When the person in front of me is making the same turns as I am and going to what seems like the same place..

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is funny to me because when I was quite pregnant a guy getting on the same bus as me kind of shoved past me to get on the bus when it arrived, then jumped up and jostled past me to get to the front of the bus when we were getting off at the same stop, and while walking did a big "jump out ahead of these slow walkers" thing at the first intersection when we had to wait for a light. He was clearly frustrated and running late, but then when I got to my OB's office he was waiting for the elevator in the lobby. I unbuttoned my coat while we were waiting and he was sooooo visibly uncomfortable with the fact that he'd been basically pushing a pregnant woman out of his way in his hurry to get to his pregnant partner's appointment, instead of just a slow fat lady or whatever he thought at the time. He held the elevator door for me when it showed up and when it got to the doctor's floor, and was all "after you" about going to the check-in desk.

Nobody thinks you're tailing them. But drive politely all the same so that if you end up at the same place it's not awkward!

He sounds like a good person. Most of the jerks you see every day couldn’t care less about you. There is nothing wrong with trying to rush to your pregnant wife’s appointment. I would expect no less from any committed father.

He could get where he was going without pushing other women out of the way. Would he like his wife to be treated like this?

[Anonymous]

I once was going to the exact same street as someone deep into a neighborhood from a main road to pick up my kid from a friend’s house. Clearly they got freaked out and pulled over to see if I would go by them or not. I did. I couldn’t blame them, I felt like I was stalking them too!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is funny to me because when I was quite pregnant a guy getting on the same bus as me kind of shoved past me to get on the bus when it arrived, then jumped up and jostled past me to get to the front of the bus when we were getting off at the same stop, and while walking did a big "jump out ahead of these slow walkers" thing at the first intersection when we had to wait for a light. He was clearly frustrated and running late, but then when I got to my OB's office he was waiting for the elevator in the lobby. I unbuttoned my coat while we were waiting and he was sooooo visibly uncomfortable with the fact that he'd been basically pushing a pregnant woman out of his way in his hurry to get to his pregnant partner's appointment, instead of just a slow fat lady or whatever he thought at the time. He held the elevator door for me when it showed up and when it got to the doctor's floor, and was all "after you" about going to the check-in desk.

Nobody thinks you're tailing them. But drive politely all the same so that if you end up at the same place it's not awkward!

He sounds like a good person. Most of the jerks you see every day couldn’t care less about you. There is nothing wrong with trying to rush to your pregnant wife’s appointment. I would expect no less from any committed father.

He could get where he was going without pushing other women out of the way. Would he like his wife to be treated like this?

He didn’t “push” her or else she would be very clear that he did. He “kind of shoved past”, “jostled past” and then “jumped out ahead” of slow walkers. If he laid a hand on her then she would be screaming bloody murder rather than using veiled language that implies more than actually happened. He also held the elevator for her so there is obviously some nuance here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is funny to me because when I was quite pregnant a guy getting on the same bus as me kind of shoved past me to get on the bus when it arrived, then jumped up and jostled past me to get to the front of the bus when we were getting off at the same stop, and while walking did a big "jump out ahead of these slow walkers" thing at the first intersection when we had to wait for a light. He was clearly frustrated and running late, but then when I got to my OB's office he was waiting for the elevator in the lobby. I unbuttoned my coat while we were waiting and he was sooooo visibly uncomfortable with the fact that he'd been basically pushing a pregnant woman out of his way in his hurry to get to his pregnant partner's appointment, instead of just a slow fat lady or whatever he thought at the time. He held the elevator door for me when it showed up and when it got to the doctor's floor, and was all "after you" about going to the check-in desk.

Nobody thinks you're tailing them. But drive politely all the same so that if you end up at the same place it's not awkward!

He sounds like a good person. Most of the jerks you see every day couldn’t care less about you. There is nothing wrong with trying to rush to your pregnant wife’s appointment. I would expect no less from any committed father.

He could get where he was going without pushing other women out of the way. Would he like his wife to be treated like this?

He didn’t “push” her or else she would be very clear that he did. He “kind of shoved past”, “jostled past” and then “jumped out ahead” of slow walkers. If he laid a hand on her then she would be screaming bloody murder rather than using veiled language that implies more than actually happened. He also held the elevator for her so there is obviously some nuance here.

If his behavior was unimpeachable, then why was he visibly uncomfortable when confronted with her pregnant presence in the OB office lobby? He held the elevator for her because he felt guilty about his previous behavior. Also, holding the elevator is so basic, it hardly needs praise. He does not sound like a good person. He sounds like a typical self-important male who realized that this woman he shoved past and jostled was in the same condition as his wife, which made him recognize her humanity.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You have main character syndrome. No one is paying attention to you.

I couldn’t agree more. And so what if you’re going to the same place?! OP is so weird!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I usually just will make sure to park far once at destination. And I do notice if someone is “following” me and will try to lose them, especially if on my way home. Better safe than sorry.

+1

I notice if the same car is behind me after making multiple turns over long distances but I've only skipped turning onto my street a handful of times. Only once did I have to make the most random turns through my neighborhood and go around multiple blocks, switching directions, with the same car still behind me for miles, and that was the time I headed back out onto the interstate then floored it and lost him. And that's the one I think of when someone takes the same route for an extra long period of time so I don't think it's an absolutely crazy idea.

I don't change my route if I'm the one "following" but I do try to use my blinker ahead of the person and consider not making the same lane changes unless it's necessary.