How to manage schools which love bomb after acceptance?

[Anonymous]

So, the love bombing is working on him? Explain basic marketing and remind him that he has many months ahead of him before needs to choose. He would be an excellent candidate to attend Accepted Student Days.

[Anonymous]

We were also very surprised by the “marketing/lovebombing” from Mizzou. Our first kid went to UVA, and I feel that they are like, “You better be super grateful we let your kid in!”

My current senior got a few handwritten letters from the tour guides and one of the deans. Then she got a letter from the mayor as well. Yes, it does feel like a lot! She is also accepted to two other rolling admissions schools (much more selective) that have basically sent her acceptance via the portal, and one in the mail.

She has legacy status at Mizzou. Right now they have given her 23K yearly merit. The program she applied to is excellent, so it looks like she will accept the offer. She loved the tour, the facilities, the setting and the layout of the campus.

[Anonymous]

OP you need to talk to some professors who have taught at T15 and on down. These schools are very different. If yours is really a shoe in for a T15 then Mizzou is unlikely to be a fit

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s called recruitment.


It’s not “love bombing,” which is a behavior used by in abuse.

If they start sending you abusive and controlling texts after you reject them…then perhaps you need to worry.

No school does that.

They’re referencing that the phrase is used in abuse situations. An abuser will “love bomb” their target after hurting them to perpetuate the cycle.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Did not see this coming.

I soon expect my DS to be accepted into 2 T15 schools, and prior to starting applications, these were his goals.

Partly from interest at this point in his life, partly to evaluate campus vibes, this also ended up being the college football season he paid attention to and watched many games. On a whim, he applied to Mizzou, UGA and Auburn. He's been accepted into Auburn and Mizzou.

Mizzou is love bombing him. Phone calls from the admissions office to check in, automail, handwritten letters from local alumni, invitations for local lunch and meetups, etc. Every day there's a letter or package in the mailbox from Mizzou.

While he awaits his target schools decisions we see it's affected his perspective. What went from "Mizzou looks like a fun place" is being replaced with "I would be the top student in their EE program" and "you could save tuition for my grad school".

We have no qualms about where he attends, but worry the college loving you back trope is negatively affecting his perception. We armed ourselves mentally for rejections, but not for safety schools going hard on marketing.

Anyone else navigating this? We don't have problems if he decided to attend Mizzou, but don't want love fog to be the reason.

Yes it is really tough holding off on love bombing from HYPSM. But we are hanging on.