Hearing Dad talk to his OLD dating matches is so cringe.

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Anonymous wrote:If he's 60+, he'll still find someone. There are way more women than men on the market at that age. There will be someone out there willing to put up with his quirks.

He's 80.

There's a about 1.5 women for every man at that age level.

You may want to be sure he's not going to marry one and give his estate to her when he passes away.

Learned about that from DCUM. He said he isn’t looking to get married.

Until he is. Beware.

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Anonymous wrote:If he's 60+, he'll still find someone. There are way more women than men on the market at that age. There will be someone out there willing to put up with his quirks.

He's 80.

Aww. That’s so adorable not cringe. I’d feel so sorry and want to help him find a partner.. he’s 80.. be gracious

I do not find it adorable at all. It’s actually revolting to me. If he was capable of living on his own maybe it wouldn’t be that bad, but I’ve been taking care of him since my mom died, and I find it to be just awful. He refuses to go to assisted living where I think he’d be much happier. It’s killing me.

So let him date and try to pawn him off on someone else? Isn’t that the end game? FWIW my 79 yr old dad was recently widowed and would like to meet women but hasn’t met any. He’s not going to do OLD, too many scammers. He tried church and met some weirdos. It’s tough out there.

Dad has just stared in OLD and I must admit he’s gotten a lot of pings and some of the women are what I’d consider attractive. Are there lots of scammers?

Post pics to analyze, or use AI detectors or revese image search Google or tineye.com

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Anonymous wrote:If he's 60+, he'll still find someone. There are way more women than men on the market at that age. There will be someone out there willing to put up with his quirks.

He's 80.

There's a about 1.5 women for every man at that age level.

You may want to be sure he's not going to marry one and give his estate to her when he passes away.

I'm really hoping that's what happens. OP seems insufferable.

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Anonymous wrote:All he does is talk about himself, how much money he has, his big house and my mom. No one will ever put up with him. Is there any hope that a crazy woman is so desperate that she will sit through a dinner of this talk?

Yes, of course. That's why he's leading with the money and the house.

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Do you really think this is all that different a dynamic of a high-earner guy at age 35 interacting with women aged 28-35? Men drone on and on about themselves at any age. Younger women "fall for this" too. It's just that their trajectory is to marry, have kids, and then decide that they've had enough of his blabbering that they check out and refuse sex by age 40, whereas the older women's new DH will be dead by the time she's had enough of him.

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Anonymous wrote:If he's 60+, he'll still find someone. There are way more women than men on the market at that age. There will be someone out there willing to put up with his quirks.

He's 80.

Aww. That’s so adorable not cringe. I’d feel so sorry and want to help him find a partner.. he’s 80.. be gracious

I do not find it adorable at all. It’s actually revolting to me. If he was capable of living on his own maybe it wouldn’t be that bad, but I’ve been taking care of him since my mom died, and I find it to be just awful. He refuses to go to assisted living where I think he’d be much happier. It’s killing me.

So let him date and try to pawn him off on someone else? Isn’t that the end game? FWIW my 79 yr old dad was recently widowed and would like to meet women but hasn’t met any. He’s not going to do OLD, too many scammers. He tried church and met some weirdos. It’s tough out there.

Dad has just stared in OLD and I must admit he’s gotten a lot of pings and some of the women are what I’d consider attractive. Are there lots of scammers?

Post pics to analyze, or use AI detectors or revese image search Google or tineye.com

The scammers are really good these days, unfortunately. They may use real pics sent privately to them from some elderly woman they're also scamming. Those may not show up using the usual detection tools.

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Anonymous wrote:All he does is talk about himself, how much money he has, his big house and my mom. No one will ever put up with him. Is there any hope that a crazy woman is so desperate that she will sit through a dinner of this talk?

He probably doesn’t know how to date. How long has he been single/widowed? Do you have the type of relationship with him that you can tell him how he comes across to the opposite sex? It sounds like he’s lonely and just doesn’t know what to do?

This is exactly it. He hasn’t dated since the 60s! She’s been gone 5 years. No, I don’t have the type of relationship where I can give him advice, and I don’t want to have that type of relationship. I don’t want to discuss s3x with my dad which seems to be his main focus. Maybe he thinks this is his last hurrah?

I’m 54 and my bf is 61. We have enough in common and find a lot to talk about. When he starts rambling about himself I just tune him out. In other words, the good out weighs the bad. At this point in my life, I’m looking for companionship. If I can get that 60% of the time we’re together, I can ignore the rest. At our age, we all come with baggage and habits. He puts up my stuff as much as I put up with his.

Interesting, so maybe a 70 year old will just be happy to be out at dinner and can tune him out?

That’s what I do. Can’t have it all at my age. My bf listens to me ramble on about my grandkids and what tv shows I’m watching. He’s a sports person and I’m a Bridgeton person. My nonsense occupies as much of the conversation as his does.

Are you 54 and a grandmother already?

It is not hard to be a grandparent at age 54. I'm 54 and have 3 kids. 30, 27, and 24. I just had my first grandkid last year.

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Anonymous wrote:If he's 60+, he'll still find someone. There are way more women than men on the market at that age. There will be someone out there willing to put up with his quirks.

He's 80.

Aww. That’s so adorable not cringe. I’d feel so sorry and want to help him find a partner.. he’s 80.. be gracious

I do not find it adorable at all. It’s actually revolting to me. If he was capable of living on his own maybe it wouldn’t be that bad, but I’ve been taking care of him since my mom died, and I find it to be just awful. He refuses to go to assisted living where I think he’d be much happier. It’s killing me.

So let him date and try to pawn him off on someone else? Isn’t that the end game? FWIW my 79 yr old dad was recently widowed and would like to meet women but hasn’t met any. He’s not going to do OLD, too many scammers. He tried church and met some weirdos. It’s tough out there.

Dad has just stared in OLD and I must admit he’s gotten a lot of pings and some of the women are what I’d consider attractive. Are there lots of scammers?

I have an uncle with level 2 autism. He has worked a bottom rung job his entire life, lived at home and never had a girlfriend.
Within a couple months of his parents passing (in his 60s) and leaving him their house plus a chunk of money, he had women swarming him. And he wasn’t even doing online dating. They “find” him in parking lots, at church, at physical therapy. Somehow they know he has money now. He’s been through a bunch of girlfriends who cry poor and need emergency money, family urges him to break up, and then he has a new love the next day. This is a man who can’t even look you in the eye, barely talks, with bad hygiene.
Scammers are everywhere and it’s even worse online.

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You would be surprised how many women will love the big house and money talk and yes put up with anything for that in retirement.

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Anonymous wrote:All he does is talk about himself, how much money he has, his big house and my mom. No one will ever put up with him. Is there any hope that a crazy woman is so desperate that she will sit through a dinner of this talk?

He probably doesn’t know how to date. How long has he been single/widowed? Do you have the type of relationship with him that you can tell him how he comes across to the opposite sex? It sounds like he’s lonely and just doesn’t know what to do?

This is exactly it. He hasn’t dated since the 60s! She’s been gone 5 years. No, I don’t have the type of relationship where I can give him advice, and I don’t want to have that type of relationship. I don’t want to discuss s3x with my dad which seems to be his main focus. Maybe he thinks this is his last hurrah?

I’m 54 and my bf is 61. We have enough in common and find a lot to talk about. When he starts rambling about himself I just tune him out. In other words, the good out weighs the bad. At this point in my life, I’m looking for companionship. If I can get that 60% of the time we’re together, I can ignore the rest. At our age, we all come with baggage and habits. He puts up my stuff as much as I put up with his.

Interesting, so maybe a 70 year old will just be happy to be out at dinner and can tune him out?

That’s what I do. Can’t have it all at my age. My bf listens to me ramble on about my grandkids and what tv shows I’m watching. He’s a sports person and I’m a Bridgeton person. My nonsense occupies as much of the conversation as his does.

Are you 54 and a grandmother already?

Why is this surprising to you? My SIL had her first kid at 24, and that kid had her first kid at 25.

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Anonymous wrote:All he does is talk about himself, how much money he has, his big house and my mom. No one will ever put up with him. Is there any hope that a crazy woman is so desperate that she will sit through a dinner of this talk?

Your mom? Is this an open marriage thing?

No, she passed away so maybe that’s not as offensive to these potential suitors.

DP - I'm talking to a widower on an app. I would rather date someone who loved their late spouse than someone who trash talks their ex.

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If he has enough money he will do fine

Fat wallet or fat C will be allow him to have plenty of faults in other areas.

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Anonymous wrote:All he does is talk about himself, how much money he has, his big house and my mom. No one will ever put up with him. Is there any hope that a crazy woman is so desperate that she will sit through a dinner of this talk?

He probably doesn’t know how to date. How long has he been single/widowed? Do you have the type of relationship with him that you can tell him how he comes across to the opposite sex? It sounds like he’s lonely and just doesn’t know what to do?

This is exactly it. He hasn’t dated since the 60s! She’s been gone 5 years. No, I don’t have the type of relationship where I can give him advice, and I don’t want to have that type of relationship. I don’t want to discuss s3x with my dad which seems to be his main focus. Maybe he thinks this is his last hurrah?

I’m 54 and my bf is 61. We have enough in common and find a lot to talk about. When he starts rambling about himself I just tune him out. In other words, the good out weighs the bad. At this point in my life, I’m looking for companionship. If I can get that 60% of the time we’re together, I can ignore the rest. At our age, we all come with baggage and habits. He puts up my stuff as much as I put up with his.

When you start rambling about your feelings or that woman at the office you dislike, can he tune that out?

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Anonymous wrote:All he does is talk about himself, how much money he has, his big house and my mom. No one will ever put up with him. Is there any hope that a crazy woman is so desperate that she will sit through a dinner of this talk?

He probably doesn’t know how to date. How long has he been single/widowed? Do you have the type of relationship with him that you can tell him how he comes across to the opposite sex? It sounds like he’s lonely and just doesn’t know what to do?

This is exactly it. He hasn’t dated since the 60s! She’s been gone 5 years. No, I don’t have the type of relationship where I can give him advice, and I don’t want to have that type of relationship. I don’t want to discuss s3x with my dad which seems to be his main focus. Maybe he thinks this is his last hurrah?

I’m 54 and my bf is 61. We have enough in common and find a lot to talk about. When he starts rambling about himself I just tune him out. In other words, the good out weighs the bad. At this point in my life, I’m looking for companionship. If I can get that 60% of the time we’re together, I can ignore the rest. At our age, we all come with baggage and habits. He puts up my stuff as much as I put up with his.

Interesting, so maybe a 70 year old will just be happy to be out at dinner and can tune him out?

That’s what I do. Can’t have it all at my age. My bf listens to me ramble on about my grandkids and what tv shows I’m watching. He’s a sports person and I’m a Bridgeton person. My nonsense occupies as much of the conversation as his does.

Are you 54 and a grandmother already?

It is not hard to be a grandparent at age 54. I'm 54 and have 3 kids. 30, 27, and 24. I just had my first grandkid last year.

Holy cow I am 60 and my kids are mid 20s neither even married yet

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Has your dad tried the local senior center? At least he'd meet women his own age. Most of the people are from the local area and other people know their histories. They often have classes. Sometimes they have book clubs, put on plays, etc.

Yes, he might meet someone who wants to marry,but more often people are just looking for companionship.

I think the number of scammers would be low.