Has your DH ever used ED pills?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My DH is 59, almost 60 and doesn't take them. He doesn't need them. I'm more of the issue with menopause. My libido tanked but my husband would be good to go 4-5 times a week.

How often do you end up doing now? How are you satisfying him if not by sex?

I’m the OP of this post. We probably do it 1-2 times a week now. Sometimes if I’m truly not up for it I’ll just satisfy him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Take it if you n need it. Nothing wrong with fixing something that is so easy for good sex. It is important for yourself, your sex life, intimacy with your partner.

I wish something like this is available for me since I hit peri, my sex drive has been very low and I only do sex to please him and don't orgasm.

There is. It’s called Addy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My DH is 59, almost 60 and doesn't take them. He doesn't need them. I'm more of the issue with menopause. My libido tanked but my husband would be good to go 4-5 times a week.

How often do you end up doing now? How are you satisfying him if not by sex?

I’m the OP of this post. We probably do it 1-2 times a week now. Sometimes if I’m truly not up for it I’ll just satisfy him.

This is good. you understand your limitations and still cares about your DHs' happiness. That is not the case with OP who don't like doing it at all and don't even make efforts to satisfy her BF or to improve things. That would suck and he would leave her soon.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:4 partners with ADHD/ASD had hard time getting up and staying up. Not sure where their head was.

How does ADHD affect erection? I don't know if there is a correlation. Could be something else such as type 2 or blood flow issue.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:4 partners with ADHD/ASD had hard time getting up and staying up. Not sure where their head was.

How does ADHD affect erection? I don't know if there is a correlation. Could be something else such as type 2 or blood flow issue.

Are you for real? The poster was obviously making a joke.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Even if it’s not totally necessary, still definitely improves wood quality and thus good to take.

It’s also cardioprotective!

This. The people saying they don’t need it have forgotten what it was like 20-30 years ago. It’s a noticeable difference.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Take it if you n need it. Nothing wrong with fixing something that is so easy for good sex. It is important for yourself, your sex life, intimacy with your partner.

I wish something like this is available for me since I hit peri, my sex drive has been very low and I only do sex to please him and don't orgasm.

There is. It’s called Addy.

Addy is hit or miss.

A way to have more overall energy, less brain fog, and a restored libido, is a prescription from your gynecologist for testosterone.

[Anonymous]

Np and interested in more info….

Dh is early 50s, exceptionally good shape (exercises daily), we have sex 2-3 times a week.

He has never had any issues with getting up, but for at least ten years I’ve noticed he’s not quite as hard as when we were in our twenties. And I think it makes a big impact on my ability to O from PIV (as in, I used to be able to and now I can’t, unless it’s the perfect position AND we time for simultaneous O - which is hard to count on). Obv this softening is normal, and not any kind of ED issue or inability to perform.

Wondering if in this case this is a reason to go on ED drugs. Or if he should only try if there is a problem?

Also, full disclosure, I like quick sessions - 10-15 mins tops, we both get taken care of and move on with our day. If he takes pills, does it take him a longer time to O? Even if he can O quickly still, is there an expectation to keep at it because he is still hard?

I have no interest in turning this into a one hour event, so if given the choice between a little soft/non-PIV O quickie vs hard/PIV O one hour, id take the former!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I.am 57 and no ED drugs yet. But I am one and done for the day..any subsequent session I'll please her anyways she likes but PIV won't be part of it.

I drink a lot water. I mediate every morning..I work out 4 times a week..I use gymnastics rings (they make a difference) and I am happy with my careers. Kids have graduated from college for couple of years now. So I am not stressed.

When it's time for ED drugs, I'll be first in line when the pharmacy opens. Sex is important. DW just turned 50 Aand is going through menopause.

My DH is 60 and also doesn't need them yet, but like you he can't do what he used to. I'm sure he will be on them at some point. That's fine.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Np and interested in more info….

Dh is early 50s, exceptionally good shape (exercises daily), we have sex 2-3 times a week.

He has never had any issues with getting up, but for at least ten years I’ve noticed he’s not quite as hard as when we were in our twenties. And I think it makes a big impact on my ability to O from PIV (as in, I used to be able to and now I can’t, unless it’s the perfect position AND we time for simultaneous O - which is hard to count on). Obv this softening is normal, and not any kind of ED issue or inability to perform.

Wondering if in this case this is a reason to go on ED drugs. Or if he should only try if there is a problem?

Also, full disclosure, I like quick sessions - 10-15 mins tops, we both get taken care of and move on with our day. If he takes pills, does it take him a longer time to O? Even if he can O quickly still, is there an expectation to keep at it because he is still hard?

I have no interest in turning this into a one hour event, so if given the choice between a little soft/non-PIV O quickie vs hard/PIV O one hour, id take the former!

PP, how old are you and are you going through Perimenopause or menopause? That would also affect your ability to feel O or not O at all. I say if you are still getting O in 10-15 mins then it is good. I am in my early 40s and still like my DH go for a long time on me. I don't like much work and a pillow princess but let him do the work when we go longer. He and I love it.

[Anonymous]

Yes, my DH uses it. He started using it in his 40’s. He didn’t tell me about it but I suspected the first time he used it. What made me suspect it was that before we even started making out it literally looked like he was going to break the zipper on his pants. When he went in I let out an involuntary scream (I’m not very vocal in bed, btw) because it felt like he was so hard and big that there was no flex or give and he was going to rearrange my organs. I don’t think he was used to me making noise because he didn’t last very long but it was an intense 5 minutes. Lol. After a few minutes he was able to go a second time which he never was before.

A few weeks later we were driving somewhere in his car and I found the printout from his doctor’s visit which listed sildenifil under medications. I asked him about it and why he didn’t tell me. He just said he forgot to mention it and didn’t think it was important.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, my DH uses it. He started using it in his 40’s. He didn’t tell me about it but I suspected the first time he used it. What made me suspect it was that before we even started making out it literally looked like he was going to break the zipper on his pants. When he went in I let out an involuntary scream (I’m not very vocal in bed, btw) because it felt like he was so hard and big that there was no flex or give and he was going to rearrange my organs. I don’t think he was used to me making noise because he didn’t last very long but it was an intense 5 minutes. Lol. After a few minutes he was able to go a second time which he never was before.

A few weeks later we were driving somewhere in his car and I found the printout from his doctor’s visit which listed sildenifil under medications. I asked him about it and why he didn’t tell me. He just said he forgot to mention it and didn’t think it was important.

Don't shame him about it or that you were ignored. Just enjoy good sex life as much as you can and don't worry about anything else. BTW, how old is your DH now?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, my DH uses it. He started using it in his 40’s. He didn’t tell me about it but I suspected the first time he used it. What made me suspect it was that before we even started making out it literally looked like he was going to break the zipper on his pants. When he went in I let out an involuntary scream (I’m not very vocal in bed, btw) because it felt like he was so hard and big that there was no flex or give and he was going to rearrange my organs. I don’t think he was used to me making noise because he didn’t last very long but it was an intense 5 minutes. Lol. After a few minutes he was able to go a second time which he never was before.

A few weeks later we were driving somewhere in his car and I found the printout from his doctor’s visit which listed sildenifil under medications. I asked him about it and why he didn’t tell me. He just said he forgot to mention it and didn’t think it was important.

Don't shame him about it or that you were ignored. Just enjoy good sex life as much as you can and don't worry about anything else. BTW, how old is your DH now?

He’s 50 and in great shape.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, my DH uses it. He started using it in his 40’s. He didn’t tell me about it but I suspected the first time he used it. What made me suspect it was that before we even started making out it literally looked like he was going to break the zipper on his pants. When he went in I let out an involuntary scream (I’m not very vocal in bed, btw) because it felt like he was so hard and big that there was no flex or give and he was going to rearrange my organs. I don’t think he was used to me making noise because he didn’t last very long but it was an intense 5 minutes. Lol. After a few minutes he was able to go a second time which he never was before.

A few weeks later we were driving somewhere in his car and I found the printout from his doctor’s visit which listed sildenifil under medications. I asked him about it and why he didn’t tell me. He just said he forgot to mention it and didn’t think it was important.

Don't shame him about it or that you were ignored. Just enjoy good sex life as much as you can and don't worry about anything else. BTW, how old is your DH now?

He’s 50 and in great shape.

what was the main reason for his usage if he was in great shape? I mean I know a few young athletes that take them so never really understood the cause for the issue.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Np and interested in more info….

Dh is early 50s, exceptionally good shape (exercises daily), we have sex 2-3 times a week.

He has never had any issues with getting up, but for at least ten years I’ve noticed he’s not quite as hard as when we were in our twenties. And I think it makes a big impact on my ability to O from PIV (as in, I used to be able to and now I can’t, unless it’s the perfect position AND we time for simultaneous O - which is hard to count on). Obv this softening is normal, and not any kind of ED issue or inability to perform.

Wondering if in this case this is a reason to go on ED drugs. Or if he should only try if there is a problem?

Also, full disclosure, I like quick sessions - 10-15 mins tops, we both get taken care of and move on with our day. If he takes pills, does it take him a longer time to O? Even if he can O quickly still, is there an expectation to keep at it because he is still hard?

I have no interest in turning this into a one hour event, so if given the choice between a little soft/non-PIV O quickie vs hard/PIV O one hour, id take the former!

When I first took them I did notice it can take a little longer to O, but not a lot. It almost has a bit of numbing effect. After an O, it reacts normally. It's not going to stay hard but a man will be ready to go again sooner than before if that's what you want. That doesn't mean you have to. It's basically like going back about 20 years.