How to stop kid from talking like a 50 year old?

[Anonymous]

Aside from him using the term street walkers, I don’t see anything wrong with him. I was similar as a teen in terms of having different interests than my peers (talked about politics and current events vs pop culture and fashion) and dressing very conservatively. I was extremely judgmental of my peers’ interests and way of dress in private but would never publicly criticize their interests or use the terms slut or street walker. That needs to be shut down ASAp! I’m probably on the spectrum too. It runs in my family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Honestly.... I'd be concerned about any incel tendencies. I have zero problem with a teenage boy not being into a girl wearing the shorts/skirts where her butt cheeks are hanging out. But calling them street walkers, skanks, and other misogynistic and angry names would never be okay in my house and would definitely put up some red flags.

This is a really good point and — like with PP whose son berates his sisters fashion choices — I’d be worried he is getting this from someone online. It’s fine to read/follow news but I’d want some insight into the source of the content. Things can go sideways quickly with the algorithms feeding you increasingly polarized content.

[Anonymous]

I wish there were DCUM superlatives so I could vote for this one as "most creative humblebrag"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Deal with his incel misogyny first

Actually step #1 if for OP to deal with her own heteronormative approach to “connecting” with her son.

Maybe he’s gay, OP. Stop with the GIRL pushing.

[Anonymous]

My autistic son has always had similar Little Professor tendencies, BUT is a kind and gentle soul who would never think of or express sexualized judgement on the opposite sex. That's horrific, OP. Your kid has issues that have nothing to do with autism or ADHD or anxiety. What has he been watching online? He's going down the rabbit hole of possibly violent misogyny. It's great he's talking about intellectual topics, but you need to punish him for hateful speech.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Deal with his incel misogyny first

Actually step #1 if for OP to deal with her own heteronormative approach to “connecting” with her son.

Maybe he’s gay, OP. Stop with the GIRL pushing.

Healthy homosexuals don't excoriate the opposite sex.

I agree that it sounds as if OP has been pushing her son into certain behaviors she deems acceptable for his age, and that maybe he's rejecting that forcefully because he's so irritated at her anti-intellectualism and creepy sexualized behavior. He might or might not be gay, but the OP is definitely the worst sort of parent.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sorry if this sounds crass, but my son is 16, and one thing that truly irks my soul is the way he talks—especially compared to how my nephew talks. My nephew talks about new games, pretty girls, and typical teenage stuff. My son, on the other hand, talks about local politics, condos vs. fee simple, the need for vouchers in MCPS as it declines, the imbalance of demographics, how the middle class is shrinking so fast, and what can be done about it. It’s just so annoying—like, go outside, talk to a girl!
And the worst part? He’s conventionally attractive, so girls do want to talk to him. But he says things like, “They dress too much like streetwalkers.” Like—what?? How do I fix this? I always have to ask him, “Are you 50?” just to get him to shut up.

Sounds like your son is pretty lame TBH.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Aside from him using the term street walkers, I don’t see anything wrong with him. I was similar as a teen in terms of having different interests than my peers (talked about politics and current events vs pop culture and fashion) and dressing very conservatively. I was extremely judgmental of my peers’ interests and way of dress in private but would never publicly criticize their interests or use the terms slut or street walker. That needs to be shut down ASAp! I’m probably on the spectrum too. It runs in my family.

Why does it need to be shut down? According to DCUM being a streetwalker or skank isn’t negative, it’s to be lauded.

[Anonymous]

DCUM never fails me. Pasta salad is trashy, but women wearing next to nothing are empowered.

Justice for pasta salad! Justice for pasta salad!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:There is absolutely nothing wrong talking about local politics, condos, vouchers. Stop trying to change those things about your son.

There is something wrong with anyone, 16 or 50, calling others streetwalkers for their attire.

Address treating others with respect.

Some people don’t deserve us to respect their poor decisions. He is calling a spade a spade, and I’m all for it. Dress better. It is not something innate to the person, which would be wrong. They choose to look like that.

If you are a woman, figure out why you hate yourself and do some work.

I saw what the girls were wearing to Homecoming the other night. Honestly alot of them did dress like hookers. Is what it is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My daughter and her friend like to talk like 80 year old ladies named Janet and Rita. They discuss the good old days, the downfall of society, card game strategies, and the awful youths they encounter.

They are 11.

There's no way a mom would report this behavior without acknowledging they're doing a bit from Bluey.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There is nothing wrong with your kid and he sounds a lot like my 17 yo. He often lectures us and he says he can’t believe that we let our daughter, his sister, go out of the house in the clothes that she wears. He had the mind of a person much older than 50. We are in our 50s.

There's a lot wrong with the misogyny just as there's a lot wrong with your son's misogyny and the fact that he's lecturing you. You and op both need to get your son's together.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:There is absolutely nothing wrong talking about local politics, condos, vouchers. Stop trying to change those things about your son.

There is something wrong with anyone, 16 or 50, calling others streetwalkers for their attire.

Address treating others with respect.

Some people don’t deserve us to respect their poor decisions. He is calling a spade a spade, and I’m all for it. Dress better. It is not something innate to the person, which would be wrong. They choose to look like that.

If you are a woman, figure out why you hate yourself and do some work.

I am a woman and not at all. I respect myself far too much to dress like a skank.

Sorry for your upbringing. Respectable on outside, trash on inside

Nailed it!

[Anonymous]

OP: Place a chair on the front lawn. See if your son takes the bait.

[Anonymous]

The shaming girls for their outfit choices is unacceptable, but the rest of this is not. I'm sure there's a girl out there who acts like a 50 year old as well and they'll be the perfect couple, if only he cuts out the "streetwalker" talk.