Has your DC started drug or alcohol use?

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Anonymous wrote:Just curious. My DD goes to one of the schools on Princeton Review’s “Reefer Madness” list. She’s told me she started smoking weed several months ago as there’s a dispensary not too far. I honestly don’t mind as her grades are decent and she’s involved on campus. There’s worse things she can do and it’s not like I didn’t partake while in college either.

I will never understand parents who believe that good grades are an indicator that their student is doing well emotionally.

OP here. I’m close with my children but also give them space to explore and find their way. I may be an outlier here but I do not believe marijuana usage is indicative of extreme mental health problems. She does struggle with depression and anxiety but she keeps me in the loop and has a reliable therapist. If it was a daily thing I’d be worried. It’s more social/weekend. I’d rather her get marijuana from a dispensary than a shady drug dealer with fentanyl laced drugs.

This is sensible. From CA, I’ve always considered alcohol more serious than weed, although I’ve heard current varieties have more serious long term health effects, might want to look into that if you haven’t already.

I’ve always found it odd that some people get alarmed over their kid smoking weed while being fine with the kid drinking at an SEC or remote NE SLAC.

I don't see that. Parents who are fine with one are usually fine with the other, and some parents are against both (including me).

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Weed is for losers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Drinking, yes. Drugs, no. They tried pot once and didn't like the effect. They've been offered all kinds of drugs and just say "no thanks, I'm good", and that's that.

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Anonymous wrote:Just curious. My DD goes to one of the schools on Princeton Review’s “Reefer Madness” list. She’s told me she started smoking weed several months ago as there’s a dispensary not too far. I honestly don’t mind as her grades are decent and she’s involved on campus. There’s worse things she can do and it’s not like I didn’t partake while in college either.

I will never understand parents who believe that good grades are an indicator that their student is doing well emotionally.

OP here. I’m close with my children but also give them space to explore and find their way. I may be an outlier here but I do not believe marijuana usage is indicative of extreme mental health problems. She does struggle with depression and anxiety but she keeps me in the loop and has a reliable therapist. If it was a daily thing I’d be worried. It’s more social/weekend. I’d rather her get marijuana from a dispensary than a shady drug dealer with fentanyl laced drugs.

This is sensible. From CA, I’ve always considered alcohol more serious than weed, although I’ve heard current varieties have more serious long term health effects, might want to look into that if you haven’t already.

I’ve always found it odd that some people get alarmed over their kid smoking weed while being fine with the kid drinking at an SEC or remote NE SLAC.

I'm also from CA, and while many kids in DC's social circle feel the same way, the research is pointing to the opposite. For the developing (under 25 year old brain) marijuana use is much worse than alcohol use. It is linked to permanent changes in the brain: executive function and focus, psychosis and schizophrenia (which only develops in teen years or later). And the kind of marijuana that is easily accessible (via dispensary) is more potent than what we had. Finally, if your DC does try pot, it is more unhealthy to inhale or smoke it (versus edible) due to the way it enters your bloodstream. Binge drinking is obviously also bad. I've shared this research transparently with DC so he can know this in advance.

Unfortunately lots of kids think pot is harmless or "natural" as there's much overlap with MAHA/wellness and cannabis use.

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Anonymous wrote:I hear cocaine is making a come back. Is there any truth to that?

Haven't heard about any cocaine use in my kids' circles.

Then it must not be true. And you’d be the first the kid’s tell about their party habits. Statistics show that Americans are still in the number one consumers of recreational drugs.

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Anonymous wrote:I hear cocaine is making a come back. Is there any truth to that?

Haven't heard about any cocaine use in my kids' circles.

Then it must not be true. And you’d be the first the kid’s tell about their party habits. Statistics show that Americans are still in the number one consumers of recreational drugs.

Sigh. Stop misinterpreting posts and attacking people. It's not rational on your part. If you want to scoff at every single poster who says their kids don't use, and you want to claim that we're all idiots with kids who are lying to us, you can do that. But it's stupid. Most kids these days don't hide this from their parents - there isn't a taboo about drug use like there was in your generation. We're not a family that uses any of it, because we're sensitive to a lot of stimulants and pharmaceuticals, and my kids know they'll probably have all the side effects... so none of us are interested, and we, the parents, didn't try anything illicit at all when we were their age. I have no reason to lie on the internet, and my kids have no reason to lie to me: I'm not an authoritarian parent. You can choose to believe the worst of people, but it means you're going to go through life pretty miserable and paranoid.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I hear cocaine is making a come back. Is there any truth to that?

Haven't heard about any cocaine use in my kids' circles.

Then it must not be true. And you’d be the first the kid’s tell about their party habits. Statistics show that Americans are still in the number one consumers of recreational drugs.

And in your universe, ALL THE KIDS ARE DOING IT. You can try to make yourself feel better about own your kids' use, but sorry to tell you, with better education about the effects of alcohol and drugs, a lot of kids these days just are not interested.

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First kid had a few big nights her freshman year then decided she didn't particularly like drinking so now (recent grad) just saves it for occasional social drinking, and the odd edible here and here.
Second kid probably more of a partier and I'm sure there's plenty of weed around him, my sense is he's more into beer at this point but I could be off base. We've tried as best we can to hammer home the concerns around fentanyl laced other drugs and I think that has made an impact.

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My kid is at a top 20 school and goes to many parties and sees quite a bit of drug use--mainly weed and coke. They're in ROTC and they get randomly drug tested (and there is zero tolerance for a bad test) so they do not partake but it's all around.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just curious. My DD goes to one of the schools on Princeton Review’s “Reefer Madness” list. She’s told me she started smoking weed several months ago as there’s a dispensary not too far. I honestly don’t mind as her grades are decent and she’s involved on campus. There’s worse things she can do and it’s not like I didn’t partake while in college either.

I will never understand parents who believe that good grades are an indicator that their student is doing well emotionally.

OP here. I’m close with my children but also give them space to explore and find their way. I may be an outlier here but I do not believe marijuana usage is indicative of extreme mental health problems. She does struggle with depression and anxiety but she keeps me in the loop and has a reliable therapist. If it was a daily thing I’d be worried. It’s more social/weekend. I’d rather her get marijuana from a dispensary than a shady drug dealer with fentanyl laced drugs.

This is sensible. From CA, I’ve always considered alcohol more serious than weed, although I’ve heard current varieties have more serious long term health effects, might want to look into that if you haven’t already.

I’ve always found it odd that some people get alarmed over their kid smoking weed while being fine with the kid drinking at an SEC or remote NE SLAC.

I don't see that. Parents who are fine with one are usually fine with the other, and some parents are against both (including me).

I’ve had family like this

[Anonymous]

I've heard from DS 21 that he hasn't seen anything in college that can compare with what he saw at parties in high school. He has the occasional drink but that's it--he's a very health conscious athlete. When he's home he gets annoyed that all his HS friends do is hang out and watch sports and drink. At school he goes climbing, skiing, hiking, etc.

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Unfortunately. Yes to both.

My son has bluntly said he prefers weed than alcohol.
He says guys that drink act stupid and girls get super slutty.
He says people that smoke weed are friendly and chilled.

He says everyone is on something... He's not in a frat but says hard drugs are popular there including psychedelics.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just curious. My DD goes to one of the schools on Princeton Review’s “Reefer Madness” list. She’s told me she started smoking weed several months ago as there’s a dispensary not too far. I honestly don’t mind as her grades are decent and she’s involved on campus. There’s worse things she can do and it’s not like I didn’t partake while in college either.

I will never understand parents who believe that good grades are an indicator that their student is doing well emotionally.

OP here. I’m close with my children but also give them space to explore and find their way. I may be an outlier here but I do not believe marijuana usage is indicative of extreme mental health problems. She does struggle with depression and anxiety but she keeps me in the loop and has a reliable therapist. If it was a daily thing I’d be worried. It’s more social/weekend. I’d rather her get marijuana from a dispensary than a shady drug dealer with fentanyl laced drugs.

This is sensible. From CA, I’ve always considered alcohol more serious than weed, although I’ve heard current varieties have more serious long term health effects, might want to look into that if you haven’t already.

I’ve always found it odd that some people get alarmed over their kid smoking weed while being fine with the kid drinking at an SEC or remote NE SLAC.

I'm also from CA, and while many kids in DC's social circle feel the same way, the research is pointing to the opposite. For the developing (under 25 year old brain) marijuana use is much worse than alcohol use. It is linked to permanent changes in the brain: executive function and focus, psychosis and schizophrenia (which only develops in teen years or later). And the kind of marijuana that is easily accessible (via dispensary) is more potent than what we had. Finally, if your DC does try pot, it is more unhealthy to inhale or smoke it (versus edible) due to the way it enters your bloodstream. Binge drinking is obviously also bad. I've shared this research transparently with DC so he can know this in advance.

Unfortunately lots of kids think pot is harmless or "natural" as there's much overlap with MAHA/wellness and cannabis use.

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just curious. My DD goes to one of the schools on Princeton Review’s “Reefer Madness” list. She’s told me she started smoking weed several months ago as there’s a dispensary not too far. I honestly don’t mind as her grades are decent and she’s involved on campus. There’s worse things she can do and it’s not like I didn’t partake while in college either.

I will never understand parents who believe that good grades are an indicator that their student is doing well emotionally.

OP here. I’m close with my children but also give them space to explore and find their way. I may be an outlier here but I do not believe marijuana usage is indicative of extreme mental health problems. She does struggle with depression and anxiety but she keeps me in the loop and has a reliable therapist. If it was a daily thing I’d be worried. It’s more social/weekend. I’d rather her get marijuana from a dispensary than a shady drug dealer with fentanyl laced drugs.

Weed enhances anxiety. What an idiot.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just curious. My DD goes to one of the schools on Princeton Review’s “Reefer Madness” list. She’s told me she started smoking weed several months ago as there’s a dispensary not too far. I honestly don’t mind as her grades are decent and she’s involved on campus. There’s worse things she can do and it’s not like I didn’t partake while in college either.

I will never understand parents who believe that good grades are an indicator that their student is doing well emotionally.

OP here. I’m close with my children but also give them space to explore and find their way. I may be an outlier here but I do not believe marijuana usage is indicative of extreme mental health problems. She does struggle with depression and anxiety but she keeps me in the loop and has a reliable therapist. If it was a daily thing I’d be worried. It’s more social/weekend. I’d rather her get marijuana from a dispensary than a shady drug dealer with fentanyl laced drugs.

Weed enhances anxiety. What an idiot.

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+1. OP you have a problem on your hands whether you want to believe it or not.