Daily family life

Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Actual non negotiables:

Breakfast
Lunch
Dinner
Chores
Homework
Consistent bedtime wind-down
Sleep / bedtime routine
Hug good night

Things you like doing because it’s the way you want to have your family do things:

Bible app listening / spiritual discussion
Dinner (no screens, connection)
3 of us want to strength train
Reading
Chore check (parent/kid accountability)
Sunday: lay out clothes for the week

I won’t go the route of insulting you like others have, I’m sorry they did that.

However, you do need to think this through and think “what are the things that actually need to be done, and what non essentials do I want to prioritize?

For many people religion IS essential, but a daily spiritual discussion, which takes more than 20 minutes, is definitely not part of the day for the vast vast majority of religious people. It’s like, going to church weekly


OP is a bible thumping control freak.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:How many of these would you feel can be done as non-negotiables. 5??

These are family rituals we love, but while I love all of them, all of them is not doable. My kids love the idea of these things too. (Add in school, groceries, random sports meetings/games/events)

Bible app listening / spiritual discussion
Breakfast
Lunch
Dinner (no screens, connection)
3 of us want to strength train
Chores (15m or less)
Chore check (parent/kid accountability)
Homework
Reading
Consistent bedtime wind-down
Sleep / bedtime routine
Hug good night
Sunday: lay out clothes for the week


Homework should be done before dinner.


It's impossible to make a blanket statement like that without knowing how old the kids are, whether they are in aftercare or after school activities, what time works for family dinner etc . . .
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:How many of these would you feel can be done as non-negotiables. 5??

These are family rituals we love, but while I love all of them, all of them is not doable. My kids love the idea of these things too. (Add in school, groceries, random sports meetings/games/events)

Bible app listening / spiritual discussion
Breakfast
Lunch
Dinner (no screens, connection)
3 of us want to strength train
Chores (15m or less)
Chore check (parent/kid accountability)
Homework
Reading
Consistent bedtime wind-down
Sleep / bedtime routine
Hug good night
Sunday: lay out clothes for the week


Homework should be done before dinner.


Tell us you have young kids without telling us you have young kids
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:How many of these would you feel can be done as non-negotiables. 5??

These are family rituals we love, but while I love all of them, all of them is not doable. My kids love the idea of these things too. (Add in school, groceries, random sports meetings/games/events)

Bible app listening / spiritual discussion
Breakfast
Lunch
Dinner (no screens, connection)
3 of us want to strength train
Chores (15m or less)
Chore check (parent/kid accountability)
Homework
Reading
Consistent bedtime wind-down
Sleep / bedtime routine
Hug good night
Sunday: lay out clothes for the week


You are insane.
Terrible parenting from "Bible app to chore check" "consistent bedtime wind-down"

I would hate to be so controlled. Just horrifyingly bad parenting.


OP is clearly a troll. I generously rate this thread 4/10 troll bait.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:How many of these would you feel can be done as non-negotiables. 5??

These are family rituals we love, but while I love all of them, all of them is not doable. My kids love the idea of these things too. (Add in school, groceries, random sports meetings/games/events)

Bible app listening / spiritual discussion
Breakfast
Lunch
Dinner (no screens, connection)
3 of us want to strength train
Chores (15m or less)
Chore check (parent/kid accountability)
Homework
Reading
Consistent bedtime wind-down
Sleep / bedtime routine
Hug good night
Sunday: lay out clothes for the week


Homework should be done before dinner.


Tell us you have young kids without telling us you have young kids


Either that or their kids go to some kind of niche private school that doesn't believe in homework, or homeschooled. Homeschoolers have less homework because there is more efficient use of teaching time during the day, not all these transitions and blocks of dead time.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:How many of these would you feel can be done as non-negotiables. 5??

These are family rituals we love, but while I love all of them, all of them is not doable. My kids love the idea of these things too. (Add in school, groceries, random sports meetings/games/events)

Bible app listening / spiritual discussion
Breakfast
Lunch
Dinner (no screens, connection)
3 of us want to strength train
Chores (15m or less)
Chore check (parent/kid accountability)
Homework
Reading
Consistent bedtime wind-down
Sleep / bedtime routine
Hug good night
Sunday: lay out clothes for the week


You are insane.
Terrible parenting from "Bible app to chore check" "consistent bedtime wind-down"

I would hate to be so controlled. Just horrifyingly bad parenting.


Be honest. If the bible app was swapped out for meditation app, would you still be so breathtakingly negative?



Yep sure would.

No kid needs a meditation or bible app daily that is absurdly bad parenting.


Says the parent whose kid shoots up schools
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Actual non negotiables:

Breakfast
Lunch
Dinner
Chores
Homework
Consistent bedtime wind-down
Sleep / bedtime routine
Hug good night

Things you like doing because it’s the way you want to have your family do things:

Bible app listening / spiritual discussion
Dinner (no screens, connection)
3 of us want to strength train
Reading
Chore check (parent/kid accountability)
Sunday: lay out clothes for the week

I won’t go the route of insulting you like others have, I’m sorry they did that.

However, you do need to think this through and think “what are the things that actually need to be done, and what non essentials do I want to prioritize?

For many people religion IS essential, but a daily spiritual discussion, which takes more than 20 minutes, is definitely not part of the day for the vast vast majority of religious people. It’s like, going to church weekly


OP is a bible thumping control freak.


Maybe but I think more likely OP has raging, untreated ADHD. Big ideas, no ability to execute, lost in the weeds.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Actual non negotiables:

Breakfast
Lunch
Dinner
Chores
Homework
Consistent bedtime wind-down
Sleep / bedtime routine
Hug good night

Things you like doing because it’s the way you want to have your family do things:

Bible app listening / spiritual discussion
Dinner (no screens, connection)
3 of us want to strength train
Reading
Chore check (parent/kid accountability)
Sunday: lay out clothes for the week

I won’t go the route of insulting you like others have, I’m sorry they did that.

However, you do need to think this through and think “what are the things that actually need to be done, and what non essentials do I want to prioritize?

For many people religion IS essential, but a daily spiritual discussion, which takes more than 20 minutes, is definitely not part of the day for the vast vast majority of religious people. It’s like, going to church weekly


OP is a bible thumping control freak.


Maybe but I think more likely OP has raging, untreated ADHD. Big ideas, no ability to execute, lost in the weeds.


+1. I think she’s planning to implement all of these things tomorrow.
Anonymous
People are kind of weird about the Bible app. It’s like if you listen to Mark Wahlberg telling you to be nice to people and live with purpose, then you must be Carrie White’s mom.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:How many of these would you feel can be done as non-negotiables. 5??

These are family rituals we love, but while I love all of them, all of them is not doable. My kids love the idea of these things too. (Add in school, groceries, random sports meetings/games/events)

Bible app listening / spiritual discussion
Breakfast
Lunch
Dinner (no screens, connection)
3 of us want to strength train
Chores (15m or less)
Chore check (parent/kid accountability)
Homework
Reading
Consistent bedtime wind-down
Sleep / bedtime routine
Hug good night
Sunday: lay out clothes for the week


Homework should be done before dinner.


Tell us you have young kids without telling us you have young kids


How do you define “young kids?” My 11 year old 5th grader routinely has 3 hours of homework/studying per night. Her parochial K-8 finishes at 3:15, she starts homework at 3:30, finishes at 6:30, and I serve dinner at 6:45. Two nights a week she has dance class after dinner. What’s wrong with her finishing her homework before dinner? Do you think she’s not working hard enough and should do more homework after dinner? Three hours seems fine to me.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:How many of these would you feel can be done as non-negotiables. 5??

These are family rituals we love, but while I love all of them, all of them is not doable. My kids love the idea of these things too. (Add in school, groceries, random sports meetings/games/events)

Bible app listening / spiritual discussion
Breakfast
Lunch
Dinner (no screens, connection)
3 of us want to strength train
Chores (15m or less)
Chore check (parent/kid accountability)
Homework
Reading
Consistent bedtime wind-down
Sleep / bedtime routine
Hug good night
Sunday: lay out clothes for the week


Homework should be done before dinner.


Tell us you have young kids without telling us you have young kids


How do you define “young kids?” My 11 year old 5th grader routinely has 3 hours of homework/studying per night. Her parochial K-8 finishes at 3:15, she starts homework at 3:30, finishes at 6:30, and I serve dinner at 6:45. Two nights a week she has dance class after dinner. What’s wrong with her finishing her homework before dinner? Do you think she’s not working hard enough and should do more homework after dinner? Three hours seems fine to me.


I would talk to my kid’s teacher about the amount of homework.
But I have kids ages 11-17, and I don’t tell my older kids when to do their homework. I just don’t micromanage them like that.

(We do actually listen to Fr Mike or the Halo app most days though!)
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:How many of these would you feel can be done as non-negotiables. 5??

These are family rituals we love, but while I love all of them, all of them is not doable. My kids love the idea of these things too. (Add in school, groceries, random sports meetings/games/events)

Bible app listening / spiritual discussion
Breakfast
Lunch
Dinner (no screens, connection)
3 of us want to strength train
Chores (15m or less)
Chore check (parent/kid accountability)
Homework
Reading
Consistent bedtime wind-down
Sleep / bedtime routine
Hug good night
Sunday: lay out clothes for the week


My kids are clearly older than yours and go to different schools at different times and we are not religious, so 1-3 are out for us. My kid's are very active, so they don't strength train.

We also don't have them do chores every day, but they do them consistently when it's on their schedule.

I don't understand the difference between bedtime wind-down, bedtime routine, and hug good night. Again, my kids are in elementary and middle school, so maybe that's the difference. They get themselves ready for bed, read for a while, we say good-night. It's all one thing.

We eat dinner together every night, they do homework every day they have it, they read a LOT every day, and they lay out their clothes the night before. I would never have them lay out all their clothes for the week on Sunday because I think that's unnecessary, but you do do.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:How many of these would you feel can be done as non-negotiables. 5??

These are family rituals we love, but while I love all of them, all of them is not doable. My kids love the idea of these things too. (Add in school, groceries, random sports meetings/games/events)

Bible app listening / spiritual discussion
Breakfast
Lunch
Dinner (no screens, connection)
3 of us want to strength train
Chores (15m or less)
Chore check (parent/kid accountability)
Homework
Reading
Consistent bedtime wind-down
Sleep / bedtime routine
Hug good night
Sunday: lay out clothes for the week


You are insane.
Terrible parenting from "Bible app to chore check" "consistent bedtime wind-down"

I would hate to be so controlled. Just horrifyingly bad parenting.


Be honest. If the bible app was swapped out for meditation app, would you still be so breathtakingly negative?



DP but why is an app necessary? My kids don't have a daily screen time routine, period.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:How many of these would you feel can be done as non-negotiables. 5??

These are family rituals we love, but while I love all of them, all of them is not doable. My kids love the idea of these things too. (Add in school, groceries, random sports meetings/games/events)

Bible app listening / spiritual discussion
Breakfast
Lunch
Dinner (no screens, connection)
3 of us want to strength train
Chores (15m or less)
Chore check (parent/kid accountability)
Homework
Reading
Consistent bedtime wind-down
Sleep / bedtime routine
Hug good night
Sunday: lay out clothes for the week


You are insane.
Terrible parenting from "Bible app to chore check" "consistent bedtime wind-down"

I would hate to be so controlled. Just horrifyingly bad parenting.


Be honest. If the bible app was swapped out for meditation app, would you still be so breathtakingly negative?



DP but why is an app necessary? My kids don't have a daily screen time routine, period.


I’m not OP, but the app we use is an audio thing that I play on my phone over the car speaker or a Bluetooth speaker we keep the kitchen.
It’s not like a game they play on a device.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:How many of these would you feel can be done as non-negotiables. 5??

These are family rituals we love, but while I love all of them, all of them is not doable. My kids love the idea of these things too. (Add in school, groceries, random sports meetings/games/events)

Bible app listening / spiritual discussion
Breakfast
Lunch
Dinner (no screens, connection)
3 of us want to strength train
Chores (15m or less)
Chore check (parent/kid accountability)
Homework
Reading
Consistent bedtime wind-down
Sleep / bedtime routine
Hug good night
Sunday: lay out clothes for the week


You are insane.
Terrible parenting from "Bible app to chore check" "consistent bedtime wind-down"

I would hate to be so controlled. Just horrifyingly bad parenting.


Be honest. If the bible app was swapped out for meditation app, would you still be so breathtakingly negative?



DP but why is an app necessary? My kids don't have a daily screen time routine, period.


I’m not OP, but the app we use is an audio thing that I play on my phone over the car speaker or a Bluetooth speaker we keep the kitchen.
It’s not like a game they play on a device.


Got it, I was thinking it was something interactive. Yeah, I don't see this is any different from my kids listening to Million Bazillion or audio books. That's a very easy thing to do in the car.
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