WDYT about people with money fundraising for their kids sports?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I find it so tacky. Our team is really pushing this, and I cannot bring myself to ask friends to donate to my kids' activities. Do you do it anyway or ignore?

what do you mean? our public school sport team get very little funding(nearly none) from the school. Sure SOME parents are well off, and they absolutely do donate, but how else would they get uniforms or gear if they didn’t fund raise? do you think the 5 wealthy families should just pay for everything? I was helping with uniforms and we need new uniforms this year. The old ones are ripped, stained and many of them lost. it’s thousands to replace.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m ok supporting the local public high school teams. I’m not ok supporting the private travel teams.

I'm referring to a travel team, but wouldn't taxes cover public high school?

omg, thanks for the laugh!! 😂

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I find it so tacky. Our team is really pushing this, and I cannot bring myself to ask friends to donate to my kids' activities. Do you do it anyway or ignore?

what do you mean? our public school sport team get very little funding(nearly none) from the school. Sure SOME parents are well off, and they absolutely do donate, but how else would they get uniforms or gear if they didn’t fund raise? do you think the 5 wealthy families should just pay for everything? I was helping with uniforms and we need new uniforms this year. The old ones are ripped, stained and many of them lost. it’s thousands to replace.

The question isn’t about fundraising for sports. It’s asking whether wealthy people should do this.

Regardless, people have their own kids and truly people don’t want to be hit up for things like this. Garage sales, do a dinner at the school and the team serves and clears and cleans for “tips,” offer yard services for donations (our local HS crew shoveled and made money doing this).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:my sons activities do a lot of fundraising. it is exhausting and I minimize how many times and to whom i reach out too.

it does teach kids to work for what they want. better than me always paying for what they want. at least they have to work for it a little bit (car wash etc.)

I give to other activities as well - marching band or whatever.

This should be zero unless you’re asking your parents.

[Anonymous]

When our kids need to fundraise for sports or scouts or whatever, we just give the donation ourselves and skip the product. We’re not rich but I’m not asking people we know to pay for our wants.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can afford for my kid to go, and I assume others can too except they choose to go on expensive international vacations while complaining that they lost their government jobs. Why should I pay extra for them when it's just a reallocation of their funds that would be needed.

That sounds oddly specific

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When our kids need to fundraise for sports or scouts or whatever, we just give the donation ourselves and skip the product. We’re not rich but I’m not asking people we know to pay for our wants.

+1

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If it's your kid, just pay whatever the fundraising goal is. If it's someone asking you, just say 'no, but good luck' and get on with your life. It's not that complicated.

We weren't asked to donate a specific amount of money just to sell sell sell. The activity is already costing us upwards of $8,000 a year, what's the point in fundraising to raise $2,000?

Coaches’ bonuses.

I haven’t been in a club that does this. But I’d rather leave a club than be forced to fundraise.

[Anonymous]

There are ways to do it that combine fundraising with things people would buy anyway. Restaurants will kick back 20% in return for driving business on say a Tuesday night (Chipotle is great for this and makes it super easy to arrange)…you can set up an Amazon code where Amazon sends you like 10% of what anyone buys through the link (anything on Amazon), I buy Mulch or Wreaths (which I would buy anyway) from the crew team, another group sells Spring plants (which is actually way more convenient than trudging to a nursery or HD where we are), etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I find it so tacky. Our team is really pushing this, and I cannot bring myself to ask friends to donate to my kids' activities. Do you do it anyway or ignore?

You are completely tone deaf. Not everyone on the team has it so easy, and rather than call out the 2-3 kids for whom raising the money is necessary, they give everyone the info. So you write a check and others fundraise. You do you, and maybe write the check for a little something extra to help the divorced kids family, the immigrant family, or the one who is cleaning the toilets at your house for you, since none of them cannot afford it as easily as you

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I find it so tacky. Our team is really pushing this, and I cannot bring myself to ask friends to donate to my kids' activities. Do you do it anyway or ignore?

You are completely tone deaf. Not everyone on the team has it so easy, and rather than call out the 2-3 kids for whom raising the money is necessary, they give everyone the info. So you write a check and others fundraise. You do you, and maybe write the check for a little something extra to help the divorced kids family, the immigrant family, or the one who is cleaning the toilets at your house for you, since none of them cannot afford it as easily as you

I think you missed the point that OP implied this was about a travel team. These teams are a choice. You decide to pay. If you can’t afford to pay, you shouldn’t play.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I find it so tacky. Our team is really pushing this, and I cannot bring myself to ask friends to donate to my kids' activities. Do you do it anyway or ignore?

My neighbor just came by last week selling raffle tickets for something at his school - it’s one of the wealthiest schools in the area. We live in a neighborhood where homes range $2-6M+. I bought one book because I’ve known the kid since he was a toddler. Yes, it’s tacky! His parents are not tacky and probably made him do it to follow the rules of whatever the tickets were for - they are the don’t skip corners type parents. Luckily my kids had never had to do this and they also go to wealthy private schools.

OP - yeah it’s so so so tacky. It feels just gross to donate to schools that get millions a year in donations and whose families can afford whatever it is they are fund raising for.

Is this McLean? It happened to me last week as well.

[Anonymous]

I dont like fundraising, mainly because its excessive, awkward, and a hassle. I would rather just pay more and not fundraiser, but I know not everyone has the means to just pay more. Its also awkward to opt out when its something that can be tracked like selling something. I dont want to tell them I refuse to participate and would rather just give them money.

I dont think asking money for team sports is anywhere near as bad as asking people to fund your entire lifestyle (ie. Gofundme for affluent people who deal with a tragic event)

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I find it so tacky. Our team is really pushing this, and I cannot bring myself to ask friends to donate to my kids' activities. Do you do it anyway or ignore?

You are completely tone deaf. Not everyone on the team has it so easy, and rather than call out the 2-3 kids for whom raising the money is necessary, they give everyone the info. So you write a check and others fundraise. You do you, and maybe write the check for a little something extra to help the divorced kids family, the immigrant family, or the one who is cleaning the toilets at your house for you, since none of them cannot afford it as easily as you

I think you missed the point that OP implied this was about a travel team. These teams are a choice. You decide to pay. If you can’t afford to pay, you shouldn’t play.

Newsflash for you, at least a couple kids on that travel team are on scholarship, and not playing full price. These are the families that need the fundraising.

How do you peiple not know/understand this?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We just paid whatever was supposed to be raised, instead of cornering our friends, extended family, neighbors and colleagues into donating so little Johnny can play soccer in England.

Yeah this seems like best approach and is what we do