Would it upset you if your contractor used your (only) toilet to poop on a daily basis?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Men do this. As a female I completely don't understand. Men just don't care where they poop, if someone else can smell it, or anything else. I honestly don't even think I could go poop in someone else's toilet, but I can always hold it and it's nbd.

You only poop at home?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP, what if he needed to use the toilet while working on your project? How close is the nearest toilet he could use? How long would that take? How much would you complain about the time needed to leave your project and go use the nearest off-site toilet?

You cheaped out. Next time, pay for a portable toilet if this bothers you so much.

I don't mind if he uses the bathroom to pee. Most people don't poop several times a day though, right? Since he was only at my house about 6 hours (or less) each day, I would think he could go poop before coming to my house. And like I said in my OP, I can even understand the occasional emergency, but it was like it was his planned routine plan to poop at our house each day.

The nearest public/business bathrooms to our house are two gas stations, about a 5 minute drive away (they are across the street from each other.) About 5 minutes beyond that in various directions there is a Target, Walmart, and at least 5 large grocery stores. Plus more gas stations and fast food places.

We didn't "cheap out" not getting a porta-potty. It really never occurred to us that it would be necessary. I guess we just assumed that a grown adult could poop at his own house and then go 5-6 hours without pooping again on most days, barring illness/emergency.

I poop three times a day, sometimes more. Can I hold it? I guess. But why should I?

I really don't see the big deal here. It doesn't seem as if the contractor was impeding OP's access to the bathroom - she's just angry that he is using it for its intended purpose - the only reason it exists.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP, what if he needed to use the toilet while working on your project? How close is the nearest toilet he could use? How long would that take? How much would you complain about the time needed to leave your project and go use the nearest off-site toilet?

You cheaped out. Next time, pay for a portable toilet if this bothers you so much.

I don't mind if he uses the bathroom to pee. Most people don't poop several times a day though, right? Since he was only at my house about 6 hours (or less) each day, I would think he could go poop before coming to my house. And like I said in my OP, I can even understand the occasional emergency, but it was like it was his planned routine plan to poop at our house each day.

The nearest public/business bathrooms to our house are two gas stations, about a 5 minute drive away (they are across the street from each other.) About 5 minutes beyond that in various directions there is a Target, Walmart, and at least 5 large grocery stores. Plus more gas stations and fast food places.

We didn't "cheap out" not getting a porta-potty. It really never occurred to us that it would be necessary. I guess we just assumed that a grown adult could poop at his own house and then go 5-6 hours without pooping again on most days, barring illness/emergency.

So you’d be ok with him taking time away from your project to drive to a gas station or other business to use the toilet? Because, yes, people do need to use the toilet over five or six hours.

Now you know.

I already said I expected him to pee at our house.
Poop every 5-6 hours? So most people poop 4 or 5 times a day?

Men do. It's gross. DH is convinced if you have healthy bowels you go after every meal. I disagree...

Most docs would agree that you shouldn’t suppress it. Constipation.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP, what if he needed to use the toilet while working on your project? How close is the nearest toilet he could use? How long would that take? How much would you complain about the time needed to leave your project and go use the nearest off-site toilet?

You cheaped out. Next time, pay for a portable toilet if this bothers you so much.

I don't mind if he uses the bathroom to pee. Most people don't poop several times a day though, right? Since he was only at my house about 6 hours (or less) each day, I would think he could go poop before coming to my house. And like I said in my OP, I can even understand the occasional emergency, but it was like it was his planned routine plan to poop at our house each day.

The nearest public/business bathrooms to our house are two gas stations, about a 5 minute drive away (they are across the street from each other.) About 5 minutes beyond that in various directions there is a Target, Walmart, and at least 5 large grocery stores. Plus more gas stations and fast food places.

We didn't "cheap out" not getting a porta-potty. It really never occurred to us that it would be necessary. I guess we just assumed that a grown adult could poop at his own house and then go 5-6 hours without pooping again on most days, barring illness/emergency.

So you’d be ok with him taking time away from your project to drive to a gas station or other business to use the toilet? Because, yes, people do need to use the toilet over five or six hours.

Now you know.

I already said I expected him to pee at our house.
Poop every 5-6 hours? So most people poop 4 or 5 times a day?

Men do. It's gross. DH is convinced if you have healthy bowels you go after every meal. I disagree...

Is DH a literal dog?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP, what if he needed to use the toilet while working on your project? How close is the nearest toilet he could use? How long would that take? How much would you complain about the time needed to leave your project and go use the nearest off-site toilet?

You cheaped out. Next time, pay for a portable toilet if this bothers you so much.

I don't mind if he uses the bathroom to pee. Most people don't poop several times a day though, right? Since he was only at my house about 6 hours (or less) each day, I would think he could go poop before coming to my house. And like I said in my OP, I can even understand the occasional emergency, but it was like it was his planned routine plan to poop at our house each day.

The nearest public/business bathrooms to our house are two gas stations, about a 5 minute drive away (they are across the street from each other.) About 5 minutes beyond that in various directions there is a Target, Walmart, and at least 5 large grocery stores. Plus more gas stations and fast food places.

We didn't "cheap out" not getting a porta-potty. It really never occurred to us that it would be necessary. I guess we just assumed that a grown adult could poop at his own house and then go 5-6 hours without pooping again on most days, barring illness/emergency.

So you’d be ok with him taking time away from your project to drive to a gas station or other business to use the toilet? Because, yes, people do need to use the toilet over five or six hours.

Now you know.

They do need to use the toilet to *pee*. Do men have so little control over their bowels that they just poop nonstop?

Did OP say he was in the bathroom the entire time he was at her house so he could poop nonstop?

No, she didn’t.

[Anonymous]

If I invite someone into my home - whether personal or professional - they absolutely have the right to use the bathroom. "There used to be some basic contractor courtesy" just like there also used to be some basic human decency.

[Anonymous]

who are all these people playing away games?

i get that emergencies happen, but every day?

POOP AT HOME PEOPLE

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:who are all these people playing away games?

i get that emergencies happen, but every day?

POOP AT HOME PEOPLE

Do you poop at work?

[Anonymous]

In the future, get a port-a-potty for extended construction projects.

[Anonymous]

I don’t understand people who can plan their poops. For me, the urge comes on randomly once a day, not at a predictable time, and I have to go then. It’s not schedule-able. This is not normal?

[Anonymous]

No. I have made it clear that my toilets cannot be used. I keep my powder room and my basement toilet locked. I make it clear before work starts.

I also provide water, food, tea/coffee, snacks to people who work for me indoors.

For people who deliver mail, packages or mow my lawn during summer, I provide chilled water bottles, gatorade, snack packs, bug spray, sunscreen, baseball caps (promotional from my company) in my covered porch...for them to take.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Everyone. Everyone can arrange to poop at home. OK there are some exceptions, and I do feel bad for people with IBS but his schedule, the way you describe it, is unfathomable. He's just not professional. And these guys are not tidy. Team OP.

My next door neighbor came over for an evening party and CLOGGED OUR TOILET. FFS. That's when you step off home. It's a no brainer. Don't poop in someone's powder room at a party.

You're nuts. A toilet is there for a reason. Guests can use it to poop. Let the poor contractor poop-I'm sure he works harder than the OP, who has time to monitor the poor contractor's bowel movements.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In the future, get a port-a-potty for extended construction projects.

+1. And speak up if he does something you don't like. If he leaves the toilet seat up, tell him to please put it down. If he leaves debris in the toilet, tell him to please flush twice. I do not deny any person who is in my house the use of a bathroom but they need to be considerate.

[Anonymous]

I knew this post would bring out the crazies (starting with the OP).

I poop wherever I happen to be and always will. If that's at work (which it is most of the time) then so be it. If you don't like it, just wait to use your own bathroom at home. See, it goes both ways.

I'm a woman BTW.

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Anonymous wrote:Everyone. Everyone can arrange to poop at home. OK there are some exceptions, and I do feel bad for people with IBS but his schedule, the way you describe it, is unfathomable. He's just not professional. And these guys are not tidy. Team OP.

My next door neighbor came over for an evening party and CLOGGED OUR TOILET. FFS. That's when you step off home. It's a no brainer. Don't poop in someone's powder room at a party.

You're nuts. A toilet is there for a reason. Guests can use it to poop. Let the poor contractor poop-I'm sure he works harder than the OP, who has time to monitor the poor contractor's bowel movements.

Not only that, but she is still stewing about it God knows how much later. Total mental illness.