DS doesn't like wearing hats or sweatpants because they make him look poor

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sweatpants are sloppy. Especially on boys.

Not a poverty marker but very low effort.

No idea where hats fit in. What kind of hats. Knit caps? A coat with a hood is easier for a kid to keep track of.

The beauty of being rich is you can dress how you like. What is the harm in being judged as poor when you actually aren’t?

OP's kid is a brat.

She raised a POS.

Her son judges people because they wear "sweatpants" WTH? OP is low class trash

FOCUS

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sweatpants are sloppy. Especially on boys.

Not a poverty marker but very low effort.

No idea where hats fit in. What kind of hats. Knit caps? A coat with a hood is easier for a kid to keep track of.

The beauty of being rich is you can dress how you like. What is the harm in being judged as poor when you actually aren’t?

It's not being judged as poor. It's looking sloppy. There's a reason for school uniforms even though I didn't send my kids to a school that requires them.

Ideally, children's schoolclothes should differ noticeably from what they can or do wear to bed.

Kids just need to be comfortable. As long as they literally aren’t wearing the same clothes to school who cares. And my kids do wear a uniform to school. But they are the same kids in their uniforms as they are in their casual sweats. We just don’t have to discuss or argue about what to wear to school. I don’t give AF if someone thinks they look poor or sloppy on the weekend. Probably better if they come across as poor, they will probably be treated better than someone writing them off as privileged snobs in a snap judgment.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Even if you were not the person to teach him this, I get the feeling that you are reinforcing the idea that appearances and clothes are very important. They are to a certain extent, but not at school, only in specific formal setting, like job interviews, funerals, etc.

I'm Old Money with 20M to my name and I wear sweatpants while out and about sometimes. My kids do as well. My husband dresses like a homeless guy - he truly does not care what other people think. We all know how to dress for solemn occasions when respect is communicated through dress.

How did you get raised Old Money without learning that school is an occasion where respect should be communicated through dress?

PP you replied to. Because you're wrong. In schools where these things matter, you know what they do? Uniforms. I spent a good part of my childhood in a uniform at a British boarding school: kilt skirt, long socks with garters, shirt and tie, blazer with school coat of arms, all in grey and blue wool.

In school, listening and following directions indicate respect for teachers. Nobody cares how you dress.

You should know this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Even if you were not the person to teach him this, I get the feeling that you are reinforcing the idea that appearances and clothes are very important. They are to a certain extent, but not at school, only in specific formal setting, like job interviews, funerals, etc.

I'm Old Money with 20M to my name and I wear sweatpants while out and about sometimes. My kids do as well. My husband dresses like a homeless guy - he truly does not care what other people think. We all know how to dress for solemn occasions when respect is communicated through dress.

How did you get raised Old Money without learning that school is an occasion where respect should be communicated through dress?

PP you replied to. Because you're wrong. In schools where these things matter, you know what they do? Uniforms. I spent a good part of my childhood in a uniform at a British boarding school: kilt skirt, long socks with garters, shirt and tie, blazer with school coat of arms, all in grey and blue wool.

In school, listening and following directions indicate respect for teachers. Nobody cares how you dress.

You should know this.

I hope your kids will have someone explain business casual to them when the time comes. Assuming they have to work.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sweatpants are sloppy. Especially on boys.

Not a poverty marker but very low effort.

No idea where hats fit in. What kind of hats. Knit caps? A coat with a hood is easier for a kid to keep track of.

The beauty of being rich is you can dress how you like. What is the harm in being judged as poor when you actually aren’t?

OP's kid is a brat.

She raised a POS.

Her son judges people because they wear "sweatpants" WTH? OP is low class trash

FOCUS

He’s 8.

[Anonymous]

Let him wear what he wants

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My 8-year old son told me this. I am quite shocked. He's more of a nerdy gamer kid, not really athletic (though he is starting to show a slight interest in sports). Obviously, with it being unreasonably cold, wearing a hat is an issue. Sweatpants aren't too big of a deal, but I picked out a Nike hoodie and sweatpants for him on Friday when he had gym and he refused to wear them. I didn't want to argue, nor did I have the time, so he just wore the hoodie and a pair of jeans. I know he's somewhat getting at the age when kids are being a bit self conscious, but I didn't think it would happen this young in boys. I have 2 girls, the oldest, which wasn't this way until middle school. I think he is being a bit hard on himself. I want to nip this in the bud before it gets too late.

Three kids acting this way. Look at your parenting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My 8-year old son told me this. I am quite shocked. He's more of a nerdy gamer kid, not really athletic (though he is starting to show a slight interest in sports). Obviously, with it being unreasonably cold, wearing a hat is an issue. Sweatpants aren't too big of a deal, but I picked out a Nike hoodie and sweatpants for him on Friday when he had gym and he refused to wear them. I didn't want to argue, nor did I have the time, so he just wore the hoodie and a pair of jeans. I know he's somewhat getting at the age when kids are being a bit self conscious, but I didn't think it would happen this young in boys. I have 2 girls, the oldest, which wasn't this way until middle school. I think he is being a bit hard on himself. I want to nip this in the bud before it gets too late.

Three kids acting this way. Look at your parenting.

DP. My husband actually grew up poor. And kids in his school district were very mean to each other about any evidence of having low quality or less than items. A lot of it has to do with the school culture around the kids. Not the parents' values.

My one year in MCPS was a big introduction to the importance of brands and fitting in. In my elementary school in CA, few people teased other people about clothes. Again. School culture.

[Anonymous]

I find this unbelievable. So what is he wearing to school? Even he likes to wear jeans, surely he has noticed 90+ percent of boys his age are wearing sweats or athletic pants at all times unless dictated by uniform- rich, poor, and in between. Sweats have become standard for vast majority of boys

[Anonymous]

You and your spouse need to find out where he learned that entire lie from?

Ehhh

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My kids won’t wear jeans. Go figure.

But your kid associates athletic wear to poverty. That’s interesting. My DH does the same and my kids aren’t allowed to wear hoodies to school because DH thinks it’s thug attire.

Mom you have been gifted this problem, use his poverty aversion to your advantage: only poor people are c students who don’t eat broccoli.

Thug attire? Sorry to inform you, but your husband sounds like a racist.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sweatpants are sloppy. Especially on boys.

Not a poverty marker but very low effort.

No idea where hats fit in. What kind of hats. Knit caps? A coat with a hood is easier for a kid to keep track of.

The beauty of being rich is you can dress how you like. What is the harm in being judged as poor when you actually aren’t?

OP's kid is a brat.

She raised a POS.

Her son judges people because they wear "sweatpants" WTH? OP is low class trash

FOCUS

NP. How much have you had to drink today?

[Anonymous]

My kid is 11 and doesn’t care what he wears so most of the time I pick out his clothes. Sometime he wears sweatpants but doesn’t look sloppy. I just want him to look put together.

He did say one day that his friends asked him why he is wearing collared shirts. They are talking about his polo shirts.

Anyway, I’m assuming eventually he will want to decide what he wears. I hope it’s not day in and out only sweats.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Even if you were not the person to teach him this, I get the feeling that you are reinforcing the idea that appearances and clothes are very important. They are to a certain extent, but not at school, only in specific formal setting, like job interviews, funerals, etc.

I'm Old Money with 20M to my name and I wear sweatpants while out and about sometimes. My kids do as well. My husband dresses like a homeless guy - he truly does not care what other people think. We all know how to dress for solemn occasions when respect is communicated through dress.

Only in America. Foreign countries have tremendous respect for education and show up to school dressed respectfully

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My kids won’t wear jeans. Go figure.

But your kid associates athletic wear to poverty. That’s interesting. My DH does the same and my kids aren’t allowed to wear hoodies to school because DH thinks it’s thug attire.

Mom you have been gifted this problem, use his poverty aversion to your advantage: only poor people are c students who don’t eat broccoli.

Thug attire? Sorry to inform you, but your husband sounds like a racist.

Yes. But I’m sorry, what race are thugs?