How do you deal with annoying people at school?

[Anonymous]

All I said*

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Anonymous wrote:How do you deal with obnoxious kids who constantly brag about their achievements—especially when they’re clearly doing it just to look good on college applications?
My DC is pretty laid-back, but somehow school peers found some of his activities online and started mocking him with comments like “that’s nothing” or “I’m better than you,” etc.
It’s frustrating, and these behaviors seem especially prevalent in certain groups.

You deal the same as with any other type of bullying. Report it to school.

Schools do nothing, especially if the teacher is the bully.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How do you deal with obnoxious kids who constantly brag about their achievements—especially when they’re clearly doing it just to look good on college applications?
My DC is pretty laid-back, but somehow school peers found some of his activities online and started mocking him with comments like “that’s nothing” or “I’m better than you,” etc.
It’s frustrating, and these behaviors seem especially prevalent in certain groups.

They seem like losers.

[Anonymous]

Make the best of it and count the days until your kid is done and moved on to college and away from these losers.

[Anonymous]

Mock them for being virgins, which they clearly are.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You need to let it go like your kid has. The kids sound like jerks but if your son is not bothered by it you really need to learn to just let it roll off your shoulders too. Don't make it worse for him by getting so upset over it.
- Coming from someone who easily lets things roll off my back with a mother who is the opposite. She often created more stress for me than the situation I was meant to be upset about.

lol. I could have written this part myself.

Thankfully, our kids seem pretty unbothered by other kids’ opinions.

They recognize that some kids are jerks, and they try to avoid them.

But they also have dealt with friends being jerks sometimes. Thats harder. But one thing we talk about at home is that part of being in a relationship (friends or family) is giving each other a little grace sometimes … but then speaking up and clearing the air if it ever becomes too much.

And … even harder still, they’ve also been the jerks themselves from time to time, saying things impulsively or defensively that weren’t ok. Part of growing up is learning to recognize that, apologize, and do better going forward.

My overall advice: If the jerks aren’t your kid’s friends, encourage your kid to ignore it. And you should, too. Same goes for fellow parents and strangers offering unsolicited jerky opinions.

Speaking of which, here’s one of my favorite perspectives on the topic:

Opinions are like belly buttons. Everyone has one. Nothing special.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How do you deal with obnoxious kids who constantly brag about their achievements—especially when they’re clearly doing it just to look good on college applications?
My DC is pretty laid-back, but somehow school peers found some of his activities online and started mocking him with comments like “that’s nothing” or “I’m better than you,” etc.
It’s frustrating, and these behaviors seem especially prevalent in certain groups.

You deal the same as with any other type of bullying. Report it to school.

Schools do nothing, especially if the teacher is the bully.

Then contact a lawyer if the school does nothing.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Are they mocking him online or in person to his face? My answers would be different.

Not to his face, but behind him. Wild that some high school kids and families enjoy collecting each other’s GPAs and activities and then ranking and stacking everyone.

You are describing DCUM to a T. It’s bizarre behavior.

[Anonymous]

No amount of education will make up for a small mind and a bleak soul.

[Anonymous]

...so ignore them.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are they mocking him online or in person to his face? My answers would be different.

Not to his face, but behind him. Wild that some high school kids and families enjoy collecting each other’s GPAs and activities and then ranking and stacking everyone.

You are describing DCUM to a T. It’s bizarre behavior.

Agree that DCUM goes way overboard, but there is also a big difference between discussing these things anonymously on the internet vs. face to face with the parents of classmates. I vent about the process with friends whose kids aren't currently in the middle of the process (ideally plus/minus a year). I don't discuss it with those also dealing with it, even though it might be helpful to compare notes. A good friend vented to me non-stop about their older kid and I was very helpful as a sounding board. Unfortunately their younger kid and my older one are the same age so we will discuss other things when the time comes, or at least be careful about what we discuss. I am not being secretive and will be happy to help where applicable, but also not bothering them with "my kid doesn't want to work on essays" or "the interview went great."

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are they mocking him online or in person to his face? My answers would be different.

Not to his face, but behind him. Wild that some high school kids and families enjoy collecting each other’s GPAs and activities and then ranking and stacking everyone.

Well, he should block who he can on social media, and if someone says "I'm better than you" to his face he can laugh in their face because they are not better enough to have any grace or tact.

My DS was ruthless about this in HS. Blocked and unfollowed anyone who demeaned and mistreated him. Limited access to information about him through the use of private and public accounts.

Fairly common, I’m sure, but I think he found it gratifying because he was able to take action himself.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How do you deal with obnoxious kids who constantly brag about their achievements—especially when they’re clearly doing it just to look good on college applications?
My DC is pretty laid-back, but somehow school peers found some of his activities online and started mocking him with comments like “that’s nothing” or “I’m better than you,” etc.
It’s frustrating, and these behaviors seem especially prevalent in certain groups.

This sounds like a rich, private school problem.

No, sounds like the opposite: a suburban public with a lot of Asian families,


the kids at top privates don't load up on extracurriculars and honestly there is very little talk about college among the kids at all. a huge number of families don't care that much because it doesn't matter where their kid goes to college: they are stepping into jobs due to connections, etc. I've seen it play out several times. money gives the ability to not care: send that kid to Amherst to study English or Brown to study Peace Studies or Wharton for business or SMU for business. none of it matters to these kids.

This.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How do you deal with obnoxious kids who constantly brag about their achievements—especially when they’re clearly doing it just to look good on college applications?
My DC is pretty laid-back, but somehow school peers found some of his activities online and started mocking him with comments like “that’s nothing” or “I’m better than you,” etc.
It’s frustrating, and these behaviors seem especially prevalent in certain groups.

This sounds like a rich, private school problem.

No, sounds like the opposite: a suburban public with a lot of Asian families,


the kids at top privates don't load up on extracurriculars and honestly there is very little talk about college among the kids at all. a huge number of families don't care that much because it doesn't matter where their kid goes to college: they are stepping into jobs due to connections, etc. I've seen it play out several times. money gives the ability to not care: send that kid to Amherst to study English or Brown to study Peace Studies or Wharton for business or SMU for business. none of it matters to these kids.

Ya'll are crazy if you think all private school kids think this way. Maybe at the uber elite NY ones, but not the normal elite privates in the DC area. At our private, kids needle each other over stupid things. Lots of issues among the wealthy and entitled kids. Lots of bullying.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How do you deal with obnoxious kids who constantly brag about their achievements—especially when they’re clearly doing it just to look good on college applications?
My DC is pretty laid-back, but somehow school peers found some of his activities online and started mocking him with comments like “that’s nothing” or “I’m better than you,” etc.
It’s frustrating, and these behaviors seem especially prevalent in certain groups.

This sounds like a rich, private school problem.

No, sounds like the opposite: a suburban public with a lot of Asian families,


the kids at top privates don't load up on extracurriculars and honestly there is very little talk about college among the kids at all. a huge number of families don't care that much because it doesn't matter where their kid goes to college: they are stepping into jobs due to connections, etc. I've seen it play out several times. money gives the ability to not care: send that kid to Amherst to study English or Brown to study Peace Studies or Wharton for business or SMU for business. none of it matters to these kids.

Ya'll are crazy if you think all private school kids think this way. Maybe at the uber elite NY ones, but not the normal elite privates in the DC area. At our private, kids needle each other over stupid things. Lots of issues among the wealthy and entitled kids. Lots of bullying.

+1000

We pulled our 2nd kid from private because of what we experienced with our 1st kid.