah, I’m shocked this hasn’t been stamped out with a lawsuit by now. It entirely defeats the purpose and intention of a public school system. |
Wood Acres parent here. A large and functional PTA (low on drama, high on events and volunteers). A parent-led 20+ year tradition in which interested fourth graders perform the Wizard of Oz. WAES is fine. The teachers are fine. You'd be trading DCPS politics and chaos for MCPS arrogance and bureaucracy. Don't move twice. Stay and build community. If your kids need an IEP, go to Bethesda ES (BCC cluster). If you want IB, go to BCC cluster. Whitman has a suburban achievement culture that breeds loneliness, anxiety, substance abuse and cheating. If your kids can avoid these, they can thrive and take advantage of good academic electives, music, sports and clubs. |
Any website that says that inspired teaching is the #2 ES in the DC area has no idea what it's talking about. |
This! |