Settle a debate: DD16 thinks DH is being unfair and I kinda agree with her.
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Anonymous
| We know parents who take money from their kids to drive them to a job. Kids too young to drive. Kids could pay their parent to drive them or walk 25 min to metro, wait for metro, travel, then walk 15 min to job. |
Anonymous
| Please indicate the race and culture of the DH. It is difficult to comment without knowing if this tracks for his culture. |
Anonymous
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Abnormal. I worked in HS, knew many other kids who worked, our parents didn't take our money.
Your DH sounds weirdly resentful of his child. |
Anonymous
| She keeps all her money. But she keeps track of it and either does estimated quarterly tax payments or sets some aside for that. |
Anonymous
| Why are you neutral, OP? Your DH is being a d!ck! Support your daughter. |
Anonymous
| Your DH is in the wrong but you definitely need to be helping her keep track and set aside money for taxes. You should also talk with her about saving some % for college or even in a Roth IRA. |
Anonymous
| California law requires a portion of under 18 social media income to go into a trust account. |
Anonymous
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I get what he’s trying to do, instilling responsibility.
I don’t agree with the 25% but as a compromise she should pay for any software or gear out of her earnings. |
Anonymous
| My parents used to make me pay them for the frozen cans of lemonade for my lemonade stands, in the name of learning about business. It was so annoying! But maybe they were right? |
Anonymous
+1 I would make her save a big chunk of the money for college though. |
Anonymous
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When our kids started various small businesses (think craft fair or bake sale items) we knew they would not make enough to cover the cost of supplies. So we subsidized. But, we had conversations about the cost of supplies and labor, etc. As they got older we worked in some areas where they needed to pay. For example, the cost of the table at a craft fair (can be split if sharing with friends).
So, I think demanding 25% is probably not the best way to go about this. But, discussing start up costs, ongoing costs (internet), whether she will need to pay taxes, should she get insurance are important. Also, good time to teach compound interest and discuss savings. And, look into whether she is making enough to affect any college financial aid. |
Anonymous
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OP does not sound like a troll
My kid monetized on YouTube, a few hundred bucks worth, before he outgrew the hobby he was making videos about I was proud of him for learning a real, useful skill in video editing — self taught. And you should be proud too! He just did a video for his group science project in 10th grade so yeah it’s a useful skill People who think the whole internet is porn, I don’t know what’s wrong with you. OP your husband is being a huge jerk. It sounds like he’s trying to punish her??? For what??? Trying to assert his dominance and control? Like what is the POINT? Really shitty. |
Anonymous
This sounds like parents trying to give kids a realistic view of how the world works and of job-related responsibilities. A grown up doesn’t just have a mommy to drive her to work. She plans for the time and expense of the trip or pays for a ride. My parents also refused to drive us to high school jobs unless there was some good reason to do so. This is not the same as taking a cut of our wages. That’s not a life lesson—it’s being a jerk. |
Anonymous
| 100% agree with husband. |
Anonymous
| Instead of just taking 25%, I think you all should let her keep 25% now to spend and then help her save/invest the other 75% |