Warm, Supportive, Friendly, Nurturing---What do these terms mean?

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Anonymous wrote:Traditional words to describe women and mothers. Probably a school trying to attract more female students.

But it's boys who want to go where the women and mothers are.

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Some of this is pretty simple. Some neighborhoods are friendly, others not so much. Same with workplaces. It stands to reason that a university (i.e. the students, faculty, and staff) can be friendly or less friendly.

Am I weak for wanting to wanting to live in a friendly neighborhood and work for a friendly company? Or am I just considering quality of life?

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Anonymous wrote:The colleges on the CTCL list

Wow someone is really working hard on this forum to promote that CTCL

+1
I am so sick of hearing about that weird list.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Those were terms I used when picking my child’s elementary school.

Exactly!!!

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Anonymous wrote:Please help me understand these terms within a college environment? Can you share a concrete example of your "warm" school? What specifically makes it "friendly"? How is "nurturing" built into the environment? What does "supportive" mean at the college level?

Private HS 2.0

Some of you all have a real fetish about equating extra student support with weakness or immaturity.

I’m a different poster, but it does seem beyond odd that anyone would expect the school to step in if your kid is sick or misses class. My daughter had a sinus infection and took herself to the school health center. When she continued to be sick weeks later, she went to urgent care to get some antibiotics. If she had been more seriously ill, we would have come and helped her or brought her home. What on earth should the school be doing? They are adults and this isn’t summer camp.

Check in in case the kid is unconscious in the dorm room?

Roommates would report that. I mean, come on.

[Anonymous]

As a college admin, i can tell you that 'supportive' is code for "Yes, we still want your kid -- even if they have accomodations for a learning disability or they have a psychological condition that requires a private room, or an eating disorder' or whatever.

[Anonymous]

A supportive school would probably let your kid have an emotional support animal (same poster as above). They wouldn't mind if you occasionally called and advocated for your kid. They might not expect them to be completely adult at 18.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like the admission pitch to the limousine liberals in our full pay suburb by overpriced private high schools. This time of year it is really funny to see the $25 lawn signs advertising open house nights for these $65-70k a year schools. One sign tries to outdue another. House usually has 3 car garage with Teslas and evAudi, and of course no lawnmower.

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Anonymous wrote:For my student, we looked for schools that where the social scene was not dominated by institutions designed to exclude people, be they sports teams, greek organizations, or selective clubs.

To identify a warm and supportive atmosphere, I'd ask: what happens if a student gets sick? Who gets involved and how? Do students share course notes and study together (when not forced to by group projects)?

Is this a serious post?

It's the best answer so far. Why do you ask? What is your answer?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The colleges on the CTCL list

Wow someone is really working hard on this forum to promote that CTCL

+1
I am so sick of hearing about that weird list.

What don't you like about it? Did you bother to read any of the book? Seriously, what's "weird" about it?

I see the same subjects come up a lot in this forum that don't interest me. I don't give them a second thought. I just move on. I certainly don't complain that I'm sick of hearing about them. That would be weird.

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None of the T20s.
I think of a tiny college private with low academic aspirations. Like Salve Regina or Emerson.

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Anonymous wrote:A supportive school would probably let your kid have an emotional support animal (same poster as above). They wouldn't mind if you occasionally called and advocated for your kid. They might not expect them to be completely adult at 18.

That is my impression.

To the writer of the above: Your posts are great.

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Anonymous wrote:For my student, we looked for schools that where the social scene was not dominated by institutions designed to exclude people, be they sports teams, greek organizations, or selective clubs.

To identify a warm and supportive atmosphere, I'd ask: what happens if a student gets sick? Who gets involved and how? Do students share course notes and study together (when not forced to by group projects)?

Is this a serious post?

It's the best answer so far. Why do you ask? What is your answer?

My answer is the same as other posters: surely you don't expect school staff to come looking for your kid if they miss a class? Barring any true emergency or life-threatening issue, your student should be able to visit the health center when sick and manage just fine. And how could you possibly know if ALL students will be willing to study together? Some kids like that, others want to be alone. You just sound unbelievably smothering - and I say that as a parent who was very protective of their *child* but realized that college was the time to start becoming independent.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The colleges on the CTCL list

Wow someone is really working hard on this forum to promote that CTCL

+1
I am so sick of hearing about that weird list.

What don't you like about it? Did you bother to read any of the book? Seriously, what's "weird" about it?

I see the same subjects come up a lot in this forum that don't interest me. I don't give them a second thought. I just move on. I certainly don't complain that I'm sick of hearing about them. That would be weird.

Someone (you?) brings up the CTCL list on every.single.thread. At a certain point, I wonder if you're on their payroll.

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Why would you assume that there's only one person posting about CTCL? None of my kids are at one, but we toured a couple and were really impressed. Do you get bent out of shape when people post about WASP / Ivy / HYPMS / NESCAC / SEC / whatever groupings? Do you assume that there's "the SEC poster" or "the NESCAC poster"?