Yes and no. Telling people to just get rid of some of their kids to retire early is extreme FIRE. Or miss your kids entire childhood working to retire early. Seems a big trade off. Anyone could do that. I could be retired on a beach in a Tropical Island right now if my wife kept working, I never bought a trade up home, only had one kid and made that one kid pay their own college education and leave them with no inheritance. But that seems a big trade off. My good buddy did just that. Except he was so FIRE no children Him and wife both worked full time till 50 and he loaded up on stocks and he sits in a waterfront house in Turks and Cacos right now at 62 with his wife just the two of them. He is worth way more tham me. But I dont know. That that is not the FIRE most people want. Or my other friend in Florida who retired early, one kid, wife and him always worked. Kid went off to college never came back. Feels zero closeness to her own parents. She had a nanny, ship to Day care, then onto to after school program then off to college. They barely interact. Seems a heavy price to do it on purpose just to FIRE and Retire early. |
you are a SAHM not retired. |
Same on the bold. We will fully retired when these two things happen: 1. House paid. 2. College paid. (two kids) Until then, we will continue to work... |
I don’t work. I am not seeking work. I have a pension. How is this not retired? |
In a similar boat here—Fed who took early retirement recently at 56 and have no plans to work again, one kid still at home. Not sure why the SAHM vs fully-retired distinction is important to anyone. I felt comfortable retiring because: Older kids are done with college and plenty in 529s for college for teen or grad school for older kids. Paid off house. Plenty of savings, plus small pension and Fed health insurance. DH will work for another few years. We are not big spenders, though look forward to fun travel once DH retires and youngest is no longer at home. |
wtf? LOL I had my kids at 35 and 38, got married at 33. We traveled a lot before kids came. Also, I worked in the tech industry. LOL |
^^PP is jealous. Maybe they are old and haggardly, and can't retire before 65. |
? "get rid of some of their kids"? I don't understand this comment. I didn't get rid of any of my kids. LOL We were actually only planning on having one, but then had another. So we have two kids. Didn't have a third and then got rid of them. LOL. We moved to a lcol area, and I stepped back from work when the kids were young so that we don't have to miss our kids childhood. We actually didn't work *that* much. We attended their events, volunteered for field trips, etc. They did not have aftercare. We just lived below our means so that we could be financially secure and retire before 65. That was always our goal. |
What is wrong with you? |
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60 was plenty of time to pay off the house and pay for college for us. The long bull market inflated our savings and access to retiree health insurance made it affordable to retire.
Sure it helps we only had one kid and live in a 2200 sq ft house but those are choices we made for ourselves. We did live below our means/save regularly but we never scrimped with the goal of retiring early— we still traveled a lot, one of us worked part time, etc. |
Same, both of us fully retired at 57 when kids graduated college/launched. FIRE = paid off house + max retirement/401 fund |
A SAHM lives off husband's income... that's not "retiring from work". |
No, sorry, this is not how retirement is defined. |
| I quit a terrible job to care for an elderly relative in my early 50s. I use Medicaid and live very frugal. I have a very part time job. Kids have 529s for college. Time is one thing you can’t get more of. Don’t waste it in an unhappy situation. |
They have a pension and if they’re in their 50s, probably have savings. Why do you care so much???? |