Best place for not super studious kid

[Anonymous]

Would she consider Lafayette? Not warm but somewhat rah rah and small enough to get support and attention. Or Elon?

Our DC2 sounds similar to your DC, and we'd be worried about them trying to navigate a big, state school.

[Anonymous]

So I have the same ADHD profile kid (minus the stellar ACT, but decent GPA) and he is miserable in 2nd year of college at a local state school. Feels stuck and that he can't take a gap year now because he'll "be behind everyone else." Doesn't know what he wants to do and thinks everyone else has it figured out so something must be wrong with him. We're considering study abroad for the summer and beyond, if he likes it. Not like the job market is especially inviting for these new college grads right now!
Anyway I can empathize, OP, and wish we had done the gap year right away.

[Anonymous]

If a block plan is helpful, consider Colorado college

[Anonymous]

ASU

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes good stats and yes smart. I meant doesn’t enjoy studying, research. Not a hustler. But not completely lost. Just don’t see her networking for clubs or going above and beyond. Will do the work and then want to head out, work out, watch a movie etc.

I understood what you meant, 100%. So many kids with those stats seem (from the outside, at least) to be all-in: Super motivated and ambitious and into their academics beyond the bare minimum to get the grade. Kids who will hustle in college to hustle and self-advocate and make the most of the opportunities.

Have you considered Wake Forest? It reminds me of Duke in the 1990s - all smart kids with strong academics, but a nice mix of ambitious gunners and more laid-back, social kids who aren't trying to build their resume on day one. (Also, I'd guess that private schools would have more proactive/attentive student support than larger state schools, but I don't know if that's true. It may depend on the school, as many things do.)

Anyway, check your school's Naviance to see the stats for Wake Forest accepted students from your high school. My sense is they like some high schools more than others.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She needs to index for Mrs degree

As long as she knows what she’s in college for:

- get the degree
- be/stay attractive
- lock down a guy

Then it’s worth sending her to a school that’ll help her with those goals

Otherwise this is not a kid that should be going to university. Better for her in that case to gap years

What would be your suggestion for a boy in this situation? An M.R. Degree?

Finance. Join a fraternity. Wear golf polos, khaki shorts, boat shoes and a hat backwards. Be a douche, but have a wealthy dad that can give you a job after graduation. The dumb hot girls will be all over you.

Find a MRS whose family owns a company he can become VP of.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She needs to index for Mrs degree

As long as she knows what she’s in college for:

- get the degree
- be/stay attractive
- lock down a guy

Then it’s worth sending her to a school that’ll help her with those goals

Otherwise this is not a kid that should be going to university. Better for her in that case to gap years

What would be your suggestion for a boy in this situation? An M.R. Degree?

Trade School or military. men should not be going to university if they cannot get into a top 50 school. atleast not directly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She needs to index for Mrs degree

As long as she knows what she’s in college for:

- get the degree
- be/stay attractive
- lock down a guy

Then it’s worth sending her to a school that’ll help her with those goals

Otherwise this is not a kid that should be going to university. Better for her in that case to gap years

What would be your suggestion for a boy in this situation? An M.R. Degree?

Finance. Join a fraternity. Wear golf polos, khaki shorts, boat shoes and a hat backwards. Be a douche, but have a wealthy dad that can give you a job after graduation. The dumb hot girls will be all over you.

Find a MRS whose family owns a company he can become VP of.

That’s an option too, but it’s a little more work and strategizing.

[Anonymous]

Only a 34 on the ACT and she doesn't prefer to spend her time researching and studying as a high school senior? Might as well sign her up for SNAP and WIC now (or whenever the government reopens).

[Anonymous]

For southern and Greek, with those stats I’d look at W&L and Sewanee. Could presumably get merit at Sewanee with a 34 ACT.

I have an ADHD kid and am trying to sell her on a small school where the professors know if you don’t show up. She’s bright but struggles with executive function and can see her getting lost at a large school.

[Anonymous]

I'd encourage a major and career that provide a lot of structure: occupational therapy or physical therapy, for example. Maybe nursing if you think she can hack it.

These health careers are highly meaningful and pay pretty well, but also provide a lot of structure for people who need external motivation. Classes tend to have more deadlines and clinicals.

For many health careers, certification matters more than alumni networks so if she goes this way, I'd say have her attend wherever she's most excited to go.

[Anonymous]

I have an NMF with severe ADD inattentive and executive functioning issues. He’s at a large flagship and had no issues securing accommodations through the Office of Disability Services. However the accommodations are mostly focused on testing (extra time, private setting) and note taking assistance. There’s no accommodations for extended time on routine assignments.

[Anonymous]

I have a kid like this who is now in college. Smart kid, 1540, 4.0 uw but just not really a studier. I think you are very smart to consider this. We did and I’m so glad he/we didn’t try to get him into the most competitive place he might be admitted.

[Anonymous]

ROLLINS

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a kid like this who is now in college. Smart kid, 1540, 4.0 uw but just not really a studier. I think you are very smart to consider this. We did and I’m so glad he/we didn’t try to get him into the most competitive place he might be admitted.

Where did he go, and is he happy there? It would be helpful to some of us (though our DC's stats are lower).