I am essentially terrified at work

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Im sorry.

My friend works at a nameless tech company that recently closed a $5.6B govt deal and 2 of her team mates had heart attacks within the last 6 months at 38 and 42.

Can you confirm it was in fact, a heart attack or stroke? There’s been an uptick in men from 30s to 40s having strokes.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Im sorry.

My friend works at a nameless tech company that recently closed a $5.6B govt deal and 2 of her team mates had heart attacks within the last 6 months at 38 and 42.

Can you confirm it was in fact, a heart attack or stroke? There’s been an uptick in men from 30s to 40s having strokes.

Stress + multiple COVID cases is a bad combination

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Work in big tech. Boss super stressed. Is just alternating between yelling, micromanaging, barking commands, cascading criticism then remorseful messages. My anxiety is through the roof. Am job hunting as fast as i can but i can only go so quickly. No idea what to do in the meantime (have considered FMLA but can only do so for so long)

Isn't that what every high paying tech job is like?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Work in big tech. Boss super stressed. Is just alternating between yelling, micromanaging, barking commands, cascading criticism then remorseful messages. My anxiety is through the roof. Am job hunting as fast as i can but i can only go so quickly. No idea what to do in the meantime (have considered FMLA but can only do so for so long)

Isn't that what every high paying tech job is like?

Sounds like OP isn’t even high paying!

[Anonymous]

basically he turns every situation in which he needs to give direction into a negative feedback situation.

So instead of 'please do this' it's 'why have you not done this'

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Im sorry.

My friend works at a nameless tech company that recently closed a $5.6B govt deal and 2 of her team mates had heart attacks within the last 6 months at 38 and 42.

No job is worth your health. Learned that after a thyroid crisis related to work stress.
Your health is your wealth.

I'm going to a cardiologist tomorrow. I spent most of last year anxious about getting let go due to working on a project I viewed as doomed. I almost quit in August.

Deus ex machina internal transfer came through in November so I had to learn an all new role in a hurry while cleaning up end of year tasks.

I thought my symptoms were due to anxiety but when my job changed they didn't go away. I went to urgent care, also ER but they concluded I'm not dying so then I have to book specialist visits 2 months in advance and wait.

Try to take it easy as best you can. It is really hard.

[Anonymous]

These do not seem like things to be terrified about. This post is totally ridiculous!
Are you 3 years old?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Im sorry.

My friend works at a nameless tech company that recently closed a $5.6B govt deal and 2 of her team mates had heart attacks within the last 6 months at 38 and 42.

Unrelated to the office. Ask me how I know!
They had no exercise and terrible eating habits and family history! I work there too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Work in big tech. Boss super stressed. Is just alternating between yelling, micromanaging, barking commands, cascading criticism then remorseful messages. My anxiety is through the roof. Am job hunting as fast as i can but i can only go so quickly. No idea what to do in the meantime (have considered FMLA but can only do so for so long)

I work in tech and it’s kind of a blood bath in the markets and it feels like it’s also spilling into operations. They may be very exposed to politics and understand the stakes better than you. Not an excuse for bad behavior.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:These do not seem like things to be terrified about. This post is totally ridiculous!
Are you 3 years old?

Your boss yelling at you every day in public and private would be just fine with you and rattle you in no way?

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Anonymous wrote:I am in tech and report to the CEO of my company, who is just a mean, nasty, petty person.

Have you read about Wall Street? That is the culture of tech now, money and menace.

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There are no checks on tech and it's full of egos, even more so than finance, which is why the Forbes 30 Under 30 is just a bunch of fraudsters.

Have you read Bully Market? Or seen American Psycho? Wall Street before GFC was Masters of the Universe unhinged, with egos to match. Tech at least has a veneer of meritocracy and diversity (I mean there are a few non-white men running around).

I worked on Wall Street, at one of the banks that collapsed during the financial crisis.

Were you there in the 80s and 90s or just 2000s?

Different poster but I worked on Wall Street pre 1987 crash and it was quite tame by early 1990s. Strippers, hookers, coke, cursing, smoking at work, heck drinking at work, with no internet or cell phones and working 12 hours days you were in a cult almost.

By 1995 it was D&I, woke, and dress down at work. Heck the Blarney Stone and Klarney Rose dive Irish Bars be full of brokers and traders at 8am getting some drinks in before the opening bell at 930 Am

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Anonymous wrote:I am in tech and report to the CEO of my company, who is just a mean, nasty, petty person.

Have you read about Wall Street? That is the culture of tech now, money and menace.

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There are no checks on tech and it's full of egos, even more so than finance, which is why the Forbes 30 Under 30 is just a bunch of fraudsters.

Have you read Bully Market? Or seen American Psycho? Wall Street before GFC was Masters of the Universe unhinged, with egos to match. Tech at least has a veneer of meritocracy and diversity (I mean there are a few non-white men running around).

I worked on Wall Street, at one of the banks that collapsed during the financial crisis.

Were you there in the 80s and 90s or just 2000s?

Different poster but I worked on Wall Street pre 1987 crash and it was quite tame by early 1990s. Strippers, hookers, coke, cursing, smoking at work, heck drinking at work, with no internet or cell phones and working 12 hours days you were in a cult almost.

By 1995 it was D&I, woke, and dress down at work. Heck the Blarney Stone and Klarney Rose dive Irish Bars be full of brokers and traders at 8am getting some drinks in before the opening bell at 930 Am

op - sounds amazing

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:These do not seem like things to be terrified about. This post is totally ridiculous!
Are you 3 years old?

Your boss yelling at you every day in public and private would be just fine with you and rattle you in no way?

Let's just say i don't believe "yelling at me every day" is true. This is worded like a child wrote this.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:These do not seem like things to be terrified about. This post is totally ridiculous!
Are you 3 years old?

Your boss yelling at you every day in public and private would be just fine with you and rattle you in no way?

Let's just say i don't believe "yelling at me every day" is true. This is worded like a child wrote this.

How do you expect a description of yelling it to be properly worded?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:These do not seem like things to be terrified about. This post is totally ridiculous!
Are you 3 years old?

Your boss yelling at you every day in public and private would be just fine with you and rattle you in no way?

Let's just say i don't believe "yelling at me every day" is true. This is worded like a child wrote this.

op - ok how's this? He displays a consistent lack of emotional regulation and high disapproval expressed on a daily basis at volume both in person, publicly, privately and via written digital channels. This communication is channeled throughout the day on a rolling basis including during, for example, rapid fire feedback over teams during senior stakeholder meetings or at all staffs in which I am presenting. The feedback occurs at all hours of the day and night and sometimes on weekends. He actively seeks opportunities to admonish without fully understanding the context of situations that are, in large part, functions of how the business operates rather than anything within my control rather than attempting to solve for. He points the finger at individuals rather than trying to address organizational issues and career paths accordingly. When he reprimands with such zealotry as to appear unhinged, he is remorseful.

If this is the whining of a 3 year old to you then i feel very sorry for your colleagues.