Fraternity invitations

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Anonymous wrote:Top-tier fraternity men tend to share a certain prototype: good-looking, urbane, lean, muscular, chiseled jawlines, well-endowed, sartorially gifted, and highly confident. The kind of guys who don't get rattled no matter the situation, whether they're chatting up the finest girl at the bar or trying to close a deal with a Fortune 500 CEO. They recruit freshmen who fit that mold to keep their place at the top of the campus pecking order. Clearly, they saw something in your son that they didn’t see in his roommates. Instead of questioning it or worrying about them, he should take it as proof that he has what it takes to be somebody who's somebody on campus. He should go to every event he’s invited to, secure a bid, and enjoy being a top dog for the next 3.5 years, getting invites to the best parties and tailgates and dating/hooking up with the best-looking girls. And thanks to the lucrative alumni networks top-tier houses plug you into, he’ll also graduate with better opportunities and make more money.

This has to be a joke. If you want to continue the stereotypes don’t forget how alcoholism comes with the territory. southern fraternities are full of MAGA idiots who just make the standard 2.5 gpa, date rape is common and they have zero respect for women. It’s not for everyone.

This isn’t what my sons are experiencing at two SEC schools. My take is there are certain frats reserved for kids from the state and traditional southern states and other frats (including top tier) that draw heavily from across the country. Since my kids are from blue states up north, they are in diverse frats with kids from all over—with different political views.

The biggest thing that jumps out is affluence: frat boys come from money. There aren’t any poor kids. These kids are well traveled, athletic/fit, and outgoing.

In terms of recruitment: most kids reach out to frats and that’s how they get info and invites. Some frats proactively reach out, but that is more prevalent at less popular frats at schools with less popular green systems. Supply and demand is a thing.

If they are recruiting and the roommates are interested, they should just ping the rush chair. Attending the events/parties is a way to check it out without committing.

Fwiw, travel pics on social media are a good thing for kids who rush.

Weirdly (or not) I think the SEC schools and some of the less selective flagships are more egalitarian than schools like UVA, Michigan, Dartmouth, Cornell, Vanderbilt, USC, Duke, Penn and Northwestern. There its all about your network and who you know.

Hard to say.

They definitely collect your stats in terms of:

1. Where you are from
2. High school
3. Parents’ occupations/affiliations
4. Legacy or other connections

But the informal rush events probably count the most. My kids attended parties or hang-outs the summer leading into freshman year and both had bids before classes started.

Honestly, from my perspective, I like that it’s a “school within a school” insofar as how the house serves as a homebase and community. My kids have friends outside of the Greek system, but the pledge class and upperclassmen in the frat made for a seamless transition to a huge university. And the social scene with date parties/games/events made it easy to meet girls. Every girl I’ve met through my kids has been very impressive (and I say that as a Type A white collar professional from a blue city).