I’m being let go, but there’s a catch—

[Anonymous]

They are trying to be nice, so that you can look for a job while still employed. I don't think they expect you to get much/any work done. You can decline if you are immediately jumping to the next job.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:They are trying to be nice to you. Take the win. Collect the paycheck. Look for another job.

Tell them you decline their generous offer but you will instead be giving your 2 week notice and look forward to their positive reference. Ask if there are any tasks you can do int he last 2 weeks.

I actually like this advice. I just worry that things will be incredibly awkward during the two weeks if I stay. I don’t know if the added stress is worth a reference I don’t know that I can even trust I will receive.

It is. -btdt and glad to have left on good terms.

What advice to you have for me in regards to the awkward tension, should I decide to stay?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The catch is you don't get fired today out on you butt. You are being fired for performance, that's a big deal and will be difficult to find a new job, especially in this economy.

As I said, I already have a job lined up. I can start Monday.

Then do it. You sound young and foolish.

I may be young and foolish, but at least I can comprehend what I read.

Cool, but too bad you can't comprehend how to play the game at work. DCUM message board is not the place to shine.

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Anonymous wrote:The catch is you don't get fired today out on you butt. You are being fired for performance, that's a big deal and will be difficult to find a new job, especially in this economy.

As I said, I already have a job lined up. I can start Monday.

Then do it. You sound young and foolish.

Everyone is giving you the same advice but you don't want to take it. So quit today.

I understand what everyone is saying, but what proof do I have that they will give a positive reference? They’ll be lying. I’m being bought, and if people can be bought, what even is the purpose of references? I could stay two weeks, cash my check, and still receive a poor reference. I’m just trying to protect myself.

There is no cost to staying, except added stress. There is huge potential upside. Stay, stay, stay. Hold your head high. Be polite. Get your coworkers’ numbers. That way, you can ask them for a reference, rather than your boss, if they would have more positive things to say.

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Anonymous wrote:The catch is you don't get fired today out on you butt. You are being fired for performance, that's a big deal and will be difficult to find a new job, especially in this economy.

As I said, I already have a job lined up. I can start Monday.

Then do it. You sound young and foolish.

Everyone is giving you the same advice but you don't want to take it. So quit today.

I understand what everyone is saying, but what proof do I have that they will give a positive reference? They’ll be lying. I’m being bought, and if people can be bought, what even is the purpose of references? I could stay two weeks, cash my check, and still receive a poor reference. I’m just trying to protect myself.

But at least you'd have two weeks pay and benefits. The answer is pretty obvious here. Leaving early is all downside.

I will have a paycheck on Monday. As I said, I have a job lined up. There may be downsides, but this isn’t one of them.

You could do both. You said it was a part time job. If it was as lucrative why aren't you already there?

[Anonymous]

I had almost the exact same thing happen to me in my early 20s. It was my first “real” job, only my bosses were horrible and the climate at work not conducive to success. My bosses were ageists and fired me in almost the same way. I left over lunch. I never used them as a reference and no one ever asked me about the gap in my employment (9 months) or mentioned it if it popped up on my background checks. It was like it never happened.

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Anonymous wrote:The catch is you don't get fired today out on you butt. You are being fired for performance, that's a big deal and will be difficult to find a new job, especially in this economy.

As I said, I already have a job lined up. I can start Monday.

Then do it. You sound young and foolish.

Everyone is giving you the same advice but you don't want to take it. So quit today.

I understand what everyone is saying, but what proof do I have that they will give a positive reference? They’ll be lying. I’m being bought, and if people can be bought, what even is the purpose of references? I could stay two weeks, cash my check, and still receive a poor reference. I’m just trying to protect myself.

You ask for a written positive review before your last day. Or an electronic PDF of one. BTDT.

Also, grow up.

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Anonymous wrote:The catch is you don't get fired today out on you butt. You are being fired for performance, that's a big deal and will be difficult to find a new job, especially in this economy.

As I said, I already have a job lined up. I can start Monday.

Then do it. You sound young and foolish.

Everyone is giving you the same advice but you don't want to take it. So quit today.

I understand what everyone is saying, but what proof do I have that they will give a positive reference? They’ll be lying. I’m being bought, and if people can be bought, what even is the purpose of references? I could stay two weeks, cash my check, and still receive a poor reference. I’m just trying to protect myself.

You ask for a written positive review before your last day. Or an electronic PDF of one. BTDT.

Also, grow up.

This is actually perfect. I’m going to offer to stay with this stipulation. If they don’t agree and supply me with this by the end of the day, I’ll have my answer.

And I’m working on it, every day!

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Anonymous wrote:You don't want this problem down the road. You never know when you'll need to phone in a favor of them even for a reference for licensure or something. 2 weeks is nothing wnd is standard practice. They sound reasonable. You dont. Play the long game.

This job is entry level and not at all related to my career field. It’s just a job with hours that worked with my school and childcare schedule.

The level of immaturity on this post makes no sense coming from a parent. It's one thing for a flighty college kid to not care about being fired from Subway, but you're fighting with people about how you shouldn't have to have any awkward feelings going to a job for two more weeks even though you KNOW you did a bad job and deserved to be fired.

Grow up. Don't act like your job is a favor you're doing for your boss. You didn't meet expectations, you got fired for cause, and now you think that *you* deserve an explanation for why they're letting you finish the month? The level of delusion is nuts.

You seem pretty proud that you have "a job lined up" but here's the real secret: if you're a decent employee you don't need to rely on the kindness of family friends for part time work. You don't get fired for cause. The labor market is imploding and people like you are going to have a very, very hard time finding even subsistence level employment with a bad work ethic, bad attitude, and inability to take advice that YOU asked for in the first place.

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Anonymous wrote:The catch is you don't get fired today out on you butt. You are being fired for performance, that's a big deal and will be difficult to find a new job, especially in this economy.

As I said, I already have a job lined up. I can start Monday.

Then do it. You sound young and foolish.

Everyone is giving you the same advice but you don't want to take it. So quit today.

I understand what everyone is saying, but what proof do I have that they will give a positive reference? They’ll be lying. I’m being bought, and if people can be bought, what even is the purpose of references? I could stay two weeks, cash my check, and still receive a poor reference. I’m just trying to protect myself.

You said you don’t need the reference so why would you care if it’s positive or negative? You received excellent advice on how to professionally thank them for their generous offer and make today your last day. If you don’t need their reference one way or another make today your last day.

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Anonymous wrote:You don't want this problem down the road. You never know when you'll need to phone in a favor of them even for a reference for licensure or something. 2 weeks is nothing wnd is standard practice. They sound reasonable. You dont. Play the long game.

This job is entry level and not at all related to my career field. It’s just a job with hours that worked with my school and childcare schedule.

The level of immaturity on this post makes no sense coming from a parent. It's one thing for a flighty college kid to not care about being fired from Subway, but you're fighting with people about how you shouldn't have to have any awkward feelings going to a job for two more weeks even though you KNOW you did a bad job and deserved to be fired.

Grow up. Don't act like your job is a favor you're doing for your boss. You didn't meet expectations, you got fired for cause, and now you think that *you* deserve an explanation for why they're letting you finish the month? The level of delusion is nuts.

You seem pretty proud that you have "a job lined up" but here's the real secret: if you're a decent employee you don't need to rely on the kindness of family friends for part time work. You don't get fired for cause. The labor market is imploding and people like you are going to have a very, very hard time finding even subsistence level employment with a bad work ethic, bad attitude, and inability to take advice that YOU asked for in the first place.

I’m actually unexpectedly fostering my sibling’s child on top of grad school. I’m working mindless jobs to make ends meet while I’m in school. Your judgement over the written text of a person you don’t even know, with zero context, says more about you than it ever will about me. I took this job because the hours worked and the money was decent. I know I wasn’t good at it, I said as much in my OP. I don’t have bad work ethic—I’m focused on school, and my nieces care while she’s in my charge. I don’t have a bad attitude, I’m just tired. And I hear the advice, but I’m wary. But I did come around.

[Anonymous]

It's two weeks. You can do just about anything for two weeks.

[Anonymous]

I don’t need the money, and I can start working with my connection immediately on Monday, if necessary.

Then what was stopping you from doing that last week? You have free will, go be free.

[Anonymous]

If you ever want to work for the government or any job that requires a security clearance, they will call every job you have ever had. Leaving a bad taste in an employer's mouth over two weeks is DUMB. Ride it out. Take the free money. They said you can look for a new job in that time if you want, so they're asking for like 1/2 effort at most.

[Anonymous]

Don’t burn the bridge, especially so early in your career. Sounds like you also need to look internally and do the work to understand why you allowed yourself to perform so poorly that you got fired. That’s unacceptable.