Anyone had an ex who faked mental illness in divorce?

[Anonymous]

Sorry that happened to you and your wife.\
Sounds very difficult.

What did you do to her? What happened in your home?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Seems like you used her to give you a family and the freedom to have a career, took away her agency and options for a life of her own, and were surprised when that broke her.

No sympathy for a guy like that.

The wife broke for sure. Hope she can improve with a simpler life by herself. The adult kids probably can help her downsize her stuff.

If you see a vast improvement from age 60-65 you could file to reduce the amount you pay.

Don’t try to make it worse for her, stress her out to or drive her to the edge to save your pot of money. That is transparent and you will go to jail for that. You WILL be caught. She is the mother of your children after all. Suck it up. Many people die with a legacy anyway.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like a long term marriage if it included children who are now grown.

Split all retirement and other marriage assets 50/50. Then I would expect alimony and some sort of allowance for healthcare until retirement and age 65.

So, any pension is split 50/50, all IRAs and 401s split 50/50. Then set the alimony to enough to include a contribution to retirement.

Sell and split the house proceeds. Or negotiate a buy out of the house with other marriage assets.

Oh, and from your description, it doesn’t sound fake.

Pension isn't split 50/50. It's subject to a Qualified Domestic Relations Order (QDRO), which uses a formula.

I calculated my retirement balance (what he would have to pay) using an excel sheet. It came within a few hundred dollars of my qdro calculation.

It’s not hard to make these calculations. — everyone things they are going to “do better.”

[Anonymous]

You want someone who cared for you and your kids to get a job and live in poverty. No, she gets half of everything and life long allimony. She deserves better.

[Anonymous]

Kind of feel like OP has a mental illness that he’s hiding. He’s a sick man to play his family so remorselessly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That is menopause!

I am going crazy too. After over two decades of doing all the laundry, dishes, cooking, vacuuming, errands -- all while holding down a full-time job and raising all the kids 99% myself, I am done! It is normal. Women get burned out and men -- even those who claim to do "50%" -- have no idea how much it takes. I am amazed I can even wake up anymore or get out of bed.

It’s not common for menopause to cause clinical agoraphobia, complete lack of basic hygiene and hoarding.

[Anonymous]

I don’t think OP is coming back.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I feel like faking mental illness to this degree IS some sort of mental illness. So.

lol. Touche.

[Anonymous]

What OP is trying to say is they’re already divorced and ex-spouse is trying to get more support out of him by claiming some sort of mental disability. I don’t believe it will be an issue since kids are grown and divorce was finalized.