Yep, and the time to make the jump is in private high school which is a huge part of why families pay for it. A middle class high schooler can 100% make the jump into an elite circle if they are outgoing, smart, good looking, charismatic, athletic (especially if male). The high school social scene and pecking order at even the fanciest schools is based on these qualities and not wealth or parental resume. And once you're in, you're in because these schools place such a huge emphasis on alumni status and pressure-cooker elite high schools tend to bond kids together due to the stress and also because the kids are spending 12 hours a day together (due to required sports) or 24 hours a day (when boarding). |
This. Jesuit school parent here. All the dc from similar schools know each other and played sports against each other and have respect for the background and morals that were instilled in them. |
What are you talking about? There are feeder schools to the most selective colleges in the country. Where have you been? Look at the New York Times article and the study on feeder high schools. It’s been posted on here so many times. |
In DC area, Gonzaga and SJC have major networks. And the networks seems to cross over, because many know each other from each school. |
At least the CA ones I'm familiar with, you have to apply (write essays, take SSAT, teacher rec, GPA). it's a mini college process. the HS my DC is at has only a 15% admission rate. 25-30% are on financial aid. |
| So much confirmation bias here. |
I really really dislike elitist east coast rich people. This thread is exhibit a. |
| Thread suggestion! Which east coast private school/country club/slac combination is the best for finding a private equity husband? |
The young men at Prep are far from obnoxious. North Bethesda isn't Long Island in terms of vibe. Prep is a great DC area school. |
| Honest question- are these networks mostly White folks? |
Yes, but they would love to help a minority as it would reflect well on them for being so "open-minded."
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have you seen the percent of asians at these elite private schools and boarding schools? a minority but definitely growing. Especially the boarding schools, West Coast privates and NYC more so than DC privates. Many very very rich internationals also at the boarding schools. It’s all about money, not skin color. |
No, frankly it's all about skin color. my private school kid is at an Ivy and on the periphery of the monied, boarding school crowd and it's all WASP white kids. There are many of them. |