What’s the mom version of bro-dad?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wine mom

This. They have long hair with curling iron waves. Obsessed with their kids sports.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Mama Bear mom.

So far we’ve identified:

- sports mom
- wine mom
- Sixx Cool moms
- “Mama”
- Mama Bear mom

(Have not even got to Tiger mom yet)

But, are any of these really “bro-moms?”

They’re all the same type. Mama Bear mom is the same but more middle class/low education.

[Anonymous]

I don't know if there's a true mom equivalent of a bro dad. I guess a wine mom is close because both bro dads and wine moms have weird fixations on drinking and socializing with other parents, while ignoring their kids or using them as props (bro dads want their kids to be sporty props in their soccer/lax/swim gear, whereas wine moms are more likely to put their kids in matching outfits for Christmas card photos, but similar vibe).

The bro dads I actually know are not married to wine moms though. They tend to be married to Type A overachiever moms who volunteer for (or run) the PTA, are constantly organizing events and outings for the kids, etc. They are sort of the foil to their laid back "bro" husbands. Mom will organize a BBQ at their house for all the neighborhood families with 14 activities and a special menu for the kids, and the bro dad will man the grill with a beer in hand.

I think a bro dad + wine mom marriage could actually be pretty awful for kids. Come to think of it, I think a lot of those Instagram influencer families are basically this and it looks like child neglect from here.

[Anonymous]

I assume a trucker hat is involved. Otherwise, the descriptions here are all over the place

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I call them bros and bro-ettes.

“Cool” (in their minds) moms and dads who are obsessed with their kids playing sports who drink too much is the basic idea. Selectively friendly. Totally basic.

+1
And I don't understand how they get their kids to do what they want! There are all these three-kid families where all three kids are star athletes but the parents don't seem all that athletic. They dress the part but they're practically alcoholic (booze at every little league game and even practice) and not exactly fit. None of the kids are "quirky", untalented or uninterested.

I think people like this tend to spawn people who are similarly incurious and unoriginal, so their young kids are just like "ok yes I'll put on this scratch plaid gingham shirt to match dad for family photos and then go to lacrosse practice, I don't have any other ideas for what to do."

But it's interesting because my kids are upper elementary and middle school now and one thing I have noticed is that these parents start freaking about academics a bit in late elementary. Their kids tend not to be super strong academically, in part because it is not emphasized at home (sports practice over reading, always). Also if the kid turns out to be just fine at sports (not bad, but not a super star) it becomes a problem because these kids have not been encouraged to explore other interests and the parents don't really know what those other interests would be (the concept of a child who is really into anime or cooking or art or some other offbeat, specific interest is totally foreign to them) so these kids flounder. The boys wind up obsessed with video games and getting duller by the minute, the girls become hyper-social and focused on makeup, clothes, and friend groups. In the 1980s this was the ticket to HS popularity and social success, but it's less true now, and I see some of the bro dad/wine mom scrambling trying to get their kids back on track academically and develop some kind of extra curricular since they are not going to make varsity anything.

You see the posts on hear that are like "what could my 10 year old possibly do?? He's okay at soccer but not great and I don't know what else to put him in??" There are a million things but these are simple people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Mama Bear mom.

So far we’ve identified:

- sports mom
- wine mom
- Sixx Cool moms
- “Mama”
- Mama Bear mom

(Have not even got to Tiger mom yet)

But, are any of these really “bro-moms?”

They’re all the same type. Mama Bear mom is the same but more middle class/low education.

+1. Mama Bear is the same as Disney mom who was profiled in another thread. These ladies are a bit more well-heeled but still fundamentally adolescent in their outlook.

[Anonymous]

The combo of drinking culture and sports emphasis in these comments is hilarious to me.

It reminds me of a parent couple I know who are obsessive about exercise (cross fit cult people) but do not look fit at all. The mom is always going on and on about how she cares more about "being strong" than "looking skinny."

I don't care if people are skinny but both of these people would lose 20-30 lbs quite quickly if they just scaled back on their drinking. Not even going sober, just shifting to one class of wine instead of an entire bottle in an evening. It is so hilarious to hear them lecture people about health and "strength" while drinking like 12-15 drinks on a given evening.

It's funny to me that the GLP1s don't seem to curb drinking at all and then they'll be like "Ozempic didn't work for me, I think I have an autoimmune disorder." Babe, you have a drinking problem. Go to AA.

[Anonymous]

I don't get what Mama Bear is, can someone explain it to me? I understand wine mom and Disney mom.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't get what Mama Bear is, can someone explain it to me? I understand wine mom and Disney mom.

Mama Bear is like wine mom but drops the f word more, has acrylic claws and her kids have different fathers. All are heavy social media showoffs.

[Anonymous]

BFF Mom. My daughter is my best friend. We talk about our sex lives and have coordinating Stanley tumblers

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't know if there's a true mom equivalent of a bro dad. I guess a wine mom is close because both bro dads and wine moms have weird fixations on drinking and socializing with other parents, while ignoring their kids or using them as props (bro dads want their kids to be sporty props in their soccer/lax/swim gear, whereas wine moms are more likely to put their kids in matching outfits for Christmas card photos, but similar vibe).

The bro dads I actually know are not married to wine moms though. They tend to be married to Type A overachiever moms who volunteer for (or run) the PTA, are constantly organizing events and outings for the kids, etc. They are sort of the foil to their laid back "bro" husbands. Mom will organize a BBQ at their house for all the neighborhood families with 14 activities and a special menu for the kids, and the bro dad will man the grill with a beer in hand.

I think a bro dad + wine mom marriage could actually be pretty awful for kids. Come to think of it, I think a lot of those Instagram influencer families are basically this and it looks like child neglect from here.

This is really, really funny. "The bro dad will man the grill with a beer in hand" while mom.has 14 activities planned. I know a lot of these combos you've described.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The combo of drinking culture and sports emphasis in these comments is hilarious to me.

It reminds me of a parent couple I know who are obsessive about exercise (cross fit cult people) but do not look fit at all. The mom is always going on and on about how she cares more about "being strong" than "looking skinny."

I don't care if people are skinny but both of these people would lose 20-30 lbs quite quickly if they just scaled back on their drinking. Not even going sober, just shifting to one class of wine instead of an entire bottle in an evening. It is so hilarious to hear them lecture people about health and "strength" while drinking like 12-15 drinks on a given evening.

It's funny to me that the GLP1s don't seem to curb drinking at all and then they'll be like "Ozempic didn't work for me, I think I have an autoimmune disorder." Babe, you have a drinking problem. Go to AA.

They work hard and play hard, donchaknow.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The combo of drinking culture and sports emphasis in these comments is hilarious to me.

It reminds me of a parent couple I know who are obsessive about exercise (cross fit cult people) but do not look fit at all. The mom is always going on and on about how she cares more about "being strong" than "looking skinny."

I don't care if people are skinny but both of these people would lose 20-30 lbs quite quickly if they just scaled back on their drinking. Not even going sober, just shifting to one class of wine instead of an entire bottle in an evening. It is so hilarious to hear them lecture people about health and "strength" while drinking like 12-15 drinks on a given evening.

It's funny to me that the GLP1s don't seem to curb drinking at all and then they'll be like "Ozempic didn't work for me, I think I have an autoimmune disorder." Babe, you have a drinking problem. Go to AA.

They work hard and play hard, donchaknow.

Suns out, guns out. Also beer bellies but sssshhhhhhh.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't get what Mama Bear is, can someone explain it to me? I understand wine mom and Disney mom.

Mama Bear is like wine mom but drops the f word more, has acrylic claws and her kids have different fathers. All are heavy social media showoffs.

Why are they called Mama Bears though?

My brother's girlfriend is kind of like this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't know if there's a true mom equivalent of a bro dad. I guess a wine mom is close because both bro dads and wine moms have weird fixations on drinking and socializing with other parents, while ignoring their kids or using them as props (bro dads want their kids to be sporty props in their soccer/lax/swim gear, whereas wine moms are more likely to put their kids in matching outfits for Christmas card photos, but similar vibe).

OMG THIS!